Would you...

[Coolydudey60]

Be unhappy/depressed if you knew that your kid would not cry for you when you died?
Post your own theoretical scenarios

 

[Zique]

Nah I wouldn't be unhappy or depressed, I would want to know why not though.
Would you kill a person to save your sibling's life?

 

[EyeSeeCold]

How can you know that your kid won't cry at your funeral? It hasn't happened yet, and when it does you'll be dead to even care.

 

[Wizardry]

That sort of depends. I would probably tell my kid early on that my death is inevitable but not to be sad because its how nature works. Then I would have them watch The Lion King and Land Before Time.

(Scientists are working on halting and reversing aging and the tech for it may or may not come out within my lifetime. People will still be dying by other means though unless they unlock some "Wolverine" technology. )

 

[Fukyo]

My kids would hate my guts.

 

[Wish]

My kids would hate my guts.

If they could find them!

 

[Fukyo]

If they could find them!

They're right there on display. :O

 

[SQ_Minion]

In the impossible hypothetical situation that I have kids, I wouldn't remotely care whether they cried at my death. I don't foresee myself crying at either of my parents' funerals, so why would I expect something different from my children?

 

[The Gopher]

I don't foresee myself crying at either of my parents' funerals, so why would I expect something different from my children?

yeah I don't either but then again it has not happened yet.

 

[dark]

I personally believe biological death is natural, so I cannot understand logically why people should cry, I haven't as of yet. I have told my family since I was around 7 years of age (was about 5 when I understood life and death) that if I died I don't want people to cry.It is natural to die and that, crying would be useless since it wouldn't bring me back.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

I personally believe biological death is natural, so I cannot understand logically why people should cry,

Maybe because it helps to cope with the irrational side of life?

 

[shoeless]

why do people see crying as this one-dimensional sign of weakness? i have to say man, that's possibly one of the most retarded things i've ever read.

life =/= "logic".
crying is a natural release of emotion. humans experience emotions. they tend to experience a lot of them when a person they love dies. explaining why is a fruitless attempt.

so sick of people rejecting emotion on a "logical" basis.

to answer the question, i probably would be slightly upset. i plan on being an awesome parent. i don't want my kids to feel about me the way i feel about, say, my dad. i wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

 

[Coolydudey60]

How can you know that your kid won't cry at your funeral? It hasn't happened yet, and when it does you'll be dead to even care.

You arebjust certain that they do not like yup pr feel any affection for you, and do not care for you

 

[The Gopher]

why do people see crying as this one-dimensional sign of weakness? i have to say man, that's possibly one of the most retarded things i've ever read.

life =/= "logic".
crying is a natural release of emotion. humans experience emotions. they tend to experience a lot of them when a person they love dies. explaining why is a fruitless attempt.

so sick of people rejecting emotion on a "logical" basis.

to answer the question, i probably would be slightly upset. i plan on being an awesome parent. i don't want my kids to feel about me the way i feel about, say, my dad. i wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

No no I like emotion... just I don't show it I still release it in different ways.

 

[shoeless]

i wasn't actually referring to you, but okay. that's fine.

i understand feeling uncomfortable with crying. shit, there's only about... one entire person in the world i feel comfortable(ish) crying in front of. but it seriously bothers me when people go on about how crying is pointless. it kind of makes me rage.

so yeah.

 

[Coolydudey60]

I myself find crying uncomfortable, and agree that in general there is no point in crying. But... My grandpa has died, and it is very much an impulse to cry. Perhaps not for very long, but you WILL, unless you ACTUALLY hated your parents. So fighting emotion wih logic, is truly stupid as the previous post ere pointed out(maybe nits cose he's enfp)

 

[Glordag]

i wasn't actually referring to you, but okay. that's fine.

i understand feeling uncomfortable with crying. shit, there's only about... one entire person in the world i feel comfortable(ish) crying in front of. but it seriously bothers me when people go on about how crying is pointless. it kind of makes me rage.

so yeah.

Raging is pointless.

*hides*

 

[Intiguous]

If in some alternate reality I had children and could predict whether or not that they would cry, or if there is an afterlife and I could look down on my children after I died, I would not be upset at all. That's mostly because everyone handles their emotions in different ways and I see no reason to get upset over it.

My first reaction to people dying is almost nothing. I often have to let these feelings sink in. Depending on whether I had a close relationship with this person or not, I may cry so hard that I can't breathe or I won't cry at all. Both situation have happened. I have learned to not bottle things in as much or ignore my "irrational" emotions. I feel I am healthier because of it. As long as you are not harming anyone in the process and don't allow your emotional side to control your life, I see nothing wrong with self expression or giving into your emotions on occasions such as the death of a loved one.

I know people who immediately cry about these things and other people who I have never seen cry before. Some people are private about it, some are not. Some don't cry much even when they are alone. Crying about something doesn't always show much about how someone is feeling. Emotions are complicated. I have cried before while laughing or when I was very angry. The question for me isn't "Why didn't you cry?" It makes more sense to ask "How do you feel about it?" The ones who seem the most emotionless may be the ones who are grieving the most.

Maybe not.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

I myself find crying uncomfortable, and agree that in general there is no point in crying. But... My grandpa has died, and it is very much an impulse to cry. Perhaps not for very long, but you WILL, unless you ACTUALLY hated your parents. So fighting emotion wih logic, is truly stupid as the previous post ere pointed out(maybe nits cose he's enfp)

If you truly hate your parents you will eventually cry when they are gone. Hate is only misplaced love.

 

[The Gopher]

If you truly hate your parents you will eventually cry when they are gone. Hate is only misplaced love.

No I would say hate and anger get mixed up if you truly hate someone you wouldn't but if you thought you hated someone but were just angry you would.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

So is the basis of this premise that my kids wouldn't cry over my death because they either disliked me or felt apathetic towards me?

If that's so then I would feel regretful. Obviously my actions in life put such emotional barriers between us that I ended up meaning very little them.....Or they're sociopaths in which case the bastards probably killed me.

 

[Jesse]

I heard something about not being able to tell others how to mourn. I've had a good friend die and a baby cousin die and I reacted differently to both but I couldn't tell you which way was better and that is what I will tell my kids. It doesn't matter how you mourn as long as there is fireworks.

PS: When I die please let their be fireworks at my funeral.

 

[Intiguous]

PS: When I die please let their be fireworks at my funeral.

Only if your funeral song is Entrance of the Gladiators.

 

[Coolydudey60]

We can't afford for fireworks at your funeral...

 

[smash_the_control_machine]

My kids wouldn't cry. They have better things to do. One of them would be to avenge my death.