What did you learn today?

[emmabobary]

Hey! This is my first post so I've decided to put it in the Introit topic.
Today I googled something quite silly, but that has been on my mind very frequently lately. About half year ago I used to have this very best friend and lots of people that used to say they admired me. It was quite artificial unfortunately, because eventually I saw myself in the need to get rid of them. That very best friend took credit for an important musical project I was working on blah blah blah.
Me: WHY IN THE WORLD?? Etc.
So I found this:
http://personalexcellence.co/blog/take-credit/

Though its no big deal. Its important to me to finally see another side to this issue of mine.
Today I saw I'm in the need of outer feedback, incoming information from the outside about topics, sights and sides I'm not aware and cannot be aware of, on my own.

So what do you know that I don't know?

 

[Haim]

Less or more.

The blog is a pile of bullshit,one does not need to feel positive things when he encounter such behavior.
Thanks you assholy!I am glad you like my work,your specific opinion of my is highly important to me,no you do not need to pay for the credit,the fact you know my existence is enough.

 

[TheManBeyond]

if someone else takes the credit for my work i would double kick his stomach using it as an scalator to finish him by backpedaling his head to death.

 

[Jennywocky]

The blog entry seems a little polyanna-ish to me -- but in those kinds of situations, I definitely have learned that I need to accept what happened and not let it derail me in the future, either by focusing too long on the anger/unfairness of it or by letting it discourage me.

Basically, it teaches me to (1) be more perceptive/aware, and (2) take steps to avoid unnecessary risk in the future while still taking what risks are necessary to succeed.

The rest doesn't much work for me personally. (Like, "Some dude stole my car! So take heart in the fact you had a cool car worth stealing." Yeah. Doesn't help. I just want my car back, honestly.) It just seems like an attempt to psych yourself out. I'd rather channel it as noted, to be more successful in the future.

 

[emmabobary]

Haim, seriously dude? No one cares about the blog, it was an introduction to the post.
TheManBeyond, well that went trough my mind too.
Jennywocky, yeah, i took it that way. The blog is just a random blog, no big deal.

I'll wait for better responses the post says: What did you learn today? I'll clarify: anything at all, about physics, science, thecnology, or cooking or gardening, whatever you like. I enjoy learning, not having to deal with closed minded people

 

[Haim]

Ammm except for material for creativity.
Things to improve my resume.
Platforming pathfinding article that might be useful some day or very soon.
http://joostdevblog.blogspot.nl/2014/06/solving-path-finding-and-movement-in-2d.html

Wasn't very productive few days,got the thing where I think my brain need time to think for a solution for a problem and wouldn't let me actually directly try much to solve it.
That mostly make me think of a new project or change the current one.
I really don't need other half finish project right now.(unless it actually 50% and not 10%)

 

[Peripheral Visionary]

I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss the blog. While I agree that you don't have to get all Panglossian about what happened, the best thing you can do is gain wisdom from the experience. What other benefit is there from bad circumstances?

Reacting by delivering the offender an ass-whooping is only going to get you in the pokey for assault and battery. In the same way, you will come under suspicion for planning some petty revenge act like putting Styrene in the offender's gas tank.

Either live and learn, or go Mao Zedong. When Mao Zedong got stung by his deputy Lui Shaoqi over his Great Leap Forward policies, Mao patiently and meticulously took a decade to plot and carry out his revenge. Do you have enough ice-water flowing through your circulatory system for that kind of act, or is this too much INTJ?

 

[Haim]

I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss the blog. While I agree that you don't have to get all Panglossian about what happened, the best thing you can do is gain wisdom from the experience. What other benefit is there from bad circumstances?

Reacting by delivering the offender an ass-whooping is only going to get you in the pokey for assault and battery. In the same way, you will come under suspicion for planning some petty revenge act like putting Styrene in the offender's gas tank.

Either live and learn, or go Mao Zedong. When Mao Zedong got stung by his deputy Lui Shaoqi over his Great Leap Forward policies, Mao patiently and meticulously took a decade to plot and carry out his revenge. Do you have enough ice-water flowing through your circulatory system for that kind of act, or is this too much INTJ?

In this case I will calm down too much fast,but is it really the best thing to do?
Is ignoring the feelings the best choice?of course wasting time on revenge is ridiculous but people should know that they can not do such thing to you.

 

[Peripheral Visionary]

In this case I will calm down too much fast,but is it really the best thing to do?
Is ignoring the feelings the best choice?of course wasting time on revenge is ridiculous but people should know that they can not do such thing to you.

Those are valid concerns and questions.

Certainly, you shouldn't ignore the feelings, but you cannot allow feelings to control you or shut off your rationality. Doing so is how crimes of passion occur; but worse than that, you can be controlled and manipulated through your emotions. Think about Sonny Corleone.

You are also right that if you allow someone to get away with doing that, that person will do it again to you or someone else.

How to react is going to depend on whether you are dealing with a sociopathic/psychopathic personality. If you are just dealing with a petty, immature person, the easiest and most efficient thing is to get complete control of your emotions and pull him into a conversation where you say something like this:

"I don't pay attention much to rumors and gossip, but I heard some things and I just want to make sure. Did you say X, Y, and Z about me, and are you claiming that A, B, C was your work?"

This is like throwing sunshine on a cockroach. The person will either squirm and go into denials, or will get really angry and accusatory. In either case, don't show emotion or react. Let him get emotional. Patiently listen to the tirade as if indulging a child, and then say:

"It's been an enlightening conversation."

Then walk away. Psychologically, most people will realize they've been exposed and will fear to tread on you again. Unless that person is a psychopath--in which case you should either do as much as you can to avoid them, or go the Mao route.

 

[emmabobary]

Ammm except for material for creativity.
Things to improve my resume.
Platforming pathfinding article that might be useful some day or very soon.
http://joostdevblog.blogspot.nl/2014/06/solving-path-finding-and-movement-in-2d.html

Wasn't very productive few days,got the thing where I think my brain need time to think for a solution for a problem and wouldn't let me actually directly try much to solve it.
That mostly make me think of a new project or change the current one.
I really don't need other half finish project right now.(unless it actually 50% and not 10%)

Reading it :v
I like to work at many projects at the time, the best part is when you finish them. There's a need to finish tasks in me. Its like beginning a book in the morning, reading it non stop till midnight.

 

[emmabobary]

Seriously though, my first reaction was:
"Gee, now what would be the apprpriate reaction to this? ... I think it's gonna be murder"
And that felt right.
I don't know if it will ever happen. I just know it would be fair.
Anyway in an ethical side there's not much to do. I have to admit I wasnt aware. Now I'm leading to classical music.

 

[Sinny91]

History repeats it's self.

 

[buttcracker]

I learned that I can't satisfy my need for attention by drunk shitposting on reddit

 

[Sir Eus Lee]

I'm afraid of getting old. Ti and Ni is perhaps an anti aging function pair because if used right it should never get trapped if Si isn't too nosy, but I'm still afraid of the days when my brain loses its ability to actually think outside the box. I don't know. I've been thinking lately about this:

You can describe something, but you can't actually always experience it. Like Ni. We can theorize what it does, and intuitively understand the process, but without real function messing, we will never experience it, which makes all the difference. In the same vein, I think we all can easily describe cliches or methods and common discourses by which events unfold, but as to actually coming up with the actual event plot points, that's a little harder.

Tangent.

Basically my guess is that as you get older, you don't lose the ability to think in radical ways, but you lose the ability to actually believe it, or be in that idea, to honestly entertain it.

Idk. *disclaims*

 

[Jinay]

Hey! This is my first post so I've decided to put it in the Introit topic.
Today I googled something quite silly, but that has been on my mind very frequently lately. About half year ago I used to have this very best friend and lots of people that used to say they admired me. It was quite artificial unfortunately, because eventually I saw myself in the need to get rid of them. That very best friend took credit for an important musical project I was working on blah blah blah.
Me: WHY IN THE WORLD?? Etc.
So I found this:
http://personalexcellence.co/blog/take-credit/

Though its no big deal. Its important to me to finally see another side to this issue of mine.
Today I saw I'm in the need of outer feedback, incoming information from the outside about topics, sights and sides I'm not aware and cannot be aware of, on my own.

So what do you know that I don't know?

Www.artofmemory.com
I'm reading my way the forum of this site. They have some really good ideas and concepts to memorize information.

Sent from my Mi 4i using Tapatalk

 

[emmabobary]

Www.artofmemory.com
I'm reading my way the forum of this site. They have some really good ideas and concepts to memorize information.

Sent from my Mi 4i using Tapatalk

Interesting! I'm trying to create my first memory palace, right meow.

 

[emmabobary]

I'm afraid of getting old. Ti and Ni is perhaps an anti aging function pair because if used right it should never get trapped if Si isn't too nosy, but I'm still afraid of the days when my brain loses its ability to actually think outside the box. I don't know. I've been thinking lately about this:

You can describe something, but you can't actually always experience it. Like Ni. We can theorize what it does, and intuitively understand the process, but without real function messing, we will never experience it, which makes all the difference. In the same vein, I think we all can easily describe cliches or methods and common discourses by which events unfold, but as to actually coming up with the actual event plot points, that's a little harder.

Tangent.

Basically my guess is that as you get older, you don't lose the ability to think in radical ways, but you lose the ability to actually believe it, or be in that idea, to honestly entertain it.

Idk. *disclaims*

:

Remembers me of something Zizek says about beliefs, after all is much more real when we loose the last facade, tthere's nothing but contradiction and too sweetened stories about ourselves we want us and others to believe.
Basically there's no honesty in radical ideas, au contraire,hypocrisy is required in order to be radical.

PS. I don't know if it fits with what you're saying. :P
PSS. I rather be clinical than naive.