I can't really tell for sure, but what you might be doing is common mistake.
You are projecting your own mind onto others. So you kind of have unreal expectations.
Watch this vid and see what you think.
This guy kind of explains ....
This is the way normal people think:
Trump = evil because of my emotional attachment to my neuro-personality
Biden = evil because of my emotional attachment to my neuro-personality
who is evil? those who support the opposite candidate trump/biden.
Who is projecting? the other side must be evil because they think like me but choose not to pick the correct candidate. It is a choice, not a condition of brain personality.
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I once thought I was autistic but then I was told I have masculine cognition but feminine emotions.
What does this mean?
First. Autism is NOT about high OR low empathy. Not all autistic people are empathetic blobs some have been school shooters.
Autism is not about mind blindness. Most Autistic people do have a theory of mind. People think autism is about being a mental genius but low social intelligence. But not all autistic people have high IQ and some have high social intelligence.
Autism is just and only about the number of connections inside a person's brain grey matter and sometimes the white matter asymmetry. It is in the metabolism.
People who have
a normal amount of brain cell connections can have low social intelligence and low IQ. Low social intelligence and high IQ. High social intelligence and low IQ. High social intelligence and high IQ.
People who have
an abnormal amount of brain cell connections can have low social intelligence and low IQ. Low social intelligence and high IQ. High social intelligence and low IQ. High social intelligence and high IQ.
A proposed theory of autism is the masculine feminine brain. People vs Things.
But this is not what masculine feminine brains are.
Archetypally they are:
Female = internal self-regulated
Male = externally self-regulated
That would mean I have:
External cognition
Internal emotions
Projection would be externalized emotion (which men seem to have in general)
Internalized cognition is definitely something to consider though because women are not stupid.
But with internalized emotion, this means that I can tell the way people are. It seems most people think autism is about not understanding the internal emotions of others. Or that autism is about internal cognition meaning autism is about not being able to understand the cause and effect of others' emotions but only mine.
"Jim is angry and I do not understand why Jim is angry. I know why I am angry but not others"
Internalized emotion + Internalize cognition = Blob
Externalized emotion + Internalize cognition = Projection
Internalized emotion + Externalized cognition = Empath
Externalized emotion + Externalized cognition = Meat head
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men or women can be any of these.
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So the complicated complex view is:
IQ + External/Internal | emotion/cognition + normal/abnormal brain cell connections density
My IQ is not low
My empathy is high
I have a normal density of connections
I am physically male
I look normal
I am 35 yo