I pose a simple question.

[QuickTwist]

I find myself wanting to leave a conversation much sooner than the other party. At what point is it appropriate to leave the conversation? I typically just walk away when there is a lull in the conversation, but it always feel like I am being rude.

 

[Nofriends]

It is not, perhaps try farting as you leave, that way you can be superseded.
Lol jk
Instead, just say "it was nice talking to you" or "see you later" or "I have to go now, sorry"

 

[QuickTwist]

It is not, perhaps try farting as you leave, that way you can be superseded.
Lol jk
Instead, just say "it was nice talking to you" or "see you later" or "I have to go now, sorry"

That's all well and good, but I don't want to have to say that to my family members every time I talk to them.. Also I would just feel awkward saying that to people, don't know why, but I would.

 

[Nofriends]

That's all well and good, but I don't want to have to say that to my family members every time I talk to them.. Also I would just feel awkward saying that to people, don't know why, but I would.

If it is family members just say "I have to go and check on something"

 

[Nebulous]

Avoid social interaction in the first place


(don't listen to me; that's terrible advice)

 

[Happy]

It's easy. You just have to say something polite like "Well, it was good talking to you, I'm off, bye." or however you want to say it.

Whatever it is, don't make excuses, don't apologise, just reinforce that you enjoyed the conversation and you're leaving. Nobody is left with any feeling of awkwardness.

I used to struggle with this too. Now I don't.

 

[EditorOne]

"It was good talking to you, I need to make the rounds" is understood by the extroverted sensing world to be "normal" if it is a social function. Like an old-fashioned line dance, the purpose of the get together is to maximize contact with others.

If it is family or a situation where schmoozing is not the purpose, try forcing yourself to ask questions rather than make comments. Be a little careful, as INTPs can lack emotional perspective and ask the damnedest questions, ones others would consider too blunt, too personal, or you didn't connect all the dots in your head that lead to the question, making the other person think you're uttering a nonsequitor. But asking questions lets you lead the conversation where you find it to be of the most potential, thus staving off the feeling of "I've got to get out of here."

Life is not easy for us. I suggest observing someone who can flit from conversation to conversation like a bee among flowers, and emulate their techniques.

None of it will feel comfortable. Embrace the awkward.

 

[The Gopher]

You could embrace the awkward gracefully or you could do it with style. WAIT I FORGOT TO TURN OFF THE BOMB!!!! *Scatters*

 

[QuickTwist]

Thanks to all. That has helped clear things up somewhat.

 

[JimJambones]

Usually I end up staring off into space anyways. That's always a good way to leave a conversation without ever fully leaving.

 

[QuickTwist]

Usually I end up staring off into space anyways. That's always a good way to leave a conversation without ever fully leaving.

Sometimes what I do is just say "yeah.." (often more times than once after they continue talking and in a row, so they will say "I did _____ today" "yeah.." "did you do _____ yesterday?" "yeah..") in a down tone so as to give off the impression that I am uninterested. That usually is the right sign to people close to me that I no longer want to talk. LOL, funny typing it in written form.

 

[Hadoblado]

"Is that man eating his pants?!"

*disappears out the window*

 

[QuickTwist]

"Is that man eating his pants?!"

*disappears out the window*

Would love to see a thread devoted to ways to escape a conversation actually.

 

[QuickTwist]

"It was good talking to you, I need to make the rounds" is understood by the extroverted sensing world to be "normal" if it is a social function. Like an old-fashioned line dance, the purpose of the get together is to maximize contact with others.

If it is family or a situation where schmoozing is not the purpose, try forcing yourself to ask questions rather than make comments. Be a little careful, as INTPs can lack emotional perspective and ask the damnedest questions, ones others would consider too blunt, too personal, or you didn't connect all the dots in your head that lead to the question, making the other person think you're uttering a nonsequitor. But asking questions lets you lead the conversation where you find it to be of the most potential, thus staving off the feeling of "I've got to get out of here."

Life is not easy for us. I suggest observing someone who can flit from conversation to conversation like a bee among flowers, and emulate their techniques.

None of it will feel comfortable. Embrace the awkward.

Funny, I just noticed the title of the thread... through different eyes... LOL