Tone of voice and way of speaking

[Klavierr]

I'm not sure if this is an INTP/NT thing or if it's just me, but do any of you guys get criticism about the way you speak?


I never really noticed anything specific about my voice until my mom, a few other adults, and my boyfriend all pointed out to me that I speak with very little emotion or inflection. Not like, a robot or anything, but I sound real dry and serious pretty much all the time, even when I'm happy.


Its just how I speak, I don't even notice it. When I try to put extra emphasis and inflection, they tell me "that sounds much better" but it just feels forced. I only tend to show a lot of emotion in words when I am feeling strongly. otherwise its just too much work.


Weh. Anyone else?

 

[Base groove]

Yes I'm told that I'm rude, hurtful, mean, tactless, and condescending as well as polite and well mannered.

 

[kris]

I vary. Much of my experiences are heavily internalized, so when I'm withdrawn into the universe inside my own head, I don't externalize emotions very well. Even when I feel quite engaged with others, I may still be stuck in that internalized mode.

At times I can be quite expressive, though my expressions are not always understood very well. People think the more animated I am, the more I must care about what's going on, but it's not necessarily the case. Other times I half fake emotional expressions so others understand me better, but it's very tiring. I can't keep it up for prolonged periods. If I tried, it would lead to frustration, and my tone would start sounding insincere and snarky.

It would be easier if people could just put more faith in my words rather than intonation, body language and facial expression, but for people who rely heavily on those nonverbal cues, perhaps it's deeply ingrained or even instinctual. As long as people don't try to actively read me, I'm not too deeply concerned.

 

[Cherry Cola]

I utilize my vocal prowess to manipulate and achieve

 

[Rook]

I do.
I tend to mumble words without realizing it.
I then have to repeat sentences, or am simply ignored.

 

[Jennywocky]

I'm not sure if this is an INTP/NT thing or if it's just me, but do any of you guys get criticism about the way you speak?

I never really noticed anything specific about my voice until my mom, a few other adults, and my boyfriend all pointed out to me that I speak with very little emotion or inflection. Not like, a robot or anything, but I sound real dry and serious pretty much all the time, even when I'm happy.

Its just how I speak, I don't even notice it. When I try to put extra emphasis and inflection, they tell me "that sounds much better" but it just feels forced. I only tend to show a lot of emotion in words when I am feeling strongly. otherwise its just too much work.

Weh. Anyone else?

Yeah, that is pretty much me too. I sound flat and matter of fact.

if you can make me laugh, then I have energy in my voice. Laughter's what I can manage.

One of my problems is I just don't have a strong voice, I can't even yell very loudly, and sometimes people can't hear me easily -- my voice tone is kind of soft and lacks edge and the frequencies seem to blend with background noise.

I'm tried to make myself sound "bubbly" at times -- more inflection -- to see if it's more attractive to people or gets me more credibility, but it takes so much energy, it drains me very quickly. It's just not me. I do best in one-on-one conversations in a quiet room (not a crowd), where people are actually interested in what I'm saying rather than how I'm saying it.

Kind of a bummer, I wish i was more dynamic; but... I guess I'm far more dynamic on the page. Maybe that's the reason I work so hard and tend to express a lot more energy on the page, since it's my most effective outlet.

 

[TBerg]

My mom told me I was cold. Some friends told me that I am chill and don't have very many reactions to things. I deadpan a lot, which gets me into trouble when I don't intend to be taken at face value. I have a slow, winding way of talking that sometimes feels like a mess but is meant to be scrupulous. I know I have a good answer sometimes, but I come up with childish crap when I don't have the rapport to do better. I just wish that everyone always had the time to ponder and respond with kindness and precision. We get caught up in so much junk.

 

[Helvete]

I have a ongoing injoke with myself about peoples reactions to what I say, as they can never tell if I am joking or not. It's absolutely hilarious to say the most obviously outlandish things and stuff that's clearly not true and have people needing clarification just because of how it was said.
I speak quietly and frequently mumble when not concentrating and speak fairly monotonously.

Although when I do want to make a good impression or meet someone new then I can do a pretty good job of speaking loud, clear and fairly passionately. Although it is very draining to do so. Then you get the people who already know you hearing it and them asking why you don't do this all the time?! ...

 

[Pyropyro]

My sisters tell me that I sometimes radiate a "Why are you so stupid?" vibe whenever I talk to them. No idea why.

 

[TBerg]

My sisters tell me that I sometimes radiate a "Why are you so stupid?" vibe whenever I talk to them. No idea why.

If you are like me, you don't modulate the criticism in your head with efforts of connecting that criticism using a good rapport, a rapport that respects their emotions as well as their thoughts.