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Loss of Interest : The Frustration

pjoa09

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A long while back, I used to enjoy playing my electric guitar. It broke and was given away.

My parents decided to make me happy by giving me a new acoustic guitar.

I no longer have the desire to play it.

It's odd because I would normally play a guitar every chance I get but then when it came down to actually getting one I felt commanded to play it.

I loathe it right now.

I see it as a waste of my time.

Yet I know I should want it.

It sounds like a good idea.

But now I just don't care about it. I want to use my time with better pursuits.

It's leading to this immense frustration.

I can't give it back because it came on a flight.

I hate it how it's so rare someone bothers to give me something as a gift but when I get it I am pissed off that they even bothered.

I feel obliged yet irritated.

I got so upset I had to go ahead and bruise my knuckles privately.

Do any of you go through this shit whenever someone gives you a gift?

It is never adequate and full of unwritten rules.

on a side note I have a feeling someone has used this avatar picture before me? has anyone?
 

The Gopher

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*deletes what he was going to write* if I were to list everything I have given up on It would be to long to read. But I want to be extra good at something, I know I can do it I came a high place in... *blurs out what he was going to say as you can find my name on the Internet if I told you.* .... well I was good anyway. But I lost interest I used to play the ukulele (which btw is much better than a guitar[Solid body electric ukulele For the win]) But... I understand exactly where you are coming from.
 

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Interesting. Recently I've been getting back in touch with the things that I lost interest in, but had a lot of interest in a long time ago. Things like painting, playing the piano, learning the guitar, and pursuing the dream career.

There are stil things that I have no interest in such as cooking and baking. I usually do it in life and death situations.
 

JLMC

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I seem to run on 6-9 month cycles, where I find something new, learn about it, and then am satisfied; sometimes I come back to things later. Unfortunately, I worry about losing the skills I once learned, but I have too many to do them all simultaneously. I sort of always imagined I would use them somehow, eventually, in some impossibly diverse job or after an apocalypse and everyone else has forgotten them :)
 

Particle

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I know where you're coming from. I go through this quite often. If I enjoy doing something, even if immensely so, but am forced or otherwise slip into a lull where that isn't done for a period, my attraction to it and the enjoyment previously derived from its performance diminishes or evaporates completely. I've found that it's easy enough to get back into it, however. I just have to get past that initial feeling of nothingness when I do it and do it anyway. After a few days, I start to crave it like I used to.

Perhaps you'd find you are the same way if you give it a serious effort. Don't feel obligated to play it, however. Feel obligated to derive some entertainment for yourself. You are obviously capable of enjoying playing since you used to, unless you are only partial to the electric guitar instead of acoustic. You might not enjoy guitar playing for the sake of the guitar but rather only enjoy one sort.
 

pjoa09

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Eh. Returning the guitar.. I told my dad, it seems like time is too short for these pursuits. There is no sense of creative air with it that I sometimes get with a classical guitar at my friends place.

Praying rust doesn't form on it so easily I did leave it a little sweaty..

Someday I will return to electric. Maybe. It is just so irritating that I have all this stuff that was of a period when I was rocking 6 hours a day on a guitar coxing every sound possible and here I am loathing a guitar and considering it a waste of money.
 

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I think that is wise. Life is very short, only concentrate on the things you can give your full attention. I do this all the time, people think I get bored with hobbies, its just that I can't give them the energy they deserve.
 

Aramea

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I have had to force myself to quit starting projects I know deep down I won't finish or will do half-assed. Still, there are incomplete things strewn about.
 

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I can definitely relate. I was given a guitar for my 14th birthday, it was sold last year when I was 23, I fiddled with it a few times but could never be consistent. I have other hobbies that follow a similar trajectory. The problem is ... I always seem to have plenty of time to waste online on stupid forums (not this one:)), but can never muster the motivation to sit down and practice. I think INTPs don't take failure very well(just a thought, do you guys agree?) and so we aren't willing to fail in order to become good. I just wish I would have stuck with SOMETHING, when I was younger so I could enjoy that hobby now. All I have is weightlifting, which I do enjoy, but that is more for health and stress relief, not creativity.
 
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