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how often do you laugh? once a day? 5 times a day? once every 3 days? so many times a day you can't keep count?

I want to hear what people have to say about this.
 

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Counting laughter is something of a hard thing to do. The mere existence of it being tallied may incline the mind to tamper with the result, even if only subconsciously.


I seek humor to balance out my interest in cynical morbidity.

Thus laughter is mostly concerned with any delvings into the circus, for some days no laughter is heard, while others the mind near drowns in mirth.

Now and again the absurdity of life strikes upon my mind, merely at whim and wholly unpredictable, and I marvel at the mere presence of all existence, dumbfounded.
Something like a sudden state of meditation, where the mind is blank and observation seeps in all at once.

Those brief moments fit my definition of happiness or what have you.
 

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I think i'm only happy in the sense of being able to listen, be kind with everyone, have respect for others, enjoy bird singings in mornings and such when i know there's a person who needs me.
When i'm out of that i only feel angry, anxious and being drilled in the head. but i cannot say i'm not happy in the sense of laughting. i can enjoy good jokes still, enjoy good food, etc.
also i become so much driven in my projects and i get really happy when i see they are becoming real. And when people like them.
When i'm happy for being with someone i cannot say i'm in love. I might be only obssesed. With time they notice. Everyone thinks of love as a handy relationship. It's easy and confortable so we are together. I don't see it like that. I see a compromise and a push for proving real things to the other one.
I cannot deal with seeing myself as a guy who holds back every shit he's thrown at. Cause as sad as it might sound many woman look only for that. A guy who no matter what she does keeps his mouth shout. And i cannot act like that.
But my posture isn't the best i guess.
Two things i have seen in people that like me:
- they are lost and feel forsaken by the world, it's painfully unfair to them.
- they love how i fuck.
This is a major problem since when time pass by interactions cannot only be about caring and playing the psycologyst. I'm not a good joker. I'm not filled with intelligent facts and stories to share. And my creativity is only shown in some works i've done. Not in daily life besides my way of behaving wich might also become a problem, since i give so little fucks for how people see me i can make people feel really unconfortable.
In resume i'm boring at first sight and with time even more. Because you won't ever care for a delusional guy inner world. It feels as if i was always isolated from everyone. But really. I don't mean like emo guys. Even with friends and people i'm usually totally happy of being surrounded by i feel disconected.
Am i happy?, i think so. But full of anger. And desire to prove there's a reason for why i was born.
Until i die. *Epic trumpets come in*

I mean how can anyone handle this walls of emotional outbursts? it's impossible. Its quite difficult for another person to take me to my other interests fields which are audiovisual ideas related stuff.
 

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Do you mean in the moment or trough my whole life? I´m certainly not healthy right now -I´ve been healthier- nor fisically neither mentally, not nice shit in my body or in my mind ....yet that´s ok. I´ve been happy, I´ll be happy later I´m sure. I´m not spefically happy right now.
 

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Mentally healthy?... Relates to happy i guess.

I smile with every conversation. The first is a gift and after that it is a wonderful transaction the leads to the enjoyment of both parties.

I love to laugh. When I am bored or feel a little silly I'll even try out several laughters and try to make myself sound as insane, silly, or just as weird as possible.

I usually embarrass my wife when I get into the moment of a movie or conversation and I belt out in laughter but it only makes me want to laugh more.

My dog makes me smile a lot. She can be really cute with her tail wagging, her excitement, and her expressions. Or when she pets her own face with her paw telling us to rub her face. I usually laugh at that.

Kids always make me smile. They are also really funny at times.

I would say that I do both all day unless I spend too much time alone which can happen since I work alone a lot.
 

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I'm happy approximately a quarter to one times a day.

Relatively, I'm healthy / (can't complain). Being unhappy is not neccessarily a sign of illness. Only thing I can think of is that I'll routinely suffer some minor bizarre notions in the morning hours, which I'm guessing is due to a drastic spike in dopamine activity.
 

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Happiness and melancholy are transient so I'm reluctant to label myself as happy or unhappy, i keep swinging back and forth between the two because my happiness is tightly related to something as ephemeral/turbulent as relationships and how loved and un-lonely i feel...sad but true
 

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I'm happy enough.
I am a lot more happy and healthy now than I've been in the past few years.

I do laugh a lot. I laugh at everything. On days when I'm more tired, I laugh a bit less.

I don't take 'important' things seriously, but I find happiness and joy in the little insignificant things in life.


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I'm listening to a random emo playlist on 8tracks (an online radio thing) and a cover of Bring Me to Life just came on
A cover that is entirely kazoo
It's terrible
I'm crying
 

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People have been trying to define happiness for centuries. I tend to think of it more as an overall condition rather than a moment of happy. I'd say I'm content with things in general these days and gently amused to the point of laughter several times a week, usually by something read in a book. Overwhelming hilarity and I are pretty much strangers.
As for healthy, it's a relative thing. At 66 I have more afflictions than I did at 16. On the other hand when I was 16 people who were 66 were pretty much always worn out, decrepit, wizened, bent over, inactive, lethargic, mentally kaput and smelled funny. I am those things only occasionally, and made it up both Arthur's Seat and Tintagel last week without any real difficulty, just a slower pace than many.
 

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Happiness and melancholy are transient so I'm reluctant to label myself as happy or unhappy, i keep swinging back and forth between the two because my happiness is tightly related to something as ephemeral/turbulent as relationships and how loved and un-lonely i feel...sad but true

It's weird that there are diminishing returns on happiness or even loathing if you feel like you are too loved and too un-lonely. Do we realize at a certain point that there's more to life than love/relationships?
 

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I'm gonna disappoint y'all with a healthy answer. I have a blast with the people I'm working with. On average way above 5 times a day.
 

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Pessimists are supposedly more happier overall than optmists. Probably due to less expectations and being more prepared for disappointments. Though I'd say not initially, it takes some time breaking into it. It's not all about hopelessness, it's more about seeing the reality of things, knowing what's possible or not and why.

Also: Loss Aversion.
 

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Pessimists are supposedly more happier overall than optmists. Probably due to less expectations and being more prepared for disappointments. Though I'd say not initially, it takes some time breaking into it. It's not all about hopelessness, it's more about seeing the reality of things, knowing what's possible or not and why.

Also: Loss Aversion.

I think you mean realists, not pessimists. The glass isn't half empty or half full it is both.
 

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I think you mean realists, not pessimists. The glass isn't half empty or half full it is both.

Yes, yes. That's what happens when one just spills the mind and doesn't look back.
 

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Like what? Perhaps things like prestige, intellectualism, development and preservation of the western world, maintainment of peace, etc?

Yeah those are important. I mean more like what causes a threshold to exist for happiness, why is it possible to be loved too much?




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I've been working on myself a lot. I wouldn't say happy because I'm not exactly where I'd like to be, but I'm getting closer. Besides personal afflictions I think the number #1 cause of unhappiness is a toxic social environment or relationship, avoid at all costs. Also good friends really does go a long way in terms of having a positive outlook.


If laughing is happiness prepare to be happified:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuLO1WAOikk
 

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It's weird that there are diminishing returns on happiness or even loathing if you feel like you are too loved and too un-lonely. Do we realize at a certain point that there's more to life than love/relationships?

i dont know and i dont care what other people think, i was just being honest that i cant cope with loneliness. when i fall into episodes of self depreciation and shame or when i feel worthless, i find that feeling loved and appreciated or needed alleviates much of the self doubt
 

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I can't even remember the last time I genuinely laughed. I don't even know if that has ever happened. I'm not healthy, and I'm fucking unhappy. Sorry, I'm not in the mood to give any answers with depth. But I think it's very obvious that happiness is subjective, and we can all try to achieve it with our own methods. I'm trying to create happiness for myself, and I'm trying to improve my health (mentally, emotionally, physically etc.) too.
 

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i dont know and i dont care what other people think, i was just being honest that i cant cope with loneliness. when i fall into episodes of self depreciation and shame or when i feel worthless, i find that feeling loved and appreciated or needed alleviates much of the self doubt

Who do you find satisfies that more, your SO or family / friends?
 

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Do you mean in the moment or trough my whole life? I´m certainly not healthy right now -I´ve been healthier- nor fisically neither mentally, not nice shit in my body or in my mind ....yet that´s ok. I´ve been happy, I´ll be happy later I´m sure. I´m not spefically happy right now.

I guess I meant recently. Like within the last 3-6 months or something. Like what is the general trend; getting happier or less happy.

I myself feel more happy now that I was feeling like a month ago. I have started going on long walks by myself and drinking more water and I have noticed my mood has upped a little the last few weeks. I still have days where I feel like shit, but I have had some really good high moments that before I just wasn't having, like elation. Before I would have OK days and then some really shitty days. Now with a few good days thrown in the mix it makes existence much better for me. I am still dealing with some matters of existentialism, but I think that is just a reality that I might not ever get over. I am constantly aware of myself and I ask myself a lot of questions on these walks I have. Its somewhat therapeutic though not necessary a 100% cure.
 

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Who do you find satisfies that more, your SO or family / friends?

They're even with me. Stability in romantic relationships is more difficult to maintain though, so i probably invest a little more time into them. but they're both equally important

Did you assume I was talking about one or the other and not both?
 

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I was wondering if you personally placed any limits on interactions with your friends/family (they can be too much sometimes), but then why you might not feel the same with your SO because of passion or desire or something.

I'm losing my train of thought though and I guess that's too personal so I'll just leave it at that.
 
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It depends on how you're using the word happiness.

States of joy are chemically driven by a varying array of neurotransmitters. Bliss on the other hand, is liberation from ancient cerebral functions. Blissful states render the greatest lucidity because perception is not obfuscated by the effects of biochemical interactions within the neocortex. But these chemical moods will not exclusively effect the dynamics of mentation, but will also effects states of the body.

Walking around with a smile upon your face 24/7 means you're perpetually in a state of chronic tension, as you are depleting internal reserves of energy to tense your facial muscles, e.g., zygomaticus, masseter, etc. I prefer to allow the muscles in my face to relax.

I'm not completely blissed out, and am obviously susceptible to varying degrees of emotional states as anybody else, but as I have become more aware of this process, I have grown ever more relaxed and immobile to emotional forces.
 

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Happiness is simply one emotion of many; all experience is good experience.

I am unhealthy. I laugh a lot.
 

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Laughter is a great thing. It frees and relaxes the body.

I love to laugh, and I love to make others laugh (well, certainly with - at is another story...)

As for health, I'll use the 5 factor model of physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual.

I am physically weak, and a smoker.
I am mentally ill to the point of frequent psychoses.
I bottle things up. I cry and lash out.
I hardly trust my own friends, and I'm trying to just accept that.
I don't know if I move through darkness or light.
 

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I laugh all the time in real life. Probably closer to 50 times a day than 5.
 

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Yeah well you can't have slaughter without laughter :)
 

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I often find time to do things between laughs. In other words, I laugh - a lot.

Does this mean I'm happy? No. But at least it keeps people off my back.

However, lately I have been legitimately happy for the first time in a long time.

:king-twitter:
 

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I often find time to do things between laughs. In other words, I laugh - a lot.

Does this mean I'm happy? No. But at least it keeps people off my back.

However, lately I have been legitimately happy for the first time in a long time.

:king-twitter:

Hehe :P

reminds of the time in school when someone heard some of my music and said to me "You should listen to happy music instead!", then they asked what I was listening to and I said "Mudvayne - Happy"

Lately I am going through a cycle of sad -> happy -> angry -> sad -> etc


Basically, I will be really down for whatever reason, but eventually the beauty of the happiness will shine through and I will have hope and start to feel good... but then I start feeling a bit too good, I start getting really excited, and that makes me irritable and then everything which hinders me starts to piss me off and I get angry at people, and then I feel ashamed of my anger and start to think the world is not the problem, I am, and I get sad and the cycle repeats.

\(o.O)/
 

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Hehe :P

reminds of the time in school when someone heard some of my music and said to me "You should listen to happy music instead!", then they asked what I was listening to and I said "Mudvayne - Happy"

Lately I am going through a cycle of sad -> happy -> angry -> sad -> etc


Basically, I will be really down for whatever reason, but eventually the beauty of the happiness will shine through and I will have hope and start to feel good... but then I start feeling a bit too good, I start getting really excited, and that makes me irritable and then everything which hinders me starts to piss me off and I get angry at people, and then I feel ashamed of my anger and start to think the world is not the problem, I am, and I get sad and the cycle repeats.

\(o.O)/

Welcome to the world of Schizoaffective.
 

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