Nitpicking

[0neKiwi]

I have this habit of presenting things as they are (and that's apparently bad??), but it isn't taken well. Persons A and B in my family brought up how crying was useless a while ago. I got into an argument with them about how it was not exactly useless because it relieved stress and all sorts of stuff(I forgot the specific details) to help clean one's eyes. It's a little thing, but I wanted them to add a disclaimer of sorts (i.e. saying that it wasn't 100% useless). Is this just nitpicking? It seems to be a problem, but I'm uncomfortable when there isn't a disclaimer of sorts...

It seems I often get into fights/debates/arguments with Persons A and B over this kind of "trivial stuff." They're starting to think I'm doing it on purpose to piss them off.

 

[The Gopher]

There is no point arguing with someone else's figure of speech.

This is coming from someone who in an argument will argue right down to the nuance to pinpoint the exact reason we disagree and on what level.

Why do you care? If you tell them why it's important at the start they'll be less annoyed at the fact it's seemingly trivial. If it actually is trivial then why do you argue?

 

[Pyropyro]

I think you just need to pick your arguments and like the Gopher said, sometimes there's just no point.

If its harmless then I'll just let these things pass. However if I find their claim as medically or emotionally dumb then I argue with said person.

 

[Jennywocky]

basically: Pick your battles.

There is so much trivial shite that doesn't much matter in the big picture.

If it seems worth disagreeing on something or it serves some much bigger thing, go for it. But it's just kind of "life skill" stuff -- you have certain rules for yourself, when you're alone (which in this case is "any idea is good, and break everything down", but then sometimes it's worth it to find new rules for how you engage particular people depending on what things are priorities and which are not. This happens in any relationship you have where the other person is not like you, you both find a "compromise / middle ground" where you find the balance between most being yourselves versus letting go of the irrelevant stuff that might fracture the relationship.

But note too, it might not be just you, it can also be them if they are not willing to meet in a more middle ground and are flipping out with every disagreement.