INTPs and Motivation

[McBean]

How do you combat your lack of motivation? Im to the point in my college career where I can no longer look over things for thirty minutes and ace the test. Also, I tend to think about anything and everything besides what my teacher is talking about.

I've read numerous books an articles about prioritizing, goal setting, and time management but rarely apply what I read.

I also will set goals and go a good ways towards achieving them but seem to always lose interest in the goal before completion.

I've long wanted to be a football coach and still do but my lack of persistence and motivation bothers me as these are things I will need to harp on to future players.

I feel I have innovative ideas on how to run a football team but my poor communication skills and the drain I get feel from being in such a dynamic environment worries me at times too.

I know there are ways to improve my communication skills but the process of improving them almost seems to be so dreadful I avoid it.

I apologize for the post being all over the place. Just wondering how some you manage these types of problems or if you do at all

 

[pariahmariah]

These are strategies that have been working for me. Feel free to use it or not

As far as communication goes, most of what you need to do is listen intently to what the other person is saying and then either provide your opinion or actual facts about the topic. Sometimes you might want to provide both. If there comes a time you need to provide constructive criticism, try delivering it sandwiched between compliments. I think I've heard it referred to as the "kiss kick kiss" method.

As far as motivation goes, you pointed out that you already have some innovative ideas you would like to utilize. This suggests to me that there is something about the profession that holds your interest. Do you think you might be afraid of success because you think you'll lose your freedom? When you visualize yourself stepping forward and taking action, what is it that freaks you out. These are the things that you're going to have to come to terms with in your mind.

Personal example: I used to think that if I started my own business, I would endanger the things that mean a lot to me. Time with my family. Freedom to persue random interests. Having enough money to support myself. I started to self sabotage. Then I made a deal with myself. If I start my business (something I want) and I find that I can't make time for my family, can't make enough money, or have to drop my studies (something I need), then I would just stop dead in my tracks. No more business.

After making this promise to myself, its not such a big deal to take action. I know that if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, I'm not tied to it in any way. I can let it go without feeling bad.

 

[Duxwing]

How do you combat your lack of motivation? Im to the point in my college career where I can no longer look over things for thirty minutes and ace the test. Also, I tend to think about anything and everything besides what my teacher is talking about.

I've read numerous books an articles about prioritizing, goal setting, and time management but rarely apply what I read.

I also will set goals and go a good ways towards achieving them but seem to always lose interest in the goal before completion.

I've long wanted to be a football coach and still do but my lack of persistence and motivation bothers me as these are things I will need to harp on to future players.

I feel I have innovative ideas on how to run a football team but my poor communication skills and the drain I get feel from being in such a dynamic environment worries me at times too.

I know there are ways to improve my communication skills but the process of improving them almost seems to be so dreadful I avoid it.

I apologize for the post being all over the place. Just wondering how some you manage these types of problems or if you do at all

That's your inferior Fe talking: try finding something that will allow you to help others via your Ti and Ne.

-Duxwing

 

[McBean]

These are strategies that have been working for me. Feel free to use it or not

As far as communication goes, most of what you need to do is listen intently to what the other person is saying and then either provide your opinion or actual facts about the topic. Sometimes you might want to provide both. If there comes a time you need to provide constructive criticism, try delivering it sandwiched between compliments. I think I've heard it referred to as the "kiss kick kiss" method.

As far as motivation goes, you pointed out that you already have some innovative ideas you would like to utilize. This suggests to me that there is something about the profession that holds your interest. Do you think you might be afraid of success because you think you'll lose your freedom? When you visualize yourself stepping forward and taking action, what is it that freaks you out. These are the things that you're going to have to come to terms with in your mind.

Personal example: I used to think that if I started my own business, I would endanger the things that mean a lot to me. Time with my family. Freedom to persue random interests. Having enough money to support myself. I started to self sabotage. Then I made a deal with myself. If I start my business (something I want) and I find that I can't make time for my family, can't make enough money, or have to drop my studies (something I need), then I would just stop dead in my tracks. No more business.

After making this promise to myself, its not such a big deal to take action. I know that if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, I'm not tied to it in any way. I can let it go without feeling bad.

This makes a lot of sense. The lack of freedom is the major deterrent. We took a values test in my org. behavior class and my values tend to line up much more closely to a pro golfer's lifestyle rather than a football coach. Needless to say all of the tests and assigned readings concerning conflicting values have caused me to question what I want to do more than I would like.

 

[Brontosaurie]

i doubt concrete goals will do any good in the long run

you gotta have patience with that overarching thought process