I can see that, methinks.
As for the fi vs fe thing. I did hear someone say enfps tend to be curious and investigative about people and their intentions and couldn't this be mistaken for Fe in how it shows itself in outward behavior?
I just stole this from another thread:
but I find Fi-people to be the most mercurial and unpredictable, generally speaking, because they're the most likely type to end up with their values being impinged upon in a way most offensive to them, that results in them being most offended by you.
When I understand a person, I do so as a whole, so isolated behavior is less likely to offend me, but of course it does happen. But I generally don't tend to be confrontational about it, because that rarely serves a point, though sometimes it does. Usually all I will do is detach from that person and maintain my distance. Distance that varies depending on how little I want to do with that person. This kinda points back to what was said about enfp detachment in the same thread. (Ofc, if it's regarding people I have a good or close relationship with, I don't drop off the radar unexpectedly because I feel slighted and I never show someone the cold shoulder out of fun or to gain an psychological edge). ((Side note, I tend to somewhat easily be able to distance myself from my emotions, so I can very easily continue reading stuff I don't like without reacting to it, or go into a more "detached" analysis))
Also, if certain types of thinking/ feeling from the other person is met, then I don't tend to feel offended even if s/he should say something offensive. Because that person has redeeming qualities and a lot of the things that might be offensive is trivial or understandable considering the person in a larger whole.
I'm generally more curious than offended when coming across behavior or thinking that is new and which I don't understand yet. I think offended is a bit strong word, though, but maybe that's just my associations. I can get annoyed or overbearing.... on the inside of my heart
I generally tend to feel alienated and isolated due to my differences in attitudes/ values compared to other people. They don't have to follow mine to the point, obviously, but the commonalities where I can feel I'm able to connect or share a certain understanding with someone is rare. And that understanding isn't just being able to understand something, it's also about the reactions, conclusions, behavior etc drawn from understanding. I tend to be disinterested and dissatisfied with the possible relationships with people due to it. Tho I'm, also autistic so. I mean, I can get along with people fine, but there will always be a certain distance on my part due to differences