briangriffin32
Briangriffin32
Hi all,
There's a gay guy at my track club that I had previously typed as ESFP, but after observing him more seems a 100% pure ESTP.
I was attracted to him, but I always had a hard time projecting signals as he was often surrounded by an entourage of "fans" (he's the big track club star), and plus I'm a really bad flirt to begin with.
He doesn't seem to be much of a flirt either, but sometimes when we're alone he gets REALLY AGGRESSIVE. I'll just ask him for random running advice and he'll start talking a mile a minute, in a very polite but commanding tone....all the while giving me a very intense stare. If I look away (I find it hard to maintain eye contact), he'll move until our eyes meet.
After a while I started doing workouts on my own, and saw less of the group. A few times when we did meet up I felt really shy and didn't talk to him as much. When I met up with him at a track meet, he seemed rather distant and tired. I decided to write an e-mail that was a rather modest/not-too emotional apology for my aloofness, and told him that I liked him...
Next time we met in person, he told me he got the e-mail, but didn't have time to consider it because he had been so busy training/+ balancing 3 jobs.
After that, things went back to normal. I mean if there was other people around, he wasn't that focused on me, but he was still very intense if we were alone. Sometimes he'd seem kind of nervous and fidgety, however. I never brought up the e-mail again.
A couple months later, I sent another e-mail, congratulating him about some race he was running in France. I mentioned I might be moving on to a different track club, simply because I was more of a novice and couldn't find anyone at the club to run with.
The day after he flew home from France, he surprised me by showing up at some race I was doing, trying to convince me not to quit the club. He got very physically close and I kept looking away. He kept flattering me on how fit I was becoming, and I felt a little embarrased like I didn't deserve it.
Whenever I gave him an objection about why I was leaving the club, he'd get super fidgety and a little annoyed. His behaviour seemed really intense, but then when someone from the club met him, he'd leave me alone and start chatting with them. All the while looking back at me every so often to make sure I didn't leave.
Are ESTP's normally hot/cold like this when they're attracted to someone? I mean I get the idea that he's not looking at me as relationship material. At the same time he still seems super possessive sometimes, even though he'll try to seem all cool when someone else approaches him.
As an ESTP with a lot of "status" at the club, it seems like he's taking extra precautions not to lose it with someone who may be a lot shyer and less popular.
My two cents...any others?
There's a gay guy at my track club that I had previously typed as ESFP, but after observing him more seems a 100% pure ESTP.
I was attracted to him, but I always had a hard time projecting signals as he was often surrounded by an entourage of "fans" (he's the big track club star), and plus I'm a really bad flirt to begin with.
He doesn't seem to be much of a flirt either, but sometimes when we're alone he gets REALLY AGGRESSIVE. I'll just ask him for random running advice and he'll start talking a mile a minute, in a very polite but commanding tone....all the while giving me a very intense stare. If I look away (I find it hard to maintain eye contact), he'll move until our eyes meet.
After a while I started doing workouts on my own, and saw less of the group. A few times when we did meet up I felt really shy and didn't talk to him as much. When I met up with him at a track meet, he seemed rather distant and tired. I decided to write an e-mail that was a rather modest/not-too emotional apology for my aloofness, and told him that I liked him...
Next time we met in person, he told me he got the e-mail, but didn't have time to consider it because he had been so busy training/+ balancing 3 jobs.
After that, things went back to normal. I mean if there was other people around, he wasn't that focused on me, but he was still very intense if we were alone. Sometimes he'd seem kind of nervous and fidgety, however. I never brought up the e-mail again.
A couple months later, I sent another e-mail, congratulating him about some race he was running in France. I mentioned I might be moving on to a different track club, simply because I was more of a novice and couldn't find anyone at the club to run with.
The day after he flew home from France, he surprised me by showing up at some race I was doing, trying to convince me not to quit the club. He got very physically close and I kept looking away. He kept flattering me on how fit I was becoming, and I felt a little embarrased like I didn't deserve it.
Whenever I gave him an objection about why I was leaving the club, he'd get super fidgety and a little annoyed. His behaviour seemed really intense, but then when someone from the club met him, he'd leave me alone and start chatting with them. All the while looking back at me every so often to make sure I didn't leave.
Are ESTP's normally hot/cold like this when they're attracted to someone? I mean I get the idea that he's not looking at me as relationship material. At the same time he still seems super possessive sometimes, even though he'll try to seem all cool when someone else approaches him.
As an ESTP with a lot of "status" at the club, it seems like he's taking extra precautions not to lose it with someone who may be a lot shyer and less popular.
My two cents...any others?
