quarter life crisis - what next

[justajoe]

I took some personality test yesterday, well several test all pointing to intp. I did a lot of reading over the last few days and have never felt more understood. It's comforting to know there are other people in the world who share similar realities such as my own. But I feel this is the first step on a delay road to self discovery.


I recently turned 25, and have never been more confused about life. Everyday thoughts overflow. what am i doing? where am i going? what am i going to do for the rest of my life? what do i enjoy? on and on and on.... I work as an sales analyst for my fathers consulting company, and I hate it. I make good money, but the job, the office, the relationships, commitments...I can't do it. I have completely withdrawn form any sort of relationship with my dad after having to spend 40+ hrs a week with him in a office.

So i guess my question is to anyone who has found their way. What did you do and how did you do it?

 

[flow]

An intp who has found their way? Ha! Welcome, we're all lost here.. some more than others.

At least you're employed and making good money, that's a better situation than many of us are in.. are you sure you don't quite know what you enjoy? Surely there are somethings you can think of..

 

[Vrecknidj]

I did a lot of reading over the last few days and have never felt more understood.

Welcome.

I recently turned 25, and have never been more confused about life. Everyday thoughts overflow. what am i doing? where am i going? what am i going to do for the rest of my life?

I recommend maybe slowing down and not worrying about it.

I work as an sales analyst for my fathers consulting company, and I hate it. I make good money, but the job, the office, the relationships, commitments...I can't do it. I have completely withdrawn form any sort of relationship with my dad after having to spend 40+ hrs a week with him in a office.

Quit. Save your relationships and your well being and quit. Sure, it'll be hard, but, you'll live.

So i guess my question is to anyone who has found their way. What did you do and how did you do it?

I got married, had kids, devoted myself to making sure they had enough food and a place to live and mortgaged my soul.

Then again, I've learned more about myself by doing this than I would have doing anything else, so, frankly, so far, it's been worth it.

Dave

 

[justajoe]

Thanks for the comments. I especially "slow down" approach.

It's just my head consistently turns out ideas, some which aren't half bad. But projects get started and never get finished. I can't tell if i'm lazy, distracted, or worse not capiable of finishing something. Wish I could find a personality type that was a finisher, it could make a powerful combination if balanced properly. Do you INPT's have any clue what that personality type would be.

 

[Infinite Regress]

Yeah, the lack of follow through is annoying as an INTP. I've had to have people push me and keep me on the right direction.

Like you, I wasn't sure what I wanted. My job earns well and funds my hobbies, but I always feel dissatisfied and easily tire of new things discovered....

My only suggestion would be to break routine and try to discover as much as possible...in my case I'd procrastinate for a while before jumping ship, but it was worth it in hindsight