What type is my step brother?

[SoulsWeepingAbove]

Okay so I am 17 now and when I was about 14-15 my mom married "doug's" dad and bam, now I have a step sister and brother. My sister gets annoying but sh'es only 11 now so that's understandable, but my brother, who is one year younger then me gets on my every last nerve. I get physically uncomfortable when he is even in the same room with me and just everything he does says, his voice, his laugh, how he walks, I mean every single thing he does makes me want to punch him in the face. I'm not quite sure why, but I suspect we have a major type clash here.

I know he is a J, and thats pretty much all I know. My best guess is ISFJ but, idk it just seems like it doesn't totally match him. Then I thought ESFJ but he doesn't to seem to have the kind of drive that type seems to have...

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-He has some friends, hangs out after school every now and then with them

-Is a COMPLETE follower, I mean he got into skating when his friends did, got into music when I did, wears the same shoe brands as I do, copies other peoples' jokes, I mean he just can't seem to have an original thought to save his life

-He comes off as really fake to me, he does this gay fake laugh thing ALL THE TIME. And he fake smiles ALL THE TIME, it really pisses me off, it is just the most fake ingenuine laugh and smile you can imagine. He acts really fake around new people too, it's really mainly around people he doesn't know too well. So basically unless he's alone with his friends he puts up this whole fake facade thing

-He cried when he thought my parents were going to take "his dog" to the pound. (the dog kept peeing in the house, and I put "his dog" in quotes because he doesn't feed or water it, or give her much attention, he only really interacts when he calls her up to his room to sleep with him, he was like 15 at the time too....)

-NO PASSION AT ALL for life, it's one of the reasons I hate him, he get's straight A's, but isn't very smart (I'm sure you know the type), and he just doesn't have any hobbies or skills. He plays MW2 a lot but that's because his friends do and he sucks at it...

-His friends have blown him off before and it doesn't bother him, maybe it's just how him and his friends are? idk....

-Super obedient, doesn't break ANY rules, VERY literal, at first he almost cried when we met because he thought I was being mean (I was being sarcastic, that's my type of humor) he was like 13 at the time....

-Basically he is an obedient robot that will do anything... I know that later in his life he will be that obedient whipped rich guy (from his corporate job) with 4 kids and an ugly mean wife that cheats on him and he knows it yet he denies it....you know the type, so any guesses for his type guys?


<----- that is a sweet smiley

 

[ckm]

What good will typing him do?

Also, ignoring that issue, you are clearly biased against him, so anything you say about him will surely be distorted on many levels. Obviously everyone is biased in some way, but it seems pretty extreme in the case.

If you're looking for a solution to your conflict, then I think you need to introspect. What upsets you about your stepbrother is a reflection of yourself.

 

[XXXX]

ESFJ probably - I get the impression of Fe and Si, with Fe ahead.

 

[Adymus]

I kind of agree with CKM here, are you trying to understand him or are you trying to find a quantifiable measure of how flawed he is?

Anyway, I say send in a video of him. ISFJ is always a possibility, but there are many factors that we [the forum] are not seeing and cannot take into account.

 

[SoulsWeepingAbove]

I suppose what I am trying to do is just to find out why he does what he does, I've accepted that I will likely never get along with him but I guess I just figure that if I know his type then at least I'll understand his motivations for doing things?

I didn't always have such an intense hate like this for him, it's really flared up these past 6 months. I tried to be nice but he just always takes things so personally, for example, the last time we hung out was us playing Halo and I jokingly said "HEy why didn't you have my back?" (I died) and he responded very seriously and with a little anger "Because your selfish and only care about yourself" (Me being alive in the game)

This seemed like such a gross overreaction to me... I was just done and stopped trying to be friends. I guess it was kind of my fault since I was forcing myself to be friends in the first place though.

Also I think that if I knew his type maybe I'd be able to avoid his type in the future? At first he was pretty cool and it just got progressively worse over time.

 

[SoulsWeepingAbove]

Some less biased observations -

-Follows directions precisely

-Resistant to new things (doesn't like to try new foods or activities)

-His room is IMMACULATE

-Is an early riser

-Won't break rules, EVER.

-Like I said, he will follow others, never leads. This could be good I suppose for some things, Assistant, maybe a Medical Assistant, Soldier?


btw I apologize for flaming him so hard earlier, I got kind of caught up in writing that and got a bit carried away...

 

[shoeless]

Also I think that if I knew his type maybe I'd be able to avoid his type in the future?

this is the stupidest worst most detrimental kind of thinking you could possibly do.
just...
no.

 

[SoulsWeepingAbove]

Could you explain how that would be so detrimental? If I am not going to get along with that type what benefit is there to interacting with them? I already said I would like to understand him/them, so it's nothing against him/them personally. What is the problem?

 

[The Lurker]

Personality types such as ESFJ or INTP are nothing more than labels - a generalization that can't hope to accomodate all of the differences between human beings, but nonetheless can provide a sort of unity among individuals who fall under that label (such as on this forum). For example, two of my friends are ENTPs. One I consider my closest friend because we always seem to be on the same wavelength and we rarely irritate each other. The other ENTP sometimes complains a lot about trivial things and occassionally has overemotional tendencies which can grate on me after a while. Obviously this is a relatively crude example, but my point is that they are both ENTPs and yet the fairly striking differences between them, something that is generally not compensated for by the MBTI, causes me to have pretty different perspectives on them.

By "blocking yourself off" to people whose MBTI type is the same as your stepbrother's means that you're simply judging people before you can get the chance to know them, and thus robbing yourself of the opportunity for potential friendships and experiences.

 

[SoulsWeepingAbove]

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