Time hoarding

[manishboy]

Drenth's INTP book has a paragraph addressing the issue of hoarding time. I had always considered myself a fairly generous person until I read that section and immediately recognized that while most people strive for a work-life balance, I strive for a work-life-mytime balance (with weight skewed towards that last category).

Anyone else recognize this trait? Better yet, anyone found ways of living with it?

 

[Variform]

Drenth's INTP book has a paragraph addressing the issue of hoarding time. I had always considered myself a fairly generous person until I read that section and immediately recognized that while most people strive for a work-life balance, I strive for a work-life-mytime balance (with weight skewed towards that last category).

Anyone else recognize this trait? Better yet, anyone found ways of living with it?

What book is that please?

 

[TimeAsylums]

hoarding time

Time Asylums

 

[TimeAsylums]

What book is that please?

http://personalityjunkie.com/intp-book-personality-careers-relationships-truth-meaning/

 

[Turniphead]

Anyone else recognize this trait? Better yet, anyone found ways of living with it?

Is it causing specific problems for you?

I recognize it, but I don't know that it's a negative thing for me.

 

[manishboy]

Is it causing specific problems for you?

Not specifically. It's more of a symptom of something and a huge blindspot. Hoarding by definition is an unnecessary accumulation, a bad habit. And hoarding is never for the sake of the thing hoarded. It's for the perceived gain (eg, security, status, completion). So I'm wondering if hoarding time is a symptom of some underlying dysfunction, perhaps resulting from an unexamined belief about the urgent need for a Eureka moment. Or... I don't know. I do know that it has been unconscious till now and I suspect that finding the underlying cause would yield some hefty golden nuggets of self-knowledge.

 

[Turniphead]

Interesting. I guess all you can really do is increase awareness of that process of hoarding. Paying attention to when and in what circumstances it tends to come up.

I would be wary of labelling it as a negative habit, but that's just me. I know that without at least some time to myself I become not at all fun to be around. So in a roundabout way, that time hoarding is actually beneficial to others when I am around them.