Philosophyking87
It Thinks For Itself
I think INTPs can reasonably fall in love with any type. But if we're talking about "long-term" lasting relationships perhaps, I'd have to say I tend to attract to INTJs and that my current wife of almost four years is an INTJ (although she's sort of balanced between INTJ and INFJ). Beyond that, I'd guess I'm probably attracted to INTPs (and maybe ENTPs, but that's pushing it, as I really can't stand extraverts). So pretty much, INTPs and INTJs for me.
My personal view of being in a long-term relationship with an INTJ is the following:
Although, regardless of these pros, there are also a few important cons to this relationship:
So overall, I think the pros greatly outweigh the cons. With INTPs being so extremely lazy and unassertive, the INTJs drive to get things done is a great compliment, while the INTPs ability to laugh at life often helps the INTJ take a break every now and then from all the constant worrying and stressful strategy of every day living. In my opinion, INTJs are probably better for INTPs than other INTPs, as they can create this compliment. Two INTPs would probably find that neither wants to do any more than the other, so that nothing ever gets done (but I wouldn't know in practice). So theoretically, INTP/INTP may or may not be a good match. I just personally tend to have low tolerance of other personality types to such an extent that I would think there'd be very little fussing going on in a relationship between two INTPs.
My personal view of being in a long-term relationship with an INTJ is the following:
- a) both types are extremely introverted and individualistic, so that they tend to respect each other's need for plenty of privacy and "alone time." This leads to both being able to live autonomous lives with one another.
- b) both types are largely logical and rational, so that compromises can often be easily worked out to suit both parties, which reduces the amount of "irrational argument."
- c) both types are largely intuitive (and have dominant introverted functions) which leads to an abstract bonding coming from two extremely private worlds that are rarely expressed to others. This can make the relationship much more intimate, when both view the other as special confidants.
- d) both types tend to be "perfectionists" with extremely high standards for themselves and others, which can lead to both types pushing each other to become more competent in a way that is natural to each individually.
- e) both types are generally intelligent and analytical, and both tend to enjoy the other's intellectual stimulation, challenging debates, and generally contemplating many different issues together.
- f) both types almost equally avoid large numbers of people and instead prefer to spend lots of time either alone or with each other, which can lead to a high degree of comfort.
- g) INTPs tend to find the organizational abilities, drive to get things done, and decisiveness of INTJs appealing, while INTJs find the casual, spontaneous, and flexible natures of INTPs appealing.
Although, regardless of these pros, there are also a few important cons to this relationship:
- a) INTJs often want everything to be organized and scheduled, as time is a very valuable resource to them. When INTPs naturally resort to a care-free and spontaneous lifestyle, this can quickly agitate the INTJ.
- b) INTJs are often much more aware of clutter in their environment and will likely take time to clean up after themselves, while INTPs are often messy and disorganized, which can make an INTJ feel as though they are doing all the work in the relationship.
- c) INTPs tend to be very laid-back and easy-going people, so that they may see INTJs as "too serious" and "inflexible."
So overall, I think the pros greatly outweigh the cons. With INTPs being so extremely lazy and unassertive, the INTJs drive to get things done is a great compliment, while the INTPs ability to laugh at life often helps the INTJ take a break every now and then from all the constant worrying and stressful strategy of every day living. In my opinion, INTJs are probably better for INTPs than other INTPs, as they can create this compliment. Two INTPs would probably find that neither wants to do any more than the other, so that nothing ever gets done (but I wouldn't know in practice). So theoretically, INTP/INTP may or may not be a good match. I just personally tend to have low tolerance of other personality types to such an extent that I would think there'd be very little fussing going on in a relationship between two INTPs.
