ZenRaiden
One atom of me
So I basically ended up observing my daily routine and activity, and brain activity as it were, and I realized that the brain has a default setting, that goes from one dopamine activity to another dopamine activity. But due to ADHD and mild but long depression inability to focus long enough I never developed the capacity to stick with activities that require prolonged effort but yield no immediate reward.
So basically lets say I want to learn a language. I immediately know that is good activity that I have time for, but every time I engage in it I get no reward. The reward will come, maybe month later at best few weeks later, at worst months later depending how much learning and progress will seem rewarding to me.
SO ultimately I realized that all activity that lead to progress and the most rewarding activities in future are least rewarding in the moment. Lets say I pick up a math book, a hard subject that can maybe year from now land me a better job.
Obviously nothing about math is rewarding in and of it self. Its tedious, boring, repetitive and often times requires going through problem solving techniques where you feel monumentally retarded. Whats more even when you eventually do get something right it feels like you just wasted 2 days solving the most trivial thing.
On top of it when you run dry as I call it, when you feel little emotions in it and passion is nonexistent and the drive to do the thing is merely an idea how great it sounds, it pretty much means you get no rewarding feeling for very long time and instead of your brain growing and feeling stronger through effort, you actually start feeling depressed and rather depleted and hazy and foggy at simply even worse of than not doing the activity it self.
Then I saw a coaching video on YouTube and the coach did something remarkably simply. He zeroed in on what makes people happy in the moment while doing the activity. He focused the fact how much we focus on the negative side of things unconsciously without really giving any attention to the positive side of things. It made me realize that the real difference between lets say a person with PhD, or someone who achieved some mastery of a subject on meaningful level is simply their ability to hack their brain and feel instant reward. Invariably if you feel no reward you simply cannot progress. I mean you can, but the moment the first chance you get to drop the activity you will drop it and avoid it until further situation where you have to do it again. This made me factually realize one thing. IF you get the idea that this crappy activity is actually fun to do now and you get a dopamine hit right now you can pretty much get addicted to ding impossible.
So basically lets say I want to learn a language. I immediately know that is good activity that I have time for, but every time I engage in it I get no reward. The reward will come, maybe month later at best few weeks later, at worst months later depending how much learning and progress will seem rewarding to me.
SO ultimately I realized that all activity that lead to progress and the most rewarding activities in future are least rewarding in the moment. Lets say I pick up a math book, a hard subject that can maybe year from now land me a better job.
Obviously nothing about math is rewarding in and of it self. Its tedious, boring, repetitive and often times requires going through problem solving techniques where you feel monumentally retarded. Whats more even when you eventually do get something right it feels like you just wasted 2 days solving the most trivial thing.
On top of it when you run dry as I call it, when you feel little emotions in it and passion is nonexistent and the drive to do the thing is merely an idea how great it sounds, it pretty much means you get no rewarding feeling for very long time and instead of your brain growing and feeling stronger through effort, you actually start feeling depressed and rather depleted and hazy and foggy at simply even worse of than not doing the activity it self.
Then I saw a coaching video on YouTube and the coach did something remarkably simply. He zeroed in on what makes people happy in the moment while doing the activity. He focused the fact how much we focus on the negative side of things unconsciously without really giving any attention to the positive side of things. It made me realize that the real difference between lets say a person with PhD, or someone who achieved some mastery of a subject on meaningful level is simply their ability to hack their brain and feel instant reward. Invariably if you feel no reward you simply cannot progress. I mean you can, but the moment the first chance you get to drop the activity you will drop it and avoid it until further situation where you have to do it again. This made me factually realize one thing. IF you get the idea that this crappy activity is actually fun to do now and you get a dopamine hit right now you can pretty much get addicted to ding impossible.