All fish are fish, and all birds are birds.
Most things that live in the sea and swim have a vaguely fish like shape and body plan, be it a mammal (dolphins and seals), a bird (penguins), a reptile (ichthyosaurs) or even an aquatic insect. I.e. mouth in front, streamlined body, fins for propulsion and orientation.
A water beetle is wildly different to a dolphin, just as bats, bees and pterodactyls are different to birds, but the same general logic applies to their body plan, nature is never weird for the sake of being weird there's always a reason for it and the solution used is generally the simplest available.
So I contend that aliens are likely to be (in general) surprisingly recognizable, there will be crab like things because crab like things have evolved independently several times on earth. Likewise there will be rat and wolf like things because there are variations on the same theme in other ecosystems, basically where the same niche exists the selective pressures that formed a certain species in one ecosystem will likely create a similar creature in another ecosystem because it's the same kind of selective pressure.
Now this is not to say everything will be sensible to us, there's creatures on Earth that are truly bizarre and I have no doubt that an alien world with the same conditions as Earth could produce equally bizarre things unlike we've ever seen before and a life bearing world with conditions unlike Earth's could do even better, but there's still only so much novelty to go around.
Eventually the optimization of life through natural selection will tend towards optimal solutions and there can only be so many truly optimal solutions.
If we ever find intelligent tool using aliens I'd be very surprised if they didn't have some kind of hand, or at least some way to manipulate their environment without specialized tools. Indeed it's entirely likely that we won't be the most gifted in this regard, our fingers lack the flexibility of tentacles that can stretch and curl, and the precision of claws and pincers, nor do we have any kind of inbuilt hammer, saw or scissors.
Then again nothing evolves without necessity, a crustacean like thing with a swiss-army-knife array of different appendages and manipulators would need to have come from a very particular environment to have evolved with such specificity, so I suspect generalists like ourselves will be more likely.