Hi. Welcome to the forum.
Was this more of an introduction post, looking for advice post, wondering if anyone could relate post or something else?
Oh, I forgot about the question in the title. That's the limit of my attention span, I guess. About one paragraph.
Well, in a perfect world we might be able to be blunt and honest with people with no negative consequences. But culture and to a degree the human psyche perhaps, creates an environment where headstrong arrogance and perceived inflexibility will generally not be tolerated, as you've experienced.
Being in the social sphere do require some give and take. It's just something we have to accept to survive in it. We have to adjust and compromise. Other people also do the same for us. They act polite and humble, even when they think we're retarded and off base. To varying degree of course.
I do get the impression you might not be entirely aware of the details/ subtleties of how people perceive you. You realize they think you're arrogant, but perhaps not to what extent this creates resistance in other people. It seems more like you think people should just accept your merit for what it is, and not let their feelings get in the way and let you do what you know how to do. This doesn't seem to consider and fully understand what reactions your behavior does to other people's behaviors toward you.
Are you ok with other people being arrogant by the way? Even when they are arrogant and wrong? Not implying you're wrong often or anything, but it probably happens people think you're wrong. A lot of people get superannoyed when they perceive someone to be arrogant and wrong. And sometimes the "right" decision might not be possible to make for some reason and more flexibility, compromise and the lesser bad option is required.
Also, even if intelligent, that does not guarantee you don't have any blind spots in your cognition which blinds you to aspects of the truth/ reality where you get something wrong because there were factors you didn't put into the equation. If you are intelligent, it might be rarer that people call you out on details you overlooked, or perhaps you even don't entirely consciously considered you were wrong as your mind so quickly bridged the gap you might be left with the feeling you always knew it. Which might give you a skewed bias of how right you are or that you consider yourself a tinybit more infallible than might be the case.
