Success rate of gaslighting.

[BurnedOut]

What are your opinions on the efficacy of gaslighting ?

I feel that it is such an effective technique that when employed adeptly, it ALWAYS works. Sadly, the gaslighters only exist in the most vulnerable areas of life - general peer group, the society, significant others, family. I have personally experienced it for a very long time and became too good at spotting it. But what gaslighting did to me was horrible because despite having a psychological measure to counter its effects, they seep through in various manners that are unnoticeable. When gaslighting occurs in a relationship in which you have exposed your vulnerability, it is impossible to stop it from influencing your self-esteem.

 

[Black Rose]

I have not been actively gaslighted. Not in a sustained manner. But times when I was vulnerable I was teased when asking for help and things became worse. Things were really bad when I was having my mental episode. I was vulnerable then and no one knew how to help. For 2 months it was like this. It was scary.

In fact, I was gaslighting myself. I thought my imaginary friend had turned evil. I had all these scenarios play in my head where I did not know if it was safe being her friend. I was afraid of God and Chutuhlu and all sorts of things like the matrix. But mostly my friend in my head had been corrupted and I was afraid of her. Having someone that close to you turn on you is sad. But it was just a fantasy, a shadow. Not exactly her. She was still there caring and loving. It was a dark period my mental episode. I was not sure what was real.

 

[Cognisant]

I know I'm dealing with someone intelligent when I can win a debate by asking them if they're sure about their convictions.

The ones who say yes without doubt or hesitation either know something I don't or they're idiots, typically the latter.

 

[ZenRaiden]

Remove yourself from environment of such people is my only advice. I have no better advice, because I cannot tell you anything more specific.

However being around people who are not supporting sucks balls even if they are not gashing you.

 

[Ex-User (9086)]

It's effective if you trust or love the person gaslighting you, because you naturally assume they are well-disposed.

It's best to be mindful, question repeated behavior, especially repeated interactions that leave you with negative feelings. All of these negative outcomes shouldn't happen repeatedly and can be fixed or avoided by fixing or ending the relationship.

 

[onesteptwostep]

hi blarra *waves*