Opposites attract???

[Awesome_Person]

Hi. So im an ENTP. An introverted one. I used to think i was INTP, but then i discovered my sexy intuition, and my extroverted behavior, even though i have like, no friends.

So im talkin to this girl, and it started out s a sex thing, but it has potential to be more. I told her to take the MBTI and she got INFJ...opposite of ENTP.

Is she really INFJ? because shes like, the only girl ive met online who i can keep a conversation with. She acts kinda like a guy, and isnt a psycho like most girls haha. Do INFJs and ENTPS get along great? Just curious.

 

[Architect]

INFJ's generally love NT's, INTP the best but they'll take to any of them.

Read Please Understand Me II for a good, updated discussion of the whole 'opposites attract' idea (hint, it's to a degree. Predominantly NF's marry NT's (when they can find each other), and SJ's and SP's)

 

[SkyWalker]

You are NeTi
She is NiFe

You are not a total opposite.

You both have a perception function first in common. (It would be more of an opposite if this was flipped in one of you.)

The perception function is 90 degrees different (both N), not 180 degrees like Ne-Si

The judgement function is 180 degrees different though




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I am also ENTP, but I'm currently with a sexy flirtatious ESFP. It's not recommended for my type, but I'm bad

 

[Artsu Tharaz]

Is she really INFJ? because shes like, the only girl ive met online who i can keep a conversation with. She acts kinda like a guy, and isnt a psycho like most girls haha. Do INFJs and ENTPS get along great? Just curious.

You should get on well with any N dominant types. You also have the same kind of judgments, (aux/ter Ti+Fe) though with different priority. That means your field of judgments are going to be very similar, and the intuition that you each derive from these will complement.

A nice compatibility rating. Try an INTJ - the experience there will be even more intense.

 

[Awesome_Person]

Shit.... Haah i have to stop posting at nighy when im tired..

Im not completely sure wether shr infj or iSfj. Sorry

 

[Artsu Tharaz]

Shit.... Haah i have to stop posting at nighy when im tired..

Im not completely sure wether shr infj or iSfj. Sorry

Theoretically, you would not get on well with an ISFJ.

 

[Magical]

My wife is an ISFP, and while we have little conflict in terms of arguing or yelling (the only conflict is conflict I create btw), there are some pretty big problems and my wife just doesn't get it no matter how many times I bring it up. Been together for 10 years. I have goals, ambition, I love learning and absorbing as much info as I can. I want to plan our future and need to know where we're heading.

She lacks in these areas, has no initiative, self-esteem, or drive to learn, go to college for a better career, etc. Problem is im just realizing now that these behaviors are who she is, and its unlikely to change. She has told me several times over the years that she will prioritize, take some of the household responsibilities and some of the burden off of me (I manage EVERYTHING), start a family, think seriously about school (she is overpaid and wont find a similar job if laid off and has no training in anything), etc. etc. Looking back at it now, she was probably saying these things to avoid conflict. I only wish I wouldve learned that she is an ISFP prior to last month. The more I read now the more convinced I am that things wont change in the way I had hoped.

Now im stuck in my own head (as usual) deciding if its better to part ways now while im relatively young (early-mid 30's with a good education and well paying job) but risk complete and total isolation (with work being an exception), or stick it out because at minimum I have a connection to someone who I love and care for greatly. She means so much to me but I dont know if I can live the rest of my life like we've lived these past 10 years. I just cant decide

 

[pjoa09]

Well sure as fuck bet on INFJs.. You don't want anything else if it isn't an NT.

I'd guess everything past that is "Psycho-Bitch" territory in your terms. They can even come off as completely cold and two faced.

 

[Meer]

INFJs love Ti, it seems. I don't know about anyone else, but I like the crazy ones.

 

[dark]

As an ENTP myself, I can tell from experience, INFJs are wonderful at the start... Then they slowly change. They start out loving our antics, but then that too changes. At least for me, my poor ability to strategize plans and awesome ability to tactically do everything on the fly was great at first, but they end up hating it.

I don't know though, maybe I have just been unlucky. I was told INTJs would hate my antics, but so far, my INTJ friends enjoy it even still as long as I keep a calm manner about half the time .

MBTI states that ENTPs and INFJs are a perfect match, but I digress. Socionics states that ENTPs and ISFPs are perfect, but I've yet to try that so I can't help there.

Simply put, INFJs love the flashyness of the ENTP until they "think" they have you figured out. Not sure why they try to guess my motives, my reasoning, there are never any, but they can't understand it. I was told by two INFJs that I was the only person they could not read, and that my motives and reasons for things seemed odd and they couldn't figure it out. For any INFJ that may be reading this, I don't know if every other ENTP is like me, but I don't think we have motives, at least most of the time. The motives and reasons for doing things have long past, if you are just now trying to figure us out, you've already lost.

My INTJ friends have never done this to me, at least they don't state it directly, if they do, I wonder if they are still trying to figure out my motives?

 

[Auburn]

INFJs love Ti, it seems. I don't know about anyone else, but I like the crazy ones.

I tend to gravitate toward crazy INFJs also.

 

[SkyWalker]

your ENTP motive is to explore new possibilities. if found then you are super dedicated. when already explored you will leave it like a useless piece of dirt. others wont ever get that.

that thing to explore and then leave behind might also be another person

people dont like that.

 

[viche]

IxFJs and ExTPs often experience attraction to each other. The connection is easy to establish between INFJs and ENTPs because both are N-dominants. Both prefer to talk about conceptual topics so they find understanding from each other here.

The relationship between INFJ and ENTP is that of Mirage described here Mirage functional breakdown, Romantic Mirage

 

[SkyWalker]

your opposite attraction is your anima projection, its a fake fantasy and that part of yourself (animia) should be developed within yourself instead to rid yourself of that projection trap that kids fall for

 

[EyeSeeCold]

IxFJs and ExTPs often experience attraction to each other. The connection is easy to establish between INFJs and ENTPs because both are N-dominants. Both prefer to talk about conceptual topics so they find understanding from each other here.

The relationship between INFJ and ENTP is that of Mirage described here Mirage functional breakdown, Romantic Mirage

long time no see

 

[jsn0x]

My girlfriend who I have been with for nearly four years is an ENFJ, and I am an INTP. Pretty opposite, and we are great together. We can carry on endless conversations, hardly ever get into any fights, and she doesn't mind spending an afternoon just relaxing and watching a movie on the couch. The only problem is her indecisiveness, she is just as bad as I am when it comes to making decisions.

 

[Logic]

Sigh. I really don't like these sorts of threads.

You guys need to understand that you're most likely not the type that you think you are and the people you're typing are probably not what you think they are either. It doesn't work when you try and go off of shallow archetypes, you need to position yourself onto something solid that can't be pulled from underneath you like a rug.

Let's say you really are an ENTP, the INFJ isn't the ideal match for you, the relationship will not be inspirational. It doesn't seem like much of a difference compared with the INTJ, but the difference is quite pronounced. The ENTP and INTJ pairing is the best of the best, period. The moment you start to develop a relationship outside of that it gets exponentially worse. So the jump from an INTJ to an INFJ will be a noticeable difference and not fully satisfying to either one of you.

 

[thoumyvision]

Sigh. I really don't like these sorts of threads.

You guys need to understand that you're most likely not the type that you think you are and the people you're typing are probably not what you think they are either. It doesn't work when you try and go off of shallow archetypes, you need to position yourself onto something solid that can't be pulled from underneath you like a rug.

Let's say you really are an ENTP, the INFJ isn't the ideal match for you, the relationship will not be inspirational. It doesn't seem like much of a difference compared with the INTJ, but the difference is quite pronounced. The ENTP and INTJ pairing is the best of the best, period. The moment you start to develop a relationship outside of that it gets exponentially worse. So the jump from an INTJ to an INFJ will be a noticeable difference and not fully satisfying to either one of you.

That may be, but the number of female INTJs is even smaller than that of female INFJs, and both of them are significantly smaller than the number of male ENTPs. So there is a distinct possibility that the male ENTP will never make a connection with either of these types. Because of this more common personality types have to be open to the possibility of relationship with other types even if a particular one is theoretically ideal.

I'm actually slightly annoyed that I know a couple INTJ girls, several INFJ girls, waaay too many other NF girls, but to my knowledge I've never met an ENTJ girl. ENTJ may be the ideal match for an INTP, but I'm not about to simply sit around waiting for one to magically appear in my social circle (nice as that might be)

 

[Logic]

That may be, but the number of female INTJs is even smaller than that of female INFJs, and both of them are significantly smaller than the number of male ENTPs. So there is a distinct possibility that the male ENTP will never make a connection with either of these types. Because of this more common personality types have to be open to the possibility of relationship with other types even if a particular one is theoretically ideal.

I'm actually slightly annoyed that I know a couple INTJ girls, several INFJ girls, waaay too many other NF girls, but to my knowledge I've never met an ENTJ girl. ENTJ may be the ideal match for an INTP, but I'm not about to simply sit around waiting for one to magically appear in my social circle (nice as that might be)

What makes you say that the number of INTJ females is lower compared to that of the INFJ's? Your using knowledge accumulated from MBTI's useless population percentages. MBTI would probably also have you believe that the INFJ is one of the most rarest types out there too right? Wrong. The simple fact of the matter is that the INFJ is much more common than that. MBTI has failed at correctly identifying what the type is of any person, and as a result their population percentages shouldn't be taken seriously.

As confident as you may believe yourself to be an INTP, I'm going to ask you and everyone else to please not believe they are any type. The truth of the matter is that you're most likely wrong. Even if you guess correctly at your own type it's still foolish for anyone to subscribe to the idea that they are a certain type. People need to follow a certain order of steps.

1) Do not think you are any particular type.
2) Have your Mojo read.
3) Upon having your Mojo correctly identified accept the reality that you are that Mojo.