My life

[Santiago]

So here is the thing, for the longest time I forgot I had real feelings. I mean I was aware of how I should feel, but it never felt like it really connected. Then I had a moment where I was almost happy, all I needed was for the girl curled up on my chest to be my girl friend, and that was probably not far off. I sat feeling content with lying there with her on curled up on me watching american pie with the friends I had been living with for over a year at my boarding school, spending pretty much every waking hour with them. And then my life turned to hell. I got expelled 3 weeks ago due to an absolutely ridiculous circumstance, I now go to a school where I have no friends and eat lunch by myself in a corner. The girl that was curled up on my chest got a concussion on Sunday and now has amnesia, so doesn't remember who I even am, and I have almost no chance to reforge that kind of connection since I can now only see her on the occasional weekend instead of almost all the time. I have cried twice in the last 3 weeks, the first times in a long time. I know I sound like a sobby baby, but I kind of needed to put this out where people even somewhat like me might be able to help. Sorry if I sound like a complete dumb ass, I don't have the heart to re-read this and check it through

 

[Cognisant]

The girl that was curled up on my chest got a concussion on Sunday and now has amnesia, so doesn't remember who I even am

Seriously? Well that sucks.
More likely you're out of her life now and she's moved on, but not a nice thought so yeah let's stick with the concussion theory.

What got you expelled?

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

There's a shot the memory will return with time. I don't imagine her baseline personality would change, right? So at worst compatibility shouldn't change, just memory. Wait it out for a bit.

And I second Cog. What got you expelled? I was expelled twice, first for a 3 strikes policy on max suspensions (witholding details for now) and again a year later for stealing, protesting, being a little bitch, and other general buffoonery.

Okay now... I showed you mine. Your turn.

 

[snafupants]

There's a shot the memory will return with time. I don't imagine her baseline personality would change, right? So at worst compatibility shouldn't change, just memory. Wait it out for a bit.

And I second Cog. What got you expelled? I was expelled twice, first for a 3 strikes policy on max suspensions (witholding details for now) and again a year later for stealing, protesting, being a little bitch, and other general buffoonery.

Okay now... I showed you mine. Your turn.

Check out traumatic brain injury, chronic traumatic encephalopathy, and tau protein buildup for proof of personality changes in banged up ex football and hockey players. Alternatively, take a look at some of these players in their late forties - their brains appear forty years older, and it definitely shows. All of the money in the world isn't worth the somatic toll of twenty years playing pro football. Anyway, amnesia's a different beast - here, it sounds like only retrograde and not anterograde amnesia. Anterograde might ironically be more frustrating as an everyday thing. But yeah, with serious enough rocking and scarring of brain tissue and repeated slams you could see personality changes.

 

[Cognisant]

*sidles up to her and cops a feel*

What are you doing?

I'm your boyfriend, don't you remember?

:smiley_emoticons_mr

 

[snafupants]

*sidles up to her and cops a feel*

What are you doing?

I'm your boyfriend, don't you remember?

:smiley_emoticons_mr

Girlfriend: Do you have any pictures of us together, you know, to help me remember?

 

[Beholder]

Wow that's harsh... I'd like to say something comforting but my inferior Fe is at a loss for words. (Although the weed might have contributed somewhat to that).
Look at it this way, at the very least it makes for a hilarious story, I mean, think about it, what an absurd situation to be in.

 

[Jennywocky]

I was looking up concussions and memory loss, just for curiosity's sake.

http://www.webmd.com/baby/news/2003...ons-cause-memory-loss-in-high-school-athletes

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-traumatic_amnesia

It's not totally clear from this, but it sounds like retrograde amnesia typically only persists for a period of time, and in some cases is very short. (I remember when a friend of mine fell down steps in his early 20's, and afterwards he did not know who I was or even who he was, so we got him to the ER... but it all came back to him within about an hour.)

But it sounds like your relationship as you desired it had not been established yet. If you had had a longer-term relationship, I would say chances (unless she suffered a horrendous incident of some sort) would be that she would regain those basic memories.

I know your life sounds really bad right now, and feels awful. I guess all I can offer is perspective; right now in you are in the middle of a huge change and having to readjust your expectations. From what it sounds like, though, this is all recoverable. You will make new friends (even if it is painful and will take time), and you didn't actually have a LTR with this girl and lose it -- it was just the potential for one, and... well, I don't see another complaint in your comments. There are situations in life that are NOT recoverable (for example, I invested in a marriage for 15 years plus some years of separation, and it's now ending), and I'm in a situation where I have found myself in debt (some of it not my fault) to the tune of $40,000 that I don't have. To me, that kind of thing seems less easily recoverable, and I'm envious of your situation; I wish I was dealing with what you're dealing with, rather than what I am dealing with.

So, just... perspective. I know the "Oh, it could be so much worse" thing doesn't fly well. But realistically, the things you've described, you actually have power to change: You can make friends if you keep trying, and you will hopefully get more chances to find someone who cares about you and you here in your lifetime. It's all (to some degree) within your power; it will just take a little time to grieve the loss of what you hoped for, and then time to rebuild. But you can get there.

 

[Cognisant]

Girlfriend: Do you have any pictures of us together, you know, to help me remember?

Oh please, a bottle of vodka to make Daiquiris and an afternoon of photoshop and I could make a girl think I'm her husband

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

Check out traumatic brain injury, chronic traumatic encephalopathy, and tau protein buildup for proof of personality changes in banged up ex football and hockey players. Alternatively, take a look at some of these players in their late forties - their brains appear forty years older, and it definitely shows. All of the money in the world isn't worth the somatic toll of twenty years playing pro football. Anyway, amnesia's a different beast - here, it sounds like only retrograde and not anterograde amnesia. Anterograde might ironically be more frustrating as an everyday thing. But yeah, with serious enough rocking and scarring of brain tissue and repeated slams you could see personality changes.

I'm thinking it's more of a one time deal, yet developing a mental image of this chick taking on Ray Lewis.

 

[Santiago]

Seriously? Well that sucks.
More likely you're out of her life now and she's moved on, but not a nice thought so yeah let's stick with the concussion theory.

What got you expelled?

No. She actually has amnesia. She has continued to talk to me, but now it's mostly asking what her friends are like, what I'm like and how she acted at Webb.

And I was expelled when someone lost their phone, the school found it, went through the texts and found information about me bringing drugs to a party of campus. And their policy is that providers of drugs and alcohol are expelled, no exceptions

 

[snafupants]

I'm thinking it's more of a one time deal, yet developing a mental image of this chick taking on Ray Lewis.

In this case, sure. It sounds mild, one-off, and retrograde amnesia-inducing.

I was addressing your more general point about TBI and personality alterations.

 

[snafupants]

Oh please, a bottle of vodka to make Daiquiris and an afternoon of photoshop and I could make a girl think I'm her husband

I knew you would lean on technology to flesh these machinations.

On the spot, you would have nothing though.

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

I was addressing your more general point about TBI and personality alterations.

I was deflecting attention away from my clear lack of knowledge being called out. Oh wait...