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Any of you grown up with extroverted parents?

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Just as the title said.

As a person who have been living with two extroverted parents and one brother who keeps yapping their mouth for more than 30 minutes a day. My parents are worried about my social life when I told them it just the way I am and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it while I'm fine being introverted. They all think I'm crazy especially my mother who thinks introversion is a disease of some sort. Do anybody else have this problem especially those who live with a extroverted parent? Why it is they think this way? Explain in good details if you can.
 

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Yes, both of them, and yes.

They all think I'm crazy especially my mother who thinks introversion is a disease of some sort. Do anybody else have this problem especially those who live with a extroverted parent? Why it is they think this way? Explain in good details if you can.

I can only go off what I know about my parents. My father (ESTJ) can't look farther than what he thinks "normal" is, and since he's an extrovert and has established extroversion is "normal", he is worried about my "abnormalities" as he perceives them, and thinks I will be more productive and happy if I abandon my "abnormal" tendencies. Thus, his logic is that he is trying to help me in a way, but since his perception is limited and narrow in this regard, he can't see the other side of the coin, and only achieves the opposite.

Mother(ENFJ) is much more tolerable towards my introversion, although it does bother her to an extent. She just isn't as narrow-minded and pushy as my father and has almost always made an effort to understand me and my tendencies, even if she disagrees. On the down side, she can talk far too much for my liking and expects me to become engaged in conversation with her, getting offended after I ignore or side step her.
 

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Mother is an extrovert, father was an introvert.

See if you can find someone, a teacher, a counselor, anyone, to talk to your parents on your behalf. It's important that your introversion be respected.

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I have a moderately extroverted father (ENTP) and a very introverted mother (INTJ). It's a little odd though because my father has gone a little hermit-ish in his old age and my mother has gotten more social in hers. Everyone in the extended family (Uncles, Cousins, Grandparents Etc.) are extroverted and they think my parents and I are very weird. We just avoid all of them as a general rule. We are like a small oasis of introversion in a sea of extroversion at family reunions and holidays. :phear:

My Grandmother specifically thinks that spending time alone is tantamount to sin. She can not wrap her mind around the idea of simply sitting and thinking.

There are several books you might suggest your parents read. Introvert's Advantage is a good one. It clearly explains how introversion works (such as the need to recharge your batteries through alone time) and it explains how introversion isn't a bad thing. It forces the reader to question their preconceived notions involving introversion. At lot of people think that if you don't want to be social there is something wrong with you and this book works hard to dispel that notion.
 

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They think this way because, well, they're extroverts.

My guess is you're not only introverted but also unconfident, which i'm sure is common in introverts.

Practice communicating and socializing, work on your weaknesses. Just because you're introverted doesn't mean you're a lost hope. And if you don't give a rats ass, best of luck to ya
 

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The introverts in my family outnumber the extroverts. They're afraid of us. :borg:
 

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I have an ISFJ mom (Though I think she is actually an INFJ and her test came out wrong, and an ESFJ father. When I was younger, he didn't understand and thought I was strange for my introversion. In second grade I went to a class on making friends and got some social skills growing up with him and my brother (ENFP) luckily though, as I got older he began to understand that I am happy with a few friends and lots of alone time. My sister is an INTJ and he respects her introversion because of me. :)

As for other relatives, my grandma thinks its strange that I don't hang out with people much, but my drummer uncle (who I believe is an INTP) completely understands. My uncle who spent his life on drugs and is now a born again Christian. (The judgmental kind ewwie) is constantly trying to get me to go to church to "find God and friends" and when I say I have no interest in either, he freaks out. My grandpa thought I was a total freak. That's okay though, I know now that I'm not or maybe I am but I'm an awesome freak. :cool:
 

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Both of my parents were strong unstable extroverts.
 

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My mother is an extrovert(ESFP, she can't sit still 10 min without picking up the phone), and my father is an introvert(i don't know the exact type because i could never get him to take the test).
My father never pushed me to be more social, but since my mother doesn't trust or even believe in these tests she keeps making me go out with friends and go to parties (if I go to another party I think I might blow my brains out, or an least someone else's:winchester:). And since she's an extrovert, she couldn't possibly imagine how someone would WILLINGLY want to be alone.
 

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ISFJ mom (very very quiet), ESTP dad (he's a schmoozer).

Unfortunately, I found my father invasive and loud, and I think he never understood introverts very well... taking the need for space (due partly to his intrusive nature and partly because he's just always been kinda a jerk) as a personal rejection.

Extroverts aren't evil, though. I have a number of extroverted friends who make allowance and value their introverted acquaintances, and we make use of each other's strengths.

For the OP: Extroverts naturally operate in the external world and will at first view introversion behavior as withdrawal, unhappiness, fear, and rejection. They don't understand why you just don't engage; they see it as unhealthy. Once they meet enough healthy introverts, they typically start to ease up. Extroverts have typically more trouble "going within" and silencing themselves. They need things in the external reality to play off and inform them. Introspection is weird and frightening sometimes.

(We introverts on the other hand go inside easily, and have to fight to engage sometimes, esp if we are not sure what to do or what is going on.)
 

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Wow, this is exactly like my family, right down to the annoying brother.:phear:

My dad is by far the most extroverted person I've ever seen. And he's loud on top of it. Whenever he sees someone he knows at the store (which is every time) he has to stop and talk to them for at least half an hour (I timed him). When we're at home, he's always on the phone. He even keeps me up at night, shouting into his phone at one of his friends until about 11:30, or until his phone dies.

And of course, being so extroverted, they don't understand why I don't like talking to people for extended periods of time. So they drag me to one of their buddies' parties and tell me to socialize with my classmates (who are busy getting drunk and smoking cigars in front of the adults).
 

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Yes, both of them, and yes.



I can only go off what I know about my parents. My father (ESTJ) can't look farther than what he thinks "normal" is, and since he's an extrovert and has established extroversion is "normal", he is worried about my "abnormalities" as he perceives them, and thinks I will be more productive and happy if I abandon my "abnormal" tendencies. Thus, his logic is that he is trying to help me in a way, but since his perception is limited and narrow in this regard, he can't see the other side of the coin, and only achieves the opposite.

Mother(ENFJ) is much more tolerable towards my introversion, although it does bother her to an extent. She just isn't as narrow-minded and pushy as my father and has almost always made an effort to understand me and my tendencies, even if she disagrees. On the down side, she can talk far too much for my liking and expects me to become engaged in conversation with her, getting offended after I ignore or side step her.

Even though I hate to admit this as I'm a introverted teenager who likes to work with businesses and talk about business stuff, extroverted people have a higher chance of being productive into the work field due to the fact that a higher amount of job suits extroverted people just right although there is a lot of opportunities for introverted people that studies the working field and find the right job with the right person to work with. It's understandable that he haven't been exposed to the other side of the coin or at least lack knowledge in what the other side due to the lack of interest of studying it or the lack of being aware.

You can perfectly relate to me with no problem in the general sense of what's common between our two lives. My father is leaned through extroversion although he accepts the fact that I'm introverted and at first, it did bother him while my mother won't be able to understand at all since she's all of the outgoing kind and the kind who can't stand not talking all day long. I just do the same to my mother when she starts to get into my nerves especially in social situation. Sometimes, she irritate me to the point where I have to go against her acts just to get what I want and it works for me. Their social personality and our asocial personality just leads us to have different ideas on what is acceptable and what isn't which provokes stress in numerous amount of cases.

Mother is an extrovert, father was an introvert.

See if you can find someone, a teacher, a counselor, anyone, to talk to your parents on your behalf. It's important that your introversion be respected.

Dave

Help isn't going to happen anytime soon since most of them don't understand the introversion and my school is dominated by people who love talking to other people to the point where you don't see introversion. All I can do is show that I don't give a care to talk to other and just move on.


. We just avoid all of them as a general rule. We are like a small oasis of introversion in a sea of extroversion at family reunions and holidays.

My Grandmother specifically thinks that spending time alone is tantamount to sin. She can not wrap her mind around the idea of simply sitting and thinking.

There are several books you might suggest your parents read. Introvert's Advantage is a good one. It clearly explains how introversion works (such as the need to recharge your batteries through alone time) and it explains how introversion isn't a bad thing. It forces the reader to question their preconceived notions involving introversion. At lot of people think that if you don't want to be social there is something wrong with you and this book works hard to dispel that notion.

Sounds like you are part of the small oasis. I see what you're comparing yourself to.

Where can I begin with if I had an argument with her (I'm sure you used to have some)? Spending time with no human company is a sin? The fact that introversion isn't mentioned in the bible? The fact there is no evidence that introversion is a sin because of it?

I'm going to try to suggest my parents to read that since they'll try to find out, but since they're the kind that goes into ignorance and denial when other experience is the exact opposite of their experience and they don't see the fact that the eyes isn't everything. Hopefully maybe they'll open up their mind.

They think this way because, well, they're extroverts.

My guess is you're not only introverted but also unconfident, which i'm sure is common in introverts.

Practice communicating and socializing, work on your weaknesses. Just because you're introverted doesn't mean you're a lost hope. And if you don't give a rats ass, best of luck to ya

I'm not the exact opposite of confident. But I definitely hardly give a care for socialization although I'm pressured to do so.

Extroverts aren't evil, though. I have a number of extroverted friends who make allowance and value their introverted acquaintances, and we make use of each other's strengths.

For the OP: Extroverts naturally operate in the external world and will at first view introversion behavior as withdrawal, unhappiness, fear, and rejection. They don't understand why you just don't engage; they see it as unhealthy. Once they meet enough healthy introverts, they typically start to ease up. Extroverts have typically more trouble "going within" and silencing themselves. They need things in the external reality to play off and inform them. Introspection is weird and frightening sometimes.

(We introverts on the other hand go inside easily, and have to fight to engage sometimes, esp if we are not sure what to do or what is going on.)

Ahh! Those evil extroverted bastards are running over my life. Kidding. I also have a bit of friends that value the introverted, but my only problem is that they don't make uses of it and they put into conversation I didn't want to go through.

Of course I acknowledge the fact that extroverted people works that way. It's how their brain works and I used to be one of them when I was a lot younger. For some reason, it's easier for them to understand by having other people rather than having themselves to be trying to study the other views.
 

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Well, if all of you have read my previous posts, you will know that I hate all SJ authority with a passion. Like many others who have replied in this thread, my mom and dad thought that there was something wrong with me. My mom threatened to send me to a psychiatrist and my dad supported it.
I grew up with Christian values fed to me, it was not only until recently that I broke away from such freedom-restricting values. Before I researched thoroughly into the Bible and Christianity, I truly believed that Christianity was the one true religion. Now, after seeing the flaws of Christianity, I have left it.
I have kept my mouth shut after this decision, because I know my mom will kick me out if she knows. I remember asking one time if the Bible wasn't real, and she cried, screamed at me and barraged me with un-restrained blows. Obviously, I was a little upset.
She wants me to repay her for all the money she spent on supporting to my age, and has stated specifically that she brought me up for her. She might be lying, but she might also be telling me the truth. Either way, I don't see her really as my mom anymore, but more as a landlady who will kick me out if I don't do exactly what she says (and she threatens to kick me out every ten minutes).
Like my mom, my dad doesn't like that I have differing views of politics, religion and sin than they do. They hate homosexuals. I don't. And they don't like me for not disliking homo-sexuals. Basically, they don't like what doesn't fit their view of normal.
They force me to attend social events that drain me so bad I fall asleep the moment I get home. They force me to agree on their view-points of the world and not disagree. They force on me what they think is best for me.
Now that I'm older though, I'm standing up for myself more and more. They don't hit me as much as they used to or force their authority and demand respect because of their authority as much as they used to (although they still do it daily) but they still have authority over me.

Anyway, that's my life story.
 

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I think my parents are both definately E's maybe my father is ENxP and my mother is more ESFJ.
I couldn't really tell. I've never really gotten into "judging" other peoples personality types. I think it's quite ignorant to do so.
 
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My mom somehow tested as an INFJ, but everything about her behavior makes me certain that she is an E. She is very social (big into being an active participant in clubs, and having parties, her philosophy is any excuse is a good excuse for a party). She tends to be very concerned with image, and absolutely LOVES to talk A LOT. She has never understood my need for space, and long hours spent alone getting into my various hobbies, in fact at times this behavior has really gotten on her nerves (and of course when this happened the feelings were mutual).

My Dad is an I and a T, but I'm not sure whether he is J or P, or S or N, I tend to have a harder time figuring out those functions in people.
 

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^ I used to believe my mother was an INFJ, but I've come to think she's actually an ENFJ. Though both profiles match her fairly well, and she did test as an INFJ, I'm pretty sure she gets more out of Fe than Ni.

Being mature and whatnot means all of her functions are very well developped, though, so we're capable of having great conversations. She knows a ton about history and literature.
 

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I have an ESFJ mother. She's craaazy. She's nuts. Absolutely nuts. INsane. Crazy. Blah. If she feels like you're challenging her, she'll confront you. Doesn't matter who you are - Err, I lied. If you're a doctor or a lawyer or anyone educated, she'll respect you and worship you and if I counter anything these reputable people have told her, she'll just say "But he's a doctor, he's right". BLAH. IRRATIONAL. LOGIC FAILURE. WTF?

Funny. One time we were in the car. She's telling me about this new dress she wants to get etc. So she drives really slowly...Some random woman drives up to her, honks and sticks the finger at her. She's clueless...and asks me "What does that mean". I say "Fuck you". She goes craaazy, stalks the person, honks 100 times and says "Fuck you, fuck you bitch". I'm like "Calm down, what's the point?". Lmao. She talks about this incident for the next 20 mins.

Well. I don't hate my mother. She's just clueless, lost, irrational and (can be) very, very stupid sometimes. She also nags me for not having many friends or being open and expressing myself. She claims "it ain't normal".

Anyways, my 2 cents. It's amusing and I laugh inside when I see my mother do crazy things I cannot comprehend. It makes no sense! :evil:
 

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I have an ESFJ mother. She's craaazy. She's nuts. Absolutely nuts. INsane. Crazy. Blah. If she feels like you're challenging her, she'll confront you. Doesn't matter who you are - Err, I lied. If you're a doctor or a lawyer or anyone educated, she'll respect you and worship you and if I counter anything these reputable people have told her, she'll just say "But he's a doctor, he's right". BLAH. IRRATIONAL. LOGIC FAILURE. WTF?

Funny. One time we were in the car. She's telling me about this new dress she wants to get etc. So she drives really slowly...Some random woman drives up to her, honks and sticks the finger at her. She's clueless...and asks me "What does that mean". I say "Fuck you". She goes craaazy, stalks the person, honks 100 times and says "Fuck you, fuck you bitch". I'm like "Calm down, what's the point?". Lmao. She talks about this incident for the next 20 mins.

Well. I don't hate my mother. She's just clueless, lost, irrational and (can be) very, very stupid sometimes. She also nags me for not having many friends or being open and expressing myself. She claims "it ain't normal".

Anyways, my 2 cents. It's amusing and I laugh inside when I see my mother do crazy things I cannot comprehend. It makes no sense! :evil:

So true...SO TRUE.

Now to get back to finding an anime girl that attracts me.
 

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On a similar vein... I am staying with my relatives for a short while at the moment, and we get along fine. But there is a new person who visits every once in a while (typed him as esfp) and just... wow.
 

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Just as the title said.

As a person who have been living with two extroverted parents and one brother who keeps yapping their mouth for more than 30 minutes a day. My parents are worried about my social life when I told them it just the way I am and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it while I'm fine being introverted. They all think I'm crazy especially my mother who thinks introversion is a disease of some sort. Do anybody else have this problem especially those who live with a extroverted parent? Why it is they think this way? Explain in good details if you can.

I am new to this website, but I would like to discuss my experiences as an INTP growing up with my parents in the 70s and 80s.

I grew up with my mother who may be the complete opposite of myself. She is an ESFJ. In '81, she went to this class where they had a similar test. She also had me take this test and I scored as an INTP at 16 years old. Back then, it was just a paper test. Fast-forward to '99 where I got curious and took the online test again and scored the same way. We used to head-butt a lot, but I was younger then and didn't know better and later learned to keep her at a distance without losing my mind over such illogical stuff coming from her. She was too emotional for me while I grew up. She often accused me of wanting to be alone a lot because it was, like, a bad thing.

As for my dad, I always have gotten along well with him. Although he can be extroverted only with the people he likes, I guess, because my mom had complained about his disliking people a lot, I am guessing he is an ISTP based on what I observed him.

My husband of 11 years is an ENFP. My daughter, who is 6 years old, is different from me: she is extroverted and feeling. Not sure yet on the other two letters because she is still young, but it's interesting that, while I was her primary caregiver for the first 4 years of her life, she is very extroverted. She went to playgrounds a lot and went to activities provided by my DH's church and has been social at her school for the last 2 years. Not definitely the introverted type. It's not a bad thing to me because I think it's much easier to be extroverted in this society while I am frustrated with many illogical aspects of it.

The only difference is that I am understanding, can analyze where she needs to get ahead, and won't put her down unlike my 73-year-old mother who still can't understand me to this day and doesn't like who I am. I know she loves me, but I also know that she is disappointed in me because I will never be like her. Her disappointment was so telling while I was growing up. That won't happen to my DD. I understand that she is a different person and I love her a lot. I only wish her the best.

To be clear, this is not to put any general types down. It's just how I grew up. I know that some major factors, not the personality type alone, play into how parents try to raise/don't understand their children. That's all.
 

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mother: housewife (but hates being alone, acquaints herself with strangers)
brother: i don't know ( yaps all day, even calls me up from overseas. apparently made lots of friends that he doesn't remember or they remember him

been considered/mocked by elderly relatives as 'dumb' and 'mute'.
often i have grown angry and comfortable when gaining too much attention from others.

yea you aren't alone, in fact i believe introversion is the result of being surrounded by an extroverted family.
 

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yea you aren't alone, in fact i believe introversion is the result of being surrounded by an extroverted family.

Interesting, why do you believe that?
 

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my parents can strangely seem like extroverts around other people, but once they get home they fortunately never talk to me. actually, the only time my dad ever really interacts with me is in front of people. his good daddy facade.

they are very, very heavily S, though.
 

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Interesting, why do you believe that?

There is something I call "Overwhelming Effect". If I'm surrounded by introverts, I would be the extrovert. If by Extroverts, I would be the introvert. Why? Because extroversion overwhelms and introversion energizes me. It's that "I fill the empty space". If nobody seats in the driving seat, I seat there. If that makes any sense...
 

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I have a ENFJ(?) mother, a INTJ father, an ESFJ brother, and another INTJ brother.
 

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My parents are so closed-minded it pains me. MY dad-ESFJ and mom-ISFJ but has extroverted qualities, frustrate me to know end. Today we got into a big argument because I told my dad that he gets mad over stupid stuff. Pretty soon it leads to me never cleaning my room. I told them I don't clean it because I'm oblivious to my senses and I rarely notice a dirty room (it's never THAT dirty). My extroverted family including my brother said I was stupid and had a bum mentality. I try to explain to them that it's normal but "normal" only exists in their world. I hate the fact that introverts can understand extroverts but not the other way around. It causes so much confusion and misunderstanding that I am dying in stress and frustration. My parents have the tendency to always "misdiagnose" the problem. And of course the say "Since we're the parents we're always right" and anyone who says otherwise is a know it all. My parents cannot even conceive the thought that a child can learn something on his own without it being "taught" to him. I am smarter than them both but I will always be perceived as the know it all kid who butts into everyone's conversation.
 

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Oh man, this brings back awful memories from childhood. haha. My father is the ultimate type-A personality extrovert. He used to introduce me to people with: "My son's shy." Needless to say, I was humiliated on a daily basis. It gets better.though My father learned to understand me as I got older even though I still cannot rationalize his behavior or understand his personality. As you become more sure of yourself and carry an heir of confidence as a result, your parents should come to respect you. I know listening to an authority figure that tells you to do things which you can find no reason for is frustrating. And I can give you no advice on how to cope except to not let them convince you that something is wrong with you. Hang in there! I don't know how old you are but count the days when you get the hell out of the house and go to college.
 

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Not only my parents. But my brother and almost all of my friends. They all judge 'success' and 'fulfillment' on how many friends you have. How well you know them. How often you hang out. My dad is absolutely the WORST. He has no concept of being alone, or privacy or anything of that nature. Everyone else assumes that I'm some kind of loser for not going out with people every night, when I CHOOSE to avoid them. I'm so fucking sick of everyone who judges people based off of their sociableness. Fuck that and fuck them.
 

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I have got such an extroverted father, he is the don, seriously he walks with his hands swinging side by side and leans back a bit. Every year we have like a party for the community, not at our house, in a hall and he drinks like six to seven beers, gets kinda drunk (says he can control himself), and talks and laughs with anyone he can find, but ofcoarse he knows most of the people that go to the party. He can do this for hours and hours while I tire out in like an hour of scocial interaction with people I dont know.

Its quite weird cause me and my eldest brother aren't extroverted, in fact my brother does his best to avoide all sorts of scocial interactions, and my dad thinks that our shyness or lack of confidence is very weird.
 

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Oh, man, reading this thread makes me so grateful that I was raised by a pair of introverts happy to leave me to my inner world. Though my mum did push me to be more confident and sociable, mostly because she suffered from shyness much of her life, and on getting over it found that she was so much better off. While I often resented that, it has helped me understand myself better. Doesn't make socialising any easier or any less tiring, but I don't hate parties, and can fake extroversion for a decent length of time.
 

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Me. Parents are divorced (have been for 10-is years) but they share custody of us ( I have a brother). Dad is an ExTP, always pushing me to be more social, to show my inner side more. Otherwise, he's pretty cool. Mom is an xSFJ, we just don't get along very well, she can't stand my "cynicism" (realism), wants me to be less mean ( I call it descriptive), she can't stand being corrected (like most people), does not like it when I point out the fallacies behind dressing a certain way or wearing a certain accessory, always says I need to be more social (last time I tell my parents I have no friends)......... Luckily my parents are rather tolerant, in general(aside from people who are kinda asocial, they both have problems with that). Both of them are always saying I need to talk louder (can't, introverted with asthma)
 

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I have an ENxJ dad. So awful in so many ways. Upset that I stay home during my weekends instead of hanging with my friends especially since he's extremely extroverted and knows someone even if we are in a different state. Luckily my ISFP mom backs me up on staying home. I could rant for pages about this, but I'll just leave it like this.
 

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Dave

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ENTJ dad
ESFJ mom


It's been rough sometimes.
 

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Broken record.

My mother is something of an extroverted misanthropist and thinks I and her family are too good to hang out with the 'riff-raff, i.e. everyone else. Honestly, I think she's the extrovert that no one in high school liked so she excluded herself while muttering about how one day she will marry a rich man and everyone will bow down to her shoes. So, I'm lucky in that she doesn't bemoan on how I should go out with others.

Although both of my parents are introverted in that respect, I think they weren't 'supposed' to be like that; as in, the treatment of others turned them this way. They are probably very extroverted but because they are generally unlikeable, they exclude themselves from others under the guise of egoism when really they have inferiority issues up the ass. If they did not, they would not make such a big deal out of anyone staying in their room (“YOU'RE BLOCKING THE FAMILY OUT”), anyone not eating with the family (“SOME PEOPLE DON'T EVEN HAVE FAMILIES TO EAT WITH”) and anyone questioning them(“I R ADULT HEAR ME SPEW”). My mother is the only one who actually complains about my introversion because it contrasts so sharply on how loud she is.

To be plain, I would not waste my time on them I f they were not related/did not live in the same household.

My brother is similar to my parents and as am I, however, because we were not allowed to associate with other children after a certain age, we actually like people, though we simutaneously sort of hate them all. Good for conversation, bad for sanity.
 

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Fathers - ESTP
Mothers - ISFJ

Both, very annoying and waste of life.
 

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I think my mom is ENFJ (possibly INFJ), and my father is INTJ, so one is more extroverted than the other, by a longshot.
 

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My mum is, well, both introverted and extroverted. She'll talk to just about anyone who will listen. She adores having company. But she rarely likes to go anywhere without family or friends that she already knows.

However, my mother was not that worried about if I didn't talk to anyone, which I didn't do in school until I was at least 11, as long as I was doing well in school, which I was.
 

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My mom is ESFJ, dad is IxTx? I was definitely regarded as the weird kid and my extroverted mom was always busy trying to find some explanation or cure for my INTP ways. She meant well but it was incredibly annoying from time to time.
 
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