I voted being attractive. I don't have any glaring asymmetries, the features I am guessing are found appealing being features that are non-gender-bound.
I'm depressed. More often than I would wish wary about whether people will like me as much unless I hold up a certain standard of attractiveness (which I guess is quite normal, given the culture we have. How we are conditioned by adverts, movies, television and other cultural produce).
Having been praised and complimented for something I did nothing to achieve for all my life, and can change, has resulted in me being insecure about to what degree it plays a role in whether people like me or not. I'm not sure if it's due to bias, but when I am better groomed, I feel like people are treating me better. If someone straight up calls me pretty (with wording that speaks only of physical attractiveness), I sometimes stop in my tracks and become wary of them, often feeling a need to distance myself from the person. It has also resulted in me feeling uncomfortable directly commenting on anyone else's physical appearance as a thing separate from the rest of them.
I've read psychological studies that indicate that people regarded as prettier are generally treated better and liked better. Just... life will be easier for them. People will like them more. It scares the hell out of me.
Luckily I have become more aware of the ways in which the apparent mindstate of a person influences how attracted one is to the person, which has situationally tempered the wariness. Then again, that also adds to a felt pressure to seem like I am in mindstates that would be seen as attractive.
In the end, I think everyone has to chill out like some of the people in this thread apparently are doing, and be like one has taken a big giant
in regards to specifically feeling attractive/unattractive. I also think that for most people, achieving attractiveness through indirect measures rather than measures aimed towards it directly is the only psychologically healthy way to deal with things (direct measures reinforcing the lack of fukitol).
I wish I could stealthily slip one of these down the throat of modern society when it comes to this.
