tips to overcome shyness

[sushi]

how to overcome shyness and introversion anxiety

my advice is to be a waitress and waiter, for partime job

you meet and talk to all kinds of people interacting with them for practice, including people from jerkistan.

also ask alot of stupid questions, most people dont give a damn.

bartender is also good but its a more advance level.

 

[onesteptwostep]

Travel.

 

[sushi]

approaching people

i cant do 1/10 of what he does but you have to take rejection and no like a piece of cake.

 

[birdsnestfern]

Try beets. There is something in beets that coat the nerve sheaths and make you less sensitive. Try Holy Basil Extract or Gaba. Ashwaganda too. Have a salad with sliced pickled beets and ranch or blue cheese dressing for example or you can peel a raw beet and juice it and drink it with celery juice.

Vitamin B also gives me mental energy to deal with people a little better.
And note that every place you go has its own culture. Start observing things where ever you go, the little details like ivy growing in a brick crack, how the ceiling and floor look. Observe people around you. People tend to not talk much in lines, but you can say, oh I hope this line moves faster, I'll be late, or something. Look for something to say to break the ice, anything, even something silly, people actually might like the chance to talk. Don't feel silly about observing street level things and making stories up because thats how it starts, being overly obvious and having a little story to tell about it. My Mom would often go up to strangers and tell them how much she likes their yard and house, and make instant friends. She could ask total strangers to use their house to film a movie scene, or ask to sleep over if the hotels are filled and no problem. I guess you have to lose your sense of me-ness and feel like you aren't your body or your mind, you and they are timeless and experience is begging to come of something.

Readers digest has a lot of stories that have ideas.

Have you ever lost your car in a parking garage, anything that filters out heavy or weird, just light things that tell who you are and how you react. Most of all being super relaxed helps, so meditate a little or get a massage and then try.
You can write stories about how you lost your keys, locked yourself out, how you over came it, real life events that show you make mistakes and show the human side a bit might work.

 

[birdsnestfern]

This sounds silly, but healing the Myelin sheaths helps all of the synapses work better for brain, and body so you aren't working so hard and you can put more energy into outer things like socializing. Here are some ways to help them heal, a good vitamin b complex like solgar brand helps a lot. A good brand of melatonin taken at night, might help if you have that aphantasia, ie, repairs the ability to see visuals. Look on this link for a lot more ideas, but beets are a good starting place:

https://www.optimallivingdynamics.com/blog/25-proven-ways-to-promote-the-regeneration-of-myelin

 

[dr froyd]

work in a mental hospital

steep learning curve but provides a fast-tracked experience with the human mind

 

[Cognisant]

Get a job that lets you work from home.

You'll feel a lot better without other people around.

 

[birdsnestfern]

I think the shyness might also be, that you feel different and its a mechanism that protects you so, the shyness on one hand is helpful motivation to be careful, but on the other hand, too restrictive for growth. So here I'm combining how to set goals and how to get unstuck in combination with social anxieties.

Have eyes open for better road maps and goals and allow changes to it, as you go, but when you get distracted from it, admit you are lost, off track, and then begin again or refresh your goals and re-visit them a lot.

Put those goals on paper and tape it to your bathroom mirror or some place you will have to look at them all the time. This will help you stay on track. Go within and connect to the inner you first so you can figure out if its truly a goal you care about. Release any that aren't that important.

Create a list on paper, or in word program or a chart or spreadsheet in excel and put down as many goals as you can think of, then list them in matter of importance. Perhaps a calendar style where each day of the week or the thirty days of the month have one thing you want to accomplish. You work on something specific each day. Maybe Monday and Saturday are socializing days where you force yourself to go to a movie theatre alone, eat at a restaurant, go to a library, have a picnic at a park, ie, go to a concert, make a phone call, grocery shop, ie, force yourself to say hello to some stranger on the way.

Subgoals. Break it up into small bits. Be ok with where you are starting from now. Embrace where ever you are right now. Love the lows as much as the highs of the process.

Create a 'goals' spreadsheet with what you want to do and plans on little steps to get there. For me, it might be clearing out space in a storage room or raking sections of the yard with too many leaves, or working on intuitive skills, or exploring artistic endeavors or eating well or walking.

Mindset:
You have to force yourself to have extreme readiness/drive/compulsion like the military, you have no say, it must get done. Ie, clean things out first. Sometimes you have to hire someone like a coach to help. Its like a yoke, like a burden you have to fulfill.

Experiments: If you just keep thinking and don’t test those ideas you will learn everything about yourself except the truth. Explore and Exploit. Keep saying “yes” until something clicks and then start saying “no.”
The Muddy Middle: It can feel like an epic Greek myth — but you’re Sisyphus. We always slow down in the middle. So break it up into sub-goals. You can’t get stuck in the middle if there is no middle.
Excellence vs Perfection: Perfectionism makes us miserable. You on some kind of kamikaze mission? Satisfice and strive for excellence instead of perfection.

Look on youtube for 'getting unstuck' to explore further.

The story goes like this:
You start out having high hopes and great energy towards something. Then there is always a monkey wrench that throws you off course. Distractions that either break it off, OR you desire to forgive or amend and bond back with the goal even stronger.
ie, when you go off course, determine if you really want to come back to the goal again and tend to it or drop it.

Before you can start goals though, you have to make space for it, clean out the areas that are preventing it and work at it. It takes work.

 

[dr froyd]

i dunno about the suggestions in OP, man. If you're an introvert, having people barking in your face all day will just wear you down and you will probably become even more introverted and shy

another problem is that the style of a customer-servant interaction has seldomly anything to do with real social interactions. You might become good at talking about what sort of beer they like, but that might not be transferable, let alone having significant impact on your inner self-confidence

i would maybe instead suggest putting oneself into more intense scenarios but at a lower frequency – for example some sort of public speaking, or try to go a nightclub sober from time to time. I've done these things, it's either quite nice or super painful, but that's ultimately the whole point.