My Relationships
Ze ENTP narcissist is back to talk about himself some more.
*disclaimer* While I may once in awhile suggest certain types aspects are better for other types, I by no means intend to disrupt or cause any relationships solely by MBTI/type standards whatsoever, you may love, hate, kill, eat, whomever you wish.
I'll tell you what little I can about my self and my own feelings then go one to tell you about teh types i has dated.
I can't tell you if i have a type. I can't tell you directly how I actually feel. I can look at the past and attempt to find similar aspects of the people I have dated and attempt to find a pattern or correlation. I don't consciously have a desire for any height or size or color eyes or hair. For me, it is about what feelings the other person can evoke from me, or move my intuitions.
I could
try to tell you I don't like xxx about girls or I do, or I like smart or dumb or skinny, but it would all be bullshit, because I like whatever appeals to me.
There is one thing in particular I can say though, I enjoy relationships the most when I am spending time with the significant other, that might be a "duh/obvious" thing, but it is particularly more difficult for the introverts, when they want their time alone, and i only want more time together. I also believe that Ns simply mend better with Ns and sensors with sensors, however I have many sensate best friends and have dated many girlfriends, so disclaimer / w/e.
Regarding certain J/P aspets, where one wants the other to be more "doing," I haven't had any problems, I don't have a problem with deciding things, although I would prefer the other person choose, it isn't that much of an issue at all.
The ISTPs (2): They are, to put it, without negative connotation, simple. Their desires are simple. Once they have all in Ti'd and finished, their interactions are very much SeFe. As my experience goes, regarding age wise, they were struggling with Fe. This was ok with me, the main problem was that they wanted Fe from me, which isn't the easiest thing to just do. Regardless, that wasn't a big issue at all. As Architect has pointed out, SPs tend to possibly be hypersexual, which is totally fun with me. It is also likely they just like to do stuff, also cool with me, sports, going out. However, they are rarely ever similar to Fe/Se doms with enjoying shopping and bull shit that i don't like. They are somewhat secretive foodies, enjoying special foods, but to themselves. Key trouble moments include when they are in a bad Ti-Fe loop, myself having Ti>Fe, it is extremely rare for my feelings to get hurt or included, however once in a awhile (seemingly, <1/month) The Ti will find something extremely caustic and burning to say, in spite of that inferior Fe. As you know, The ENTP, when engaged in Ne-Si loop in a bad way, can blow up the smallest of things in an instant and change. Ti does not like that much change (similar to Si, not the same), because then it has to Ti
all over again. I can see why the ISFJ is a good choice for the ISTP, The Ti does not have to keep up with my Ne constantly changing, which takes forever, but instead the "always the same" Si would keep them happy. Regardless, this type is (generally speaking obv) fun, out of all the introverts I've dated, they are the least bothered by the most time spent together, likely because we don't often engage the Fe, but their Se, by "doing stuff." The Se also stimulates the Ne by getting to "do stuff," it's okay with new stuff. As is known, the ENTP isn't the biggest extravert, and if anything, a big ambivert, so that isn't too much of a problem either. The Ti>Fe smile is recognizable in the ITPs so easily. It is "imperfect" if you will (obv no smile would be perfectly symmetrical, but that's not what i'm getting at). Those of you who have seen it will know.
overall: a very fun person to be around and do stuff. Easy going (outwardly).
The ISFP: ohmygawawwd, the feels. Some people (as I mainly noticed, people with Fe in their stacks, and probably just F altogether), really require you to show emotion about how you feel. The ENTP is not exactly outwardly an emotional mess all the time, and if anything is difficult to show emotion, however in (emotional) arguments, people just want to see emotion and don't care about reason at all. I learned that with this type, even though FiSeNiTe. She wanted to be controlled even more than the ISTP (I imagine the ISFP's inf Te vs the ISTPs dom Ti). The ENTP is rarely if never controlling as it prefers individuality and independence for itself, however this relationship still worked. As you notice the ISFP is an SP as well, the secondary/aux Se. It loves doing things as well. The FiSe seemed even more controlled or open to the Se than the ISTP however, i imagine Fi vs Ti. While lacking Fe, and in place Te, she still could make you
feel so intensely and so deeply, but not directly. It was indirect, by watching and observing her, you could
feel and see how she
felt so deeply. I read in a type summary about the ISFP woman, they called her "the one with whom still waters ran deep." This is unequivocally true, yet although not extraverted in nature, her feelings can move you. If I was currently ranking the level at which they would like to be controlled/dominated it would be ISFP high > ISTP medium/low (keep in mind we are speaking of introverts), and I'm solely speaking on J v P axis, not entirety. The ISFP needed more alone time than the ISTPs did. I intend to refrain from being too pedantic in describing certain types as "caring" etc, because we all know on some level we are caring, but in this manner i solely mean what you can see and feel about that person, not what they actually might be. Although the F is directed inwards in this type, she still seemed more "caring" than the ISTPs.
overall: very emotional (+/-), very caring (remember, as it appears, not as is), fun to be with
If you have noticed yet, I am drawn to introverts, Both Ne/Si craves it. while extraverts may be more outgoing and lively and therefore more likely to possibly engage new Ne events, the majority of them are too fucking shallow for my tastes (an opinion, clearly). I can summarize them up in an instant and get bored, with the introverts, it takes longer, and is more enjoyable (to me). However, speaking on type and the I/E dynamic, it is very possible the two would wear each other down eventually.
ESF?: Meh, not my favorite,
too emotional for me. Dom Se would be cool and hypersexual, but both the Fe/Se dom enjoy shit like shopping, care about status too fucking much. <--just not my thing.
ENFJ: have not dated, supposed type match. as it stands right now, I can't fucking stand Fe and all its appeals to emotions and talking about nothing and caring about status. I perfectly see why PJ/other sites recommend the ENTP has hit his career streak first. Those fuckin gold diggers. Jk just that Se. Perhaps in the future I could see myself here, but of the moment, no. However, they are much much more open to Ne's constant change, and don't mind ever talking or being with you, they are energized by you, not tired by you.
I'm just drawn to ISPs as it stands.
The pain
More about self ENTP: I rarely/never/ever regret anything, my mind shifts way too easily and is so focused on the future, I can get over anything in a moment. You can see where this might be +/- in relationships depending on what people care about/matter as I have mentioned above. My intentions are not to tell you what types you should/shouldn't go for or anything, experience it in totality for yourself, I was just writing on my experiences.
Sometimes I can just fall in love with just about
anyone. I don't have...
standards. I don't 100% have to have brain sex/sex/shorter/taller. I have been with taller/shorter/smarter/dumber/prettier/whatever, I don't even try to describe people.
All that is required for me to be with you is one of two things:
1) stimulate my intuitions (interest me)
AND/OR
2) stimulate my feelings (make me
feel)
Auburn shares this post like <1 hr after I post this:
It's like how I've seen an incredibly higher tilt toward Ne-leads claiming they're bisexual. The receptiveness and openness of Ne -- which in its most pure form strives for the complete assimilation of all possibilities at the rejection of none -- would account for some of this ("I like both!"), and it's also easy for them to convince themselves of an idea at any particular point in their life, only to challenge it later. So whilst they may view themselves bisexual one year, the next it may be something else; as it's just their process of experimentation doing what it does. Similar or opposite things happen with other types.