Lets talk Human Sexuality

[Nenye]

Background: So I went into college for engineering and I'm in my third year and I realized that I am a theoretical Sexually curious being. I could care less about it in a practical sense and as long as I'm surrounded with more exciting things to learn and do I can go for years without a sexual relationship (my headspace and alone time are way more fun and important anyways). In a theoretical sense, however, the thoughts, the thinking process and lack thereof, biological processes, mental: conscious and unconscious... etc that go into the moments leading to the act itself and one's sexuality: kinks and all, and views on relationships are all so fascinating.

Discussion point: I was wondering if anyone had thoughts on this and things related.

 

[Black Rose]

I have never had a sexual relationship so I do not know what it is like to be in one. Well not exactly. What I expect is o form a deep connection with someone. Not so much fun at first but to gently love them through the sexual act. They would feel the same and want to connect with me the same. It would be personality compatibility. We would need to share to same wants and needs. So we would need to share the same personality. I want to be in love and would not take just anyone. I would seek a permanent bond we both wish to have.

 

[Tenacity]

Background: So I went into college for engineering and I'm in my third year and I realized that I am a theoretical Sexually curious being. I could care less about it in a practical sense and as long as I'm surrounded with more exciting things to learn and do I can go for years without a sexual relationship (my headspace and alone time are way more fun and important anyways). In a theoretical sense, however, the thoughts, the thinking process and lack thereof, biological processes, mental: conscious and unconscious... etc that go into the moments leading to the act itself and one's sexuality: kinks and all, and views on relationships are all so fascinating.

Discussion point: I was wondering if anyone had thoughts on this and things related.

I feel similarly in that I could go probably months without needing to be sexually stimulated in any way.

That said, from my experience I have watched myself become either very bored or slightly unhappy as a result of not letting myself accept that there is some biological fulfillment that is better off satisfied.

INTPs are naturally "sapiosexual" to some extent, though I'd like to explore that term as I think it becomes important to distinguish it from a perhaps "pure" appreciation for intellect. Arguably, a lot of people are sapiosexual when considering partners in the long-term, and INTPs are more likely to have intellectual stimulation as a preference even for short-term flings.

Though, for me, it is difficult to want to get out of my shell unless an E type asks in a way that interests me, or I'll need to take initiative and try to encourage myself to be E when I sense the other person is equally or more introverted, or isn't moving things along fast enough. Most of the time, though, things actually move too fast.

I guess I'm experienced enough on this front where I actually don't care anymore because I feel like it is all under my control. But I do recall times where I would be insanely frustrated at the lack of mental stimulation I would get, or, vice versa: the conversation was great, but the actual act was not. These, I don't think, are actually confined to being INTP-specific problems, though, lol.

In general, I set very high standards for all my outings. I'm extremely, extremely selective. That said, people are so different, even if they seem to have the same personality type. There is always something to appreciate about everyone, and there is always something to be critiqued about everyone.

I am curious about what the best type compatibility is for INTPs, however if there are articles out on it, I imagine they are probably as accurate as horoscope predictions.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

There is this one hilarious fetish that I think has a lot of interesting psychological underpinnings: it’s this type of porn where one is to imagine a woman as a giant and the man as tiny, so that the woman is about 50x the size of the man. They employ digital visual effects to achieve this representation.

 

[Polaris]

Humans need to stop making fucking babies. They just grow and grow, only to become horrible babymaking machines.

 

[Marbles]

Sex is the greatest disappointment of my life. All through my adolescence I imagined it to be this ecstatic experience, but turns out an orgasm is an orgasm. Sex is like wanking, but with awkwardness and STDs.

I am curious about what the best type compatibility is for INTPs, however if there are articles out on it, I imagine they are probably as accurate as horoscope predictions.

I've read ENTJ and ENFJ. Seems about right to me, but I think I'd prefer someone who went easy on the E.

 

[Nenye]

Oml it's difficult to post everything I wanted to say so I'm just going to break it into parts

 

[Nenye]

First off, I have to say, I feel so mentally stimulated!! There's so many different views on the topic. ^^ yay!!

INTPs are naturally "sapiosexual" to some extent, though I'd like to explore that term as I think it becomes important to distinguish it from a perhaps "pure" appreciation for intellect. Arguably, a lot of people are sapiosexual when considering partners in the long-term, and INTPs are more likely to have intellectual stimulation as a preference even for short-term flings.

Though, for me, it is difficult to want to get out of my shell unless an E type asks in a way that interests me, or I'll need to take initiative and try to encourage myself to be E when I sense the other person is equally or more introverted, or isn't moving things along fast enough. Most of the time, though, things actually move too fast.

I guess I'm experienced enough on this front where I actually don't care anymore because I feel like it is all under my control. But I do recall times where I would be insanely frustrated at the lack of mental stimulation I would get, or, vice versa: the conversation was great, but the actual act was not. These, I don't think, are actually confined to being INTP-specific problems, though, lol.

In general, I set very high standards for all my outings. I'm extremely, extremely selective. That said, people are so different, even if they seem to have the same personality type. There is always something to appreciate about everyone, and there is always something to be critiqued about everyonne

I feel like I resonate heavily with a lot of what you mentioned. Especially the bit on sapiosexuality and differentiating it from an appreciation of intellect.

On a side note, I once dated an ESFJ and it was a match made in the core of HELL under the devil's armpit (not the hot one either). He kept asking me to "go out and socialize" and have mundane conversations about trends he didn't even want to do anything mentally stimulating, he thought chess was boring and he tried to turn me vegan AND make me exercise. After a long day of classes and being surrounded by humans he would ask me to hang out with his friends or would bring them to my dorm (back when I lived on campus) T.T . I file his existence under the most traumatic events in my life. NEVER AGAIN will I punish myself in such a way, but I'm sure there are people that would suit him more than me.

 

[Nenye]

Sex is the greatest disappointment of my life. All through my adolescence I imagined it to be this ecstatic experience, but turns out an orgasm is an orgasm. Sex is like wanking, but with awkwardness and STDs.

Honestly, I personally disagree, believe that it is an issue that can be rectified with knowledge. What are you looking for when you think of sex? Is what you think you're searching for, In line with your true inner desires? Do you prefer to take it slow, get to know your partner, actually let yourself experience intense infatuation or even go so far as to find your own meaning of love and let yourself experience it? Or would you hold a stronger preference for a 'wham-bam-thank-you-mam' type aka 'hump-and-dump', 'one-night stand' etc?

In the case of STDs just get tested and be specific, even in the world of kinks, consent, and safety are the most important priorities before any discussions on pleasure. As for the awkwardness, I guess that depends but if you trust your partner, there most likely would not be any at least in my opinion but generally, there is a big difference but then again the individuality of humans should not be over looked so I guess that in itself depends

 

[Nenye]

Humans need to stop making fucking babies. They just grow and grow, only to become horrible babymaking machines.

Ain't that the truth! I still want a kid though, but they'll probably be more like a way for me to study the psychological growth of a human from birth and their dependence on the maternal figure up close... unless I have a spouse that might not let me.

 

[Tenacity]

First off, I have to say, I feel so mentally stimulated!! There's so many different views on the topic. ^^ yay!!

INTPs are naturally "sapiosexual" to some extent, though I'd like to explore that term as I think it becomes important to distinguish it from a perhaps "pure" appreciation for intellect. Arguably, a lot of people are sapiosexual when considering partners in the long-term, and INTPs are more likely to have intellectual stimulation as a preference even for short-term flings.

Though, for me, it is difficult to want to get out of my shell unless an E type asks in a way that interests me, or I'll need to take initiative and try to encourage myself to be E when I sense the other person is equally or more introverted, or isn't moving things along fast enough. Most of the time, though, things actually move too fast.

I guess I'm experienced enough on this front where I actually don't care anymore because I feel like it is all under my control. But I do recall times where I would be insanely frustrated at the lack of mental stimulation I would get, or, vice versa: the conversation was great, but the actual act was not. These, I don't think, are actually confined to being INTP-specific problems, though, lol.

In general, I set very high standards for all my outings. I'm extremely, extremely selective. That said, people are so different, even if they seem to have the same personality type. There is always something to appreciate about everyone, and there is always something to be critiqued about everyonne

I feel like I resonate heavily with a lot of what you mentioned. Especially the bit on sapiosexuality and differentiating it from an appreciation of intellect.

On a side note, I once dated an ESFJ and it was a match made in the core of HELL under the devil's armpit (not the hot one either). He kept asking me to "go out and socialize" and have mundane conversations about trends he didn't even want to do anything mentally stimulating, he thought chess was boring and he tried to turn me vegan AND make me exercise. After a long day of classes and being surrounded by humans he would ask me to hang out with his friends or would bring them to my dorm (back when I lived on campus) T.T . I file his existence under the most traumatic events in my life. NEVER AGAIN will I punish myself in such a way, but I'm sure there are people that would suit him more than me.

Awesome, it is something I think about pretty often. On the one hand, non-NTs can sometimes over-appreciate intellect to the point where I'm just like, wait... can you just talk to me like a "normal" date and not some prodigy? I'm here to take a break from my brain here! Lol. Maybe I do need a break from intellect and want to just talk about how nice the weather is for once lol. On the other hand, NTs are the best people to actually talk to, in my opinion.

Woah, sorry that happened. Seems like the whole "opposites attract" thing didn't work out there, but at least it's a lesson learned, right? I'm sure there are other ESFJs that aren't like that, though they will have to be a little more considerate from the beginning. I once dated an ExFx and he also wanted to socialize, introduced me to all his friends, got offended a touch too easily at what I perceived to be lighthearted debate, but he had manners and made sure that I was emotionally comfortable once I told him about my preferences. I also once dated an ExTJ and he couldn't really express empathetic emotion at the conversational level, but was intelligent to be able to talk about anything. It was, though, to the point where he wasn't open-minded about his opinion changing. And he wasn't really able to tell whether I was comfortable or not, though - he just didn't know how to care or didn't want to care. So, didn't work out.

I occasionally have vegan meals, but would NEVER try force that upon someone. I personally have a guilty conscious because I do consume meat and I'm aware of the negative impact that has on the environment, not to mention long term effects on the heart. But I eat meat as minimally as I can so I can get adequate protein in conveniently, though I do find myself over-consuming animal-based protein in many cases. It took a lot of time for me to even learn to do it in a way where I enjoyed the food over non-vegan options, and I did it for health-related and allergy-related reasons. But, I truly do get sick far less often perhaps not because of inherent veganism, but because veganism enables me to be more conscious of in specific ingredients in foods I consume. I haven't been sick in over a year since being more conscious.

 

[Marbles]

Honestly, I personally disagree, believe that it is an issue that can be rectified with knowledge.

It is a subjective thing. To me, getting to know myself has been coming to terms with not being all that sexual. I've tried most things, and found the women I did them with quite attractive. Sex is alright just like masturbation is alright. It's like an itch, and sometimes i gotta scratch it. Perhaps I'll get more sexual in the future, perhaps not.

In the case of STDs just get tested

I am not actually worried about STDs, I was making a joke

the individuality of humans should not be over looked

Exactly

Oh, and please don't have a child as a psychological experiment.

 

[Nenye]

Awesome, it is something I think about pretty often. On the one hand, non-NTs can sometimes over-appreciate intellect to the point where I'm just like, wait... can you just talk to me like a "normal" date and not some prodigy? I'm here to take a break from my brain here! Lol. Maybe I do need a break from intellect and want to just talk about how nice the weather is for once lol. On the other hand, NTs are the best people to actually talk to, in my opinion.

yes too little and too much appreciation of intellect can be equally annoying. Over patronizing me makes me very suspicious of one's motive and I try not to do it, I only gush if, I am presented by overwhelming displays of intelligence combined with art. my brain goes " ACTIVATE FAN-GIRL MODE" I feel embarrassed afterward if I go too far though.

For healthy eating and exercise, I will admit I sometimes take my being an ectomorph for a joy ride and can eat whole loaves of bread (not the small ones, I mean the large ones) in one seating and i never have to worry about weight gain, but I do get in some strength training exercise in there now and again, I just hate the gym because there are crowds, of sweaty people. My two worst things came together and had a funky smelling baby. So gym, no thanks. but take me to a pool any day. I like floating and feeling like I'm the only being in a portion of a sanitized expanse of water

I am not actually worried about STDs, I was making a joke

Sorry, I didn't register that and I took it literally, I have a fear of STDs so I may have projected in my reasoning, my apologies. I'll admit i feel a little embarrassed for doing that.

 

[Nenye]

On a topic in my sex class, we had to draw genitals in class, and it was mentioned that a lot of people really know little to nothing about the female genitalia and orgasm. Any thoughts?

 

[Marbles]

Sorry, I didn't register that and I took it literally, I have a fear of STDs so I may have projected in my reasoning, my apologies. I'll admit i feel a little embarrassed for doing that.

No worries.

It is probably wise to be cautious. I have some promiscuous friends, and most of them have some kinds of chronic STDs, like herpes type 2. These can erode your health and mind over time, acording to some research. Just date intraverted, shy guys (if you have a taste for them, so to speak), rather than extraverted players, and risk of exposure is minimized, I guess. Nearly all pleasures are unhealthy in excess, but what's the point living without them.

 

[Marbles]

On a topic in my sex class, we had to draw genitals in class, and it was mentioned that a lot of people really know little to nothing about the female genitalia and orgasm. Any thoughts?

It doesn't help that science cannot reach consensus on basic things like whether there is a G-spot. Stay to the basics like the clitoris, though, and it isn't rocket science? My impression is that there is something to the old cliche that women are primarily aroused psychologically.

It is a testament to the self-absorption of many men that they can have sex for years without learning these things. I mean... do away with all the mysticism, and sex is pretty simple.

A central problem is that most men reach orgasm far more quickly than most women, which is backwards considering women enjoy intercourse after the first orgasm, and can reach several. Perhaps we should invent a condom brand with a weak anaesthetic on the "male" side? It would probably make maintaining erection a little harder, and I doubt it would be FDA aproved in the west, but... We could sell it on the dark web I bet it sexists already. When the feminist version of Gilead arises our condoms will be mandatory (oh the pun we're having)

 

[Nenye]

lol. so many puns. ^^.

but on the issue of a G-spot existing, it is already proven and it exists. it is discussed extensively in a book on the female sexuality by Masters and Johnson. The only thing is that the location isn't specified, just an approximate location about 2-3 inches in

On the topic of type, I only like smart guys. I only fancy people that can teach me and/or inspire me to learn as well as keep up with me mentally, the only issue is that not many people can match my thirst for knowledge so I tend to lose interest after a while. And on that note, For some reason, only introverts tend to gravitate towards me >.<

I want to try dating an ExTJ for the sake of personally experiencing this "golden pair" I've been seeing a lot of. But i'm too lazy to search so i guess i'll just stay single ^^

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

Can someone elucidate how this supposed attraction to intelligence plays out? I can say for sure that intellect never helped me in these endeavors, in fact I usually try to hide it

 

[Marbles]

But on the issue of a G-spot existing, it is already proven and it exists. it is discussed extensively in a book on the female sexuality by Masters and Johnson. The only thing is that the location isn't specified, just an approximate location about 2-3 inches in

I'd supply you litterature concerning the controversy around the g-spot, but I won't insult your intelligence: I'm sure you can do the googling yourself The g-spot has been studied since the 40ies, but never proven to exist. The prevailing opinion in the scientific community seems to be the g-spot does not exist, but it is controversial.

And on that note, For some reason, only introverts tend to gravitate towards me >.<

Oh well, less diversity, but fewer STDs. Which introverted MB type do you prefer?

I want to try dating an ExTJ for the sake of personally experiencing this "golden pair" I've been seeing a lot of. But i'm too lazy to search so i guess i'll just stay single ^^

I don't get the ESTJ pairing. ENTJ, on the other hand... Sadly ENTJ women are unicorns, usually found in the concrete jungle of corporate headquarters. I dont spend much time in corporate headquarters. Honestly, as long the N is strong, I think most pairings could work for me. I prefer the other axes balanced in a woman.

 

[Marbles]

Can someone elucidate how this supposed attraction to intelligence plays out? I can say for sure that intellect never helped me in these endeavors, in fact I usually try to hide it

Don't seem archaic, don't seem arrogant or pretentious, don't be obsessive about certain topics and seem interested in what others have to say, and women will love intelligence. That's what I hear, anyway

 

[Nenye]

Can someone elucidate how this supposed attraction to intelligence plays out? I can say for sure that intellect never helped me in these endeavors, in fact, I usually try to hide it

As a sapiophile (someone attracted to intelligence and intelligent people) from my personal experience, it's more about how your mind actually works and less to do with you "trying". From what I've heard from fellow sapiophiles and from my own personal experience, the dominant question tends to be, what can I learn from this person, that I can add to my own knowledge? How much can I learn from this person? How long will this person continue to fascinate me with their intellect and/or creativity?

Honestly, you can try as much as you like to impress a sapiophile but the moment we sole a puzzle, some of us tend to want more mental stimulation and I've heard from my previous partners that it sometimes gets hard to keep up.

 

[Nenye]

Can someone elucidate how this supposed attraction to intelligence plays out? I can say for sure that intellect never helped me in these endeavors, in fact, I usually try to hide it

As a sapiophile (someone attracted to intelligence and intelligent people) from my personal experience, it's more about how your mind actually works and less to do with you "trying". From what I've heard from fellow sapiophiles and from my own personal experience, the dominant question tends to be, what can I learn from this person, that I can add to my own knowledge? How much can I learn from this person? How long will this person continue to fascinate me with their intellect and/or creativity?

Honestly, you can try as much as you like to impress a sapiophile but the moment we solve a puzzle, some of us tend to want more mental stimulation and I've heard from my previous partners that it sometimes gets hard to keep up.

 

[Nenye]

on a side note, I like INFJ in the case if introverted MB types.

I'm not a fan of feeling types tbh, they constantly remind me of my inferior Fe, but you never feel like you need to force things with an INFJ they are so in tune with feelings it's scary. Of course, the ones I know tend to be equally captivated by the INTPs grasp on logical functions.

 

[Marbles]

Like I've already said, I'm not all that sexual, but to the extent that I am, I am very drawn to unconventionality, curiosity and, I guess, to intelligence (I dislike how one dimensional that word implies intellect is). I want someone to explore the world with. I am not so much interested in what I can learn from you, cause I doubt you could tell me much I couldn't pick up from some book or the internet, but I would love to share in someone's musings, and include someone else in mine. The companionship in finding things out together - I crave that.

on a side note, I like INFJ in the case if introverted MB types.

I'm not a fan of feeling types tbh, they constantly remind me of my inferior Fe, but you never feel like you need to force things with an INFJ they are so in tune with feelings it's scary. Of course, the ones I know tend to be equally captivated by the INTPs grasp on logical functions.

I really like INFJs, too. I sort of have a celebrity crush on Brit Marling. Are you sure you empathy is poorly developed? I know it is MBTI doctrine that INTPs struggle with Fe, but I had IBM's neural network (Watson) analyze 10,000 words I've written, and it placed me in the 100th percentile for Sympathy (empathy). Take that for what it is worth, I certainly think it is an exaggeration. Still, it would be interesting to hear how other INTPs score on that test. I might make a separate thread for that.

 

[Nenye]

when it comes to emotions and dealing with them, I feel like a child. I can't deal with crying people because what they might want is sympathy and my first response is to want to offer a solution to the problem. Which might not be what they want but it's all I have the ability to give. when I'm sad I only want solutions, I don't need people crowding around me, I'd honestly rather be left alone. I respect that everyone is different. But for all that know me, I have no sympathy to give. My empathy is the reason I will offer you perspective, and if I can, a solution. But i make it known from the beginning, "If you want sympathy, don't ask me, I have none to give, but if you want potential solutions, I will assist to the best of my ability" of course that's only for people I know enough to care enough to put an effort in for, or if I'm feeling very empathetic that day

 

[ZenRaiden]

Not a sapiophile and honestly I find it hard to relate to anyone else intelligent or oterwise. I dont find emotional display interesting. My ability to show affection is limited to "how are you?" to "have a nice day".

Seems I was born without the ability to connect with people. Idle chit chat is impossible for me. I try though for sake of social conventions. Forums are exceptions. Its kind of easy thing to deal with forum chit chat, because its just a easy going format.

Most relationships on my part are based on effort to project a human form. No I am not psychopath, but I have emotions that are rather limited to few things.

 

[Marbles]

I get very easily overstimulated, and then I just shut down. I'm pretty sure I have something like Sensory Processing Disorder. When I'm overstimulated, I get the way you describe, Zen, so... Sure you're not just overstimulated?

 

[Nenye]

Like I've already said, I'm not all that sexual, but to the extent that I am, I am very drawn to unconventionality, curiosity and, I guess, to intelligence (I dislike how one dimensional that word implies intellect is).

I almost forgot that I wanted to comment on this :P. I feel like the word intelligence can be compared to the word love. A grand topic with a lot of potential meanings packed into a small word that is used and abused by people that might not understand it's true depth. Of course, it's sad that a lot of people confuse theoretical and sometimes practical knowledge with the full embodiment intelligence, but it's the same way people tend to confuse infatuation and 'like' with love. The's also the fact that Google isn't always reliable, sadly. T.T

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

In terms of intelligence I find myself only drawn to eccentrics; people with weird ideas and obsessions. Normal people bore me to tears. Come to think of it the only woman I felt I could have a 100% natural conversation with (i.e. one where I don't have to work my ass off trying to calculate responses that will sound ordinary and meaningful to them) was this crazy lady with schizophrenia. A hyper-intelligent lady but with some unfortunate idiosyncrasies like paranoia, which meant she eventually grew suspicious of everyone shew knew.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

I don’t know about you folks but I cannot watch porn with men in it. First of all I don’t like looking at other dicks, and secondly men look stupid when they have sex.

 

[Minuend]

In terms of intelligence I find myself only drawn to eccentrics; people with weird ideas and obsessions. Normal people bore me to tears. Come to think of it the only woman I felt I could have a 100% natural conversation with (i.e. one where I don't have to work my ass off trying to calculate responses that will sound ordinary and meaningful to them) was this crazy lady with schizophrenia. A hyper-intelligent lady but with some unfortunate idiosyncrasies like paranoia, which meant she eventually grew suspicious of everyone shew knew.

The recipe for disastrous relationships. Which would feed into the idea women are shit. Fuck, dude. What habits do you have that does not fuck shit up?

 

[Kormak]

I don’t know about you folks but I cannot watch porn with men in it. First of all I don’t like looking at other dicks, and secondly men look stupid when they have sex.

That is probably a good thing. You are immune to cuckoldry..

You see.. technically when a guy watches porn he is actually watching another guy fuck a woman he is sexually attracted to... which is called cuckold fetishism.
Cuckold fetishism is a variant of masochism... :P

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

I don’t know about you folks but I cannot watch porn with men in it. First of all I don’t like looking at other dicks, and secondly men look stupid when they have sex.

That is probably a good thing. You are immune to cuckoldry..

You see.. technically when a guy watches porn he is actually watching another guy fuck a woman he is sexually attracted to... which is called cuckold fetishism.
Cuckold fetishism is a variant of masochism... :P

That's a good point lol. I mean imagine standing next to a couple having sex and jerk off to that, that would be weird as hell.

Also, considering that the man is usually physically bigger than the woman, what you mostly have on your screen is another naked dude.

 

[Black Rose]

Question: When a penis enters the vagina, what does it feel like for both participants.

Can the experience even be imagined from the other genders perspective?

 

[Kormak]

Question: When a penis enters the vagina, what does it feel like for both participants.

Can the experience even be imagined from the other genders perspective?

e_e idk... never asked a woman tbh. Ive been told my dick is hot, with all that blood in it I bet it is. Trying to imagine an almost 40-celsius dildo being shoved up my ass... but since I never had anal I can't.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

It feels like this;

 

[scorpiomover]

Honestly, you can try as much as you like to impress a sapiophile but the moment we sole a puzzle, some of us tend to want more mental stimulation and I've heard from my previous partners that it sometimes gets hard to keep up.

Pun intended?

 

[redbaron]

seems fitting that a discussion about sexuality in 2019 just ends up with people comparing porn searches

 

[Nenye]

I don’t know about you folks but I cannot watch porn with men in it. First of all I don’t like looking at other dicks, and secondly men look stupid when they have sex.

lol this is funny because i love Yaoi and bara and i have dick envy. If I could i would wish for a temporary instant penis, I'd pee in the snow then jack off then have sex with one man, then one woman, then two men, then one man and one woman then an orgy, then i would politely return the penis

 

[Nenye]

That is probably a good thing. You are immune to cuckoldry..

You see.. technically when a guy watches porn he is actually watching another guy fuck a woman he is sexually attracted to... which is called cuckold fetishism.
Cuckold fetishism is a variant of masochism... :P

That's mean, referring to the immunity to cuckoldry as good casts a light/shadow effect on the kink and is low-key kink-shaming which is upsetting.
Even though it is not my kink, I still believe that kink-shaming is wrong

 

[Nenye]

Question: When a penis enters the vagina, what does it feel like for both participants.

Can the experience even be imagined from the other genders perspective?

It probably depends. If you read the books on sexuality by masters and johnson as well as the ones written by Alfred Kinsey they talk about both male and female so it would depend on your imagination

 

[Nenye]

Honestly, you can try as much as you like to impress a sapiophile but the moment we sole a puzzle, some of us tend to want more mental stimulation and I've heard from my previous partners that it sometimes gets hard to keep up.

Pun intended?

yup lol

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

Question: When a penis enters the vagina, what does it feel like for both participants.

Can the experience even be imagined from the other genders perspective?

Tbh from my perspective sticking the ding dong into the vagina is the most boring part. It's all the intrigue that comes before that which is the coolest.

 

[Marbles]

Tbh from my perspective sticking the ding dong into the vagina is the most boring part. It's all the intrigue that comes before that which is the coolest.

I like the intrigue, I just feel like an impostor when engaging in it, cause when it comes down to the d., I'm very quickly bored. It takes me like... twenty minutes to come, which sounds much cooler than it is. Women tend to take it personally, unless you put on an Oscar performance that you're really enjoying it.

 

[Rebis]

Background: So I went into college for engineering and I'm in my third year and I realized that I am a theoretical Sexually curious being

I've had sex with dudes multiple times, pretty sure I'm not gay because the exchange was different. I done it under the influence of ecstacy, and I mean I can see why: they came on to me, I reciprocated because I don't particularly care about how I'm seen, and probably curiousity added there too. I've never had proper feelings for a guy when I'm sober, but I see it as purely organic: animals just fuck each other just for random fun, they don't consider gender, or abstract ideas that we possess like sexuality and kinks, so it should logically follow suit for us to naturally be explorative.

This isn't exclusive to INTPs, but more so a composite of our NT function and a libido, so naturally because we constantly think of ideas which we accept, reject and fantasize about, that permeates our sexual experiences into niche interests.

 

[Jared Landon]

Sex is the single most frustrating thing in life. My sexuality is something that I've never been quite able to define. I grew up feeling insecure about myself so I naturally gravitated toward pornography.

Over the years I have watched a lot of porn and you could say my tastes are quite varied. I've often wondered if it's because I watch so much porn or do I watch porn because I have so many fantasies and have no way of ever fulfilling them all.

I am a INTP-T and have Avoidant Personality Disorder so sex and relationships are not something that come easily for me. I don't have the confidence to get out and mingle and the encounters I have had are bittersweet because of my lack of confidence.

In my teens, I was friends with another INTP-T and we would watch porn and masturbate together. Although we both identified as straight we were totally comfortable seeing each other nude and sharing our sexual thoughts.

I've had a few romantic relationships with girls over the years but I still think about that friendship I use to have. In a lot of ways, it was ideal. He was the one person I felt matched my sexuality and I didn't feel inadequate around him. Maybe I'm looking at it with rose coloured glasses.

 

[Cognisant]

I'm curious how do INTPs generally have sex, I mean what positions are most used?

I usually end up on my back with the girl mounted then I pull her forwards so we can kiss and hug while I move my hips. It's very energy efficient so can go as fast and as long as I like while my hands are free to massage her ass, feel her legs, wrap her in a hug or press down on her lower back if I feel like going deeper. I tried inserting my finger into a girl's ass once and she seemed to be into it and it was fun at the time I guess but gross afterwards, I might try that again but with a butt plug or something.

I've been complimented on my butt massaging skills which is kinda funny because there's seemingly no wrong way to go about it, just go for it, the harder the better apparently and don't stop there, slap it, pinch it, pull it, spread it, squeeze it like it owes you money, wiggle it, play bongos, if you can get her laughing all the better. Something I've found particularity effective is getting my fingers into that boundary where the ass ends and the thigh begins, go as far around as you can get and try to simultaneously massage her inner thighs and spread her pussy while still massaging her ass with your thumbs and pumping from below, it gets a reaction.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

Different women react to things differently. As the great Bruce lee famously said, “It you put cum into a cup, it becomes the cup. If you put cum into a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Be cum, my friend”

 

[Rebis]

I fumble around in great anxiety, then I ask if what i'm looking at is a breast, if she says yes I run for my inhaler and take 4 rapid gasps of air. I put on my super cape along with my hero-mask as the eye-slits reduce my peripheral vision and focus solely on the nipple. I mount her as if I was traversing camelback across the sahara desert and tell her with a seductively domineering tone "Let's get it on, baby. It's on like Donkey Kong."

 

[Jared Landon]

I often think my ideal romantic situation would be a MFM relationship with a close buddy and a shared girlfriend. I guess it's the combination of exhibitionism and voyeurism and the blend of great friendship with experimental sexuality.