This common for intps denied time alone

[Jean Paul]

Usaslly when I want to be alone ,but can't the little illogical things tend to get to me. Example A popular male in my school said no girl liked him through many girls did. I shouted at him " Are you honestly that fking oblivious?"

 

[MunkySpanker]

Usaslly when I want to be alone ,but can't the little illogical things tend to get to me. Example A popular male in my school said no girl liked him through many girls did. I shouted at him " Are you honestly that fking oblivious?"

no he's just that amazingly insecure that he needs a nerd to reassure him of his attractiveness.

 

[gruesomebrat]

I can't speak for all INTP's but I know that I often get irked by glaring illogical statements whether I'm granted time alone or not. Generally if I'm forced into long periods of social contact, I start to shut down though. Find somewhere to sit down, and retreat into my shell. Once there, even the most extroverted people have trouble drawing me out, until I'm sufficiently recharged to deal with people again. On the rare occasions that I'm not able to recharge, little things elicit extreme reactions from me, yes.

 

[CoryJames]

I think that maybe it wasn't that you truly saw him as oblivious, but that you were angered by his intentional attempt to elicit a compliment. I, and I feel like most other INTPs, get very tired of societal norms and practices that are just bullshit and unnecessary acts of ego masturbation.

INTPs like to get to the heart and truth of things, and sometimes, if tired or stressed or whatnot, we do not have the patience to put up with the nonsense on the way there.

 

[Jennywocky]

Well, if I'm stressed, I can lose control of what I release into the external environment. Normally I stay tight-lipped about things I know that could attract reprisal, because I don't want to be bothered with personal conflict; but when I'm tired and/or strongly offended by someone's irrationalities, there's more chance for me just to say "screw it," dump, and then flex to what happens.

I think introverts also need their space, in order to avoid being stressed. For many years, I was trying to cope with a lot of stress... and pretty much had a breakdown when I ended up losing all of my private space / alone time. We need that alone time / space to recharge and keep our inner worlds ordered.

 

[CoryJames]

My inner world is intensely cluttered. I think it has been that way for a while and I don't really mind it too much.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I absolutely hate when this happens to me. A couple days a week I have to be in classes in the morning, do volunteer work for my major during the day, then work at my real job at night. I'm living at home while I'm in school and there isn't a moment's rest with them either, which wouldn't be so bad if I weren't the oldest sibling and had to play parent to the younger ones. Throw in mild insomnia and my performance in all of these is hindered, causing more stress.

What happens more often than I'd like is I start to close up a couple hours into work. I go into this illogical state of mind where I feel I've got it 100x harder than everyone around me, somehow giving me the right to build walls around myself and even go against my usual nature and let work go undone just so I can leave on time. And if anyone but my boss tries to point out my oversight they're met with a snide comment.

It's really a very ugly aspect of me, but the problem is it only shows itself when I'm too tired+stressed+busy to concentrate on fixing it. The worst part is having to then work so hard to rebuild a solid rapport with my coworkers after being so antisocial the night before. Some are fine right way, but others don't forgive and forget so easily. Especially when they see that it wasn't an isolated incident.

Then there are days like today where I have a few hours to breath. An opportunity to get my thoughts in order and I'm suddenly Jekyll again.

As for compliment fishing, I'll typically just go along with it unless I know them to be arrogant as it is. No use in getting annoyed but it, but I won't exaggerate the truth for them unless they seem to really need it.

(sorry for the vent post)

 

[EditorOne]

I function better with regular doses of aloneness. It sometimes gets to the point where I have to get up and leave a building and go for a walk to get away from braying extroverts who really do start to seem like malevolent spirits when there's no relief from their incessant clatter and bang. It's like they go through life as their own noisy parade, unaware others need silence in order, literally, to function successfully.

 

[Eclipse]

It's common for me. If I can't get any time alone, I start to feel almost like I'm suffocating. I'm usually very good at controlling my emotions and how I express them, but I've noticed that when I get emotionally worn down and have to interact with extroverts, they act almost as if I'm...oppressing them. They tell a joke, I smile, but then there's something in their expression. Something cautious. I'm not entirely sure how to explain it.

 

[phial]

I think that maybe it wasn't that you truly saw him as oblivious, but that you were angered by his intentional attempt to elicit a compliment. I, and I feel like most other INTPs, get very tired of societal norms and practices that are just bullshit and unnecessary acts of ego masturbation.

INTPs like to get to the heart and truth of things, and sometimes, if tired or stressed or whatnot, we do not have the patience to put up with the nonsense on the way there.

omg yes, my father will never understand

 

[Stoic Beverage]

Last week, for Thanksgiving, I went down to Chicago to see relatives. I stayed there from Wednesday (noonish) to Sunday (got home at about ten). Aside from bathrooms, there was someone in the same room as me for approximately 106 hours straight. I had constant migraines after the second day, and I wanted to take a hot spoon and scoop out the eyes of everyone around me that made a moronic comment. My mother thought I was sick. I got home, and after spending the night alone in my room, she thought I looked perfectly healthy.

I hate Thanksgiving...

 

[knightofni]

I think that maybe it wasn't that you truly saw him as oblivious, but that you were angered by his intentional attempt to elicit a compliment. I, and I feel like most other INTPs, get very tired of societal norms and practices that are just bullshit and unnecessary acts of ego masturbation.

INTPs like to get to the heart and truth of things, and sometimes, if tired or stressed or whatnot, we do not have the patience to put up with the nonsense on the way there.

Well said. The motive always means more than the display.

 

[flow]

I function better with regular doses of aloneness. It sometimes gets to the point where I have to get up and leave a building and go for a walk to get away from braying extroverts who really do start to seem like malevolent spirits when there's no relief from their incessant clatter and bang. It's like they go through life as their own noisy parade, unaware others need silence in order, literally, to function successfully.

Lol. You are such a wise introvert.

 

[indigofireflies]

Lack of alone time for me is like a car running on empty. I can't function. I snap at the smallest agitation and lash out at practically anyone with ruthless sarcasm and criticism. My decision-making is impaired and faulty. I'll evade people in an attempt to get that thought-time, often falling back to making them hate me so they'll leave me alone. I also become depressed, and for extended periods, self-destructive and nearing suicidal tendencies.

In essence, I am a monster.

 

[walfin]

I would reassure the guy that he is well liked by all the girls.

We are all of us insecure in one way or another.

Unfortunately for me, I am not a monster.

 

[baj]

Um.

I tend to avoid conflict. I don't really want to say things that make people cry. However, why do I care about whether girls like or do not like a certain person? I think in high school I was too self-absorbed to get that involved with peoples' lives.

I might start talking about something that interested me instead, like what species of birds were nearby or chaos theory.

At this time, I have most all my time alone. I've designed things that way. I may seek people out now, but good luck trying to talk to me about something completely without point.