trust.

[shoeless]

i trust people super duper easily.

some people don't trust anyone at all ever.

based on my current observations, it seems that those people who are more trusting of their family seem to be less trusting of others, and those who don't trust their families much might be more willing to trust other people.

or maybe i'm just retarded. but that's how it works for me, i wont' tell my family shit but i'll tell a perfect stranger damn near anything.

what do you fellers think?

 

[Cavallier]

I'm going to give the canon INTP response here: Trust should be tailored to the situation. <-----Thank you for letting me get that out of my system.

I've noticed the same correlation however I think it has more to do with how a person relates to the people around them then anything else. Say, a person who gets along easily with new people would be likely to open up quickly to strangers. That same person might have an impetus to be more open and inviting to strangers because they don't get the emotional reassurance and acceptance they need from their family? Just postulation. Also, I've noticed that often people participate in one-upmanship or bragging when it comes to talking about abuse they've been subjected to by their family/loved ones. I don't mean to say that this is the case with you Shoeless. It's just something I've noticed in other people. I wonder if perhaps they get some sort of satisfaction out of appearing the most screwed up. Obviously if the abuse they describe is real then they wouldn't be so open with their family.

 

[Anchorite]

I'm not trusting with my family or the vast majority of others. The only reason being that once I open up and am completely honest for just one moment, the things that I say will never go away and they can always come back to bite me when I'm with those people. I wouldn't want to make a relationship I enjoy a pain for myself. I imagine it also has something to do with early experiences.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

i trust people super duper easily.

some people don't trust anyone at all ever.

based on my current observations, it seems that those people who are more trusting of their family seem to be less trusting of others, and those who don't trust their families much might be more willing to trust other people.

or maybe i'm just retarded. but that's how it works for me, i wont' tell my family shit but i'll tell a perfect stranger damn near anything.

what do you fellers think?

Well I am just like that, I trust other people but not my family. It could be a result of compartmentalization: I'm kind of afraid to be outwardly generous to people who know me well, because since they expect so little of me they will become annoyingly over-excited when they see me being nice. I do not want them to inquire about my motives to find out my inner feelings. While strangers do not know my history and only care about the action/result not my motive.

 

[SpaceYeti]

I've noticed that I just assume that when someone says something, they think it's true. Why else would they say it, after all?

 

[IfloatTHRUlife]

I am a very distrusting person, i second guess peoples motives almost always. I find it suspicious when people are nice etc.

I would say that the reason im not a trusting person is because, i find that i am a very good judge of character, i notice different bits of body language, i can read tones in voice extremely well, etc. All of this happens at a subconsceous level, and for the most part, people lie so often that it just seems irrational to trust people. I never feel comfortable telling anyone anything that would require me to say, "Oh, and dont tell _____ i told you this but .....", because it just never happens. I would compare telling a secret (or whatever you want to call your precious information) to even the most trustworthy person, to burying your secret in your front yard. It might seem safe, but if someone knows it is there, all they have to do is dig. So i just keep it in the deep dark cave i call my mind, where it doesnt matter if someone knows the secrets are there, because they will never get past the big ass grizzly napping in there.

All a pointless rant beyond the point where i stated i am a distrusting person, but to conclude, i am very specific about what information i let out, but at the same time i am an extremely honest person, i dont really do much that i would be ashamed to tell anyone.

Also, an interesting thought, who here would be open to people you know IRL reading what you post on this forum. I dont neccessarily think that shows if you are trusting but i cant think of how it would be better described. (this thought occured when i was saying that i dont do much that i would be ashamed to tell anyone, i realized that i would be kind of selfconsceous about people reading what i write here, despite it not exactly being deeply personal information)

 

[KazeCraven]

Too many types of trust for me to give a blanket statement. There's trusting someone's intentions, judgment, or information. Then there's also trusting someone with your secrets, for example.

 

[cheese]

I tend to trust people mean what they say. Except when I don't. Dammit this question is too difficult for me; my father abused me as a child.

 

[IfloatTHRUlife]

Poor cheese, you should have, and i quote, "Busted a cap in his ass."

And KazeCraven, you are right, trust is so situational that you could explain it with as much detail as you can and only end up constantly contradicting yourself. Thats why i said that everything past the first sentence in my post was pointless ranting.

An interesting thought i just had is that some people might become distrustful because the only time they ever associate anything with trust, is when trust comes into question. Some people probably tend to focus on negativity faster. Especially overly analytical goldfish space zombies like me. But its cool, i float through life, drifting constantly through space, a little pull every now and then, a little scare every now and then, but it cant ever really get worse, it can only get better. .....what was i saying again?

 

[cheese]

Poor cheese, you should have, and i quote, "Busted a cap in his ass."

Where is that from? I've heard it a few times. I can't keep up with these modern things, my mother was a junkie.

 

[IfloatTHRUlife]

It most likely originates with the introduction of a firing cap as a source of ignition for guns.

But i first heard it, while snorting heroin off the side of my baby crib while i was listening to my gangster rap.

 

[Dormouse]

My trust ebbs and flows. If I open up right away I must follow with lies galore to balance the equation.

Not that I'm completely paranoid - I'd just rather not take the chance, and trust seems to be a burden, anyways, so why thrust it on anyone?

 

[Cognisant]

I have little to no respect for people who lie to me, there's an art to being deceitful and it does not include outright lying, mainly because a lie can often be more insightful than the truth.

 

[cheese]

It most likely originates with the introduction of a firing cap as a source of ignition for guns.

But i first heard it, while snorting heroin off the side of my baby crib while i was listening to my gangster rap.

! Brother from another mother! Or not

 

[Da Blob]

Trust is rather a meaningless word when examined in isolation and for a lot of my clients it is a meaningless word period. Few of them could trust their own selves much less Others. When they would tell me "i do not trust anybody or anything!' i would respond, "Yes you do whether you realize it or not, because trust is measured in degrees, it is simply a matter of risktaking - what you trust another with"
Some people, one can trust with money, others one can trust with feelings, still others one can trust to be honest and others can be trusted to be liars. Often we will risk a little to establish the slightest degree of trust, then perhaps a bit more if that trust is not betrayed. However, one can not trust without a willingness to take risk. If one says one trusts but there is no risk involved, then it is not really trust at all...