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Jordan Peterson's Misappropriation of Self Improvement

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You're wrong that I'm not diplomatic. You're wrong that I never use gentle words.

I think @scorpiomover's point is that you are diplomatic and use gentle words selectively to a selective audience, not that you never do these things.
 

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If someone is not making sense, they're not using the reason and logic tools in their language toolbox.
If someone is unnecessarily degrading language, they're not using the diplomacy, persuasion and rhetoric tools in their language toolbox.
If someone is not making sense when they are making claims, they're not using the decision-making tools in their language toolbox.

What is the point of a toolbox whose tools are never used?

When they write this (green emphasis mine), after taking issue with my use of harsh language, they are saying I am not using diplomacy, persuasion, or rhetoric.

They then ask what the point of having a toolbox is if you never use the tools.

To me, this reads as saying I am never diplomatic. I don't see how you arrive at your interpretation there (I could be missing something), but I would be much more receptive to your interpretation as I think it holds a lot more water. I treat different people differently.
 

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If someone is not making sense, they're not using the reason and logic tools in their language toolbox.
If someone is unnecessarily degrading language, they're not using the diplomacy, persuasion and rhetoric tools in their language toolbox.
If someone is not making sense when they are making claims, they're not using the decision-making tools in their language toolbox.

What is the point of a toolbox whose tools are never used?

When they write this (green emphasis mine), after taking issue with my use of harsh language, they are saying I am not using diplomacy, persuasion, or rhetoric.

They then ask what the point of having a toolbox is if you never use the tools.

To me, this reads as saying I am never diplomatic. I don't see how you arrive at your interpretation there (I could be missing something), but I would be much more receptive to your interpretation as I think it holds a lot more water. I treat different people differently.

I mean they say this:

I commend that you have a sense of reason and justice within you.
 

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Right. Gotta admit I'm not clear on what's meant there.

I assumed they were saying that I was being proactively harsh and not in response to a specific position and that from Scorpio's perspective, a productive discussion following it does not change the fact I was being uncivil. I can't reasonably claim that my intention behind the language was to address an "extremist" position, because that position had not been stated yet. So actually I was just being uncivil.

Is this wrong?
 

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Right. Gotta admit I'm not clear on what's meant there.

I assumed they were saying that I was being proactively harsh and not in response to a specific position and that from Scorpio's perspective, a productive discussion following it does not change the fact I was being uncivil. I can't reasonably claim that my intention behind the language was to address an "extremist" position, because that position had not been stated yet. So actually I was just being uncivil.

Is this wrong?

I think, from @scorpiomover's position, it is that you are not being "fair" with what you are saying and not calling a spade a spade. Rather, you are "attacking" a specific PoV without accounting for various positions. That's why, as I said, it seems Scorpio is saying you are not being "diplomatic and gentle" with your words.
 

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Mmm I'm losing the plot again. I think you've helped clarify what needs straightening out but I'll wait on Scorpio to state what they mean. No point speculating further.
 

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"Incremental improvement scales exponentially."

"It's the oscillating self-corrective process that leads you to the final star"

"You don't experience happiness except in relationship to a goal"

"We have to consciously decide that we're going to do everything we can as individuals to walk in the light and to regard that as a noble and heroic endeavor."
All of the assertions are bullshit.

There is nothing known as incremental improvement but there is something known as rational thinking. He should try using it once.
Secondly, it is not an oscillating self-corrective process. It is a matter of closing in on irrational gaps that cause stupid behaviors. Again, be knowledgeable and be aware, that is much easier that imagining some kind of psychic pendulum. Trial and error is the key, not victimization and hopeless expectations
Thirdly, experiencing happiness except in relationship to a goal is a sure way of committing sepukku. It is a sure-fire way of ensuring a narcissistic personality
And lastly, there is always going to be a gap between intentions and outcomes - Absurdism. There is nothing that is noble and heroic but there is something better than that - Attempt to reduce suffering in the world by doing things that matter, for instance, being a good teacher and not post asinine YouNoob videos on How To Be A Cunt.

I cannot believe this rotting pile of bones was a professor. As time passes he keeps barking absolutely unthinking crap. This is probably one of the worst things he has said. That being said, I don't want this forum making him more popular than he already is. He is an attention whore who will say yawp anything for views and attention.
 

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In that sense I think it's justified to make a wholesale judgment on Peterson and "execute" him just like we did with other harmful figures. If you add things up he's more harmful than he's helpful. It's especially important to communicate this to the audiences that can't make this judgment on their own. Some audiences just need to hear that someone is bad influence and should be avoided and there lies the value of such cancellings and executions
I completely agree with you. He is a typical anti-intellectual public figure who runs around in the garb of being some kind of alternative truth teller. His bullshit is definitely more harmful than good. Not one thing he says can actually help people self-actualize in any manner.

But if I said "study for 10 minutes, then increase that by 1% every day", if you follow my advice your improvement to time studying would improve exponentially until you reached your goal.
10 minutes of studying? What kind of garbage metric is that, also what is the point of adding 1% of 10 minutes, then 11, then 12? Hell if your attention span is 10 minutes then you should be a retard, whoopsie, aren't you already since you are watching JP's noble mission against ??? ?

. He's just a forward-thinking salesman
He is the modern reincarnation of Edison. Some garbage entrepreneur who is sustaining himself purely due to inflated ego and tiny penis complex inasmuch he has to continuously seek validation by pulling stupid stunts, eating up patents, destroy budding talented persons who could actually do something good, eat and shit government money by slowly turning into Too Big To Fail and now he is scamming people to nudge them into invest in Cryptocurrency.
 

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IQ: having a high IQ
Metacomprehension: knowing how high your IQ is and in which ways you excel

People with high IQs tend to be trash at metacomprehension in my experience. They disproportionately feel entitled to being treated as if they are correct without having to demonstrate it, and they have the mental flexibility to justify incongruities in real-time so create a low feedback environment for themselves.

A gifted youngster might be 5head nippon steel gyrificated 10'000 times big brain, but metacomprehension usually requires a lot of experience to acquire. In this way it's more like wisdom than intelligence. While my IQ hasn't really changed over the course of my lifetime, I now understand myself much better than when I was 20, for example.

I am above average also 103 (hehe). After much research, I discovered I have ADD, Autism, and anxiety/bipolar. But also I have much metacognition. I seem to retain the essence. I move around my problems cognitively and get to the point. I keep a quiet mind to do so and perceive answers. I am incapable of generating reasons. The difference is it is not new in a thinking way, I don't think I perceive it. And if I have to think it does not come out. I have absorbed a lot because I take things in. But it is not vision. And it is not thinking. It is an invisible perception. Metacognition shifts variables around. How should thinking be done? How can it be done? Like a skill, it can improve.

How thinking can happen in what ways cognition happens is not what most people focus on. Thinking on its own is not thinking about thinking. I perceive thought. I observe from within. The head. It is what thoughts get made up. and it is slow in my case. So in my case, I look closely at how they happen. High IQ people have the problem of never observing their thoughts.

Basically, I just observe my thoughts. Creating insight.

But we all have problems observing thoughts not just high IQ.

cognitive control is not IQ dependent.
 

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It's a really "feel good" message that you can improve indefinitely, but it is just not a reality and Jordan Peterson seems to not acknowledge this.
I think the real message should be that growth is possible always. Its certainly not infinite or even necessary all the time.

People like Jordan Peterson are inspirational speakers often talking to audience that I think are looking for inspiration. So as psychologist he often talks to people who have problems? Would make sense that he would address his audience as wanting improving. With this territory a bit of hype might exist.
 

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It's a really "feel good" message that you can improve indefinitely, but it is just not a reality and Jordan Peterson seems to not acknowledge this.
I think the real message should be that growth is possible always. Its certainly not infinite or even necessary all the time.

People like Jordan Peterson are inspirational speakers often talking to audience that I think are looking for inspiration. So as psychologist he often talks to people who have problems? Would make sense that he would address his audience as wanting improving. With this territory a bit of hype might exist.

Yes, there is plenty of hype in what JP says and the way he advocates about himself.

I remember going to his online "store" and was flabbergasted at the prices. What exactly does he need with all that money? And people are willing to pay because he makes their life better. As @Hadoblado has said, some of his advice is very basic, but if you don't know this advice and you take it, it will help you a lot.

Still, my whole point was that JP seems to think in a mystical world where advancement from your previous state has no limit if you work in time (including things of an almost supernatural fruition of improvement). He's gone on record saying he has no idea what the "upper limit" of self-improvement is. It's kind of a meme for him.

Here's a video that I think has some good things but is mostly psychobabble.

 

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But isn't the upper limit somewhat undefined? So not knowing the upper limit is reasonable. Has he said that he doesn't believe there is one?
 

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But isn't the upper limit somewhat undefined? So not knowing the upper limit is reasonable. Has he said that he doesn't believe there is one?

He has said he does not know what the upper limit is and I think he includes with this some sort of supernatural phenomenon. It is basically willing yourself to transcend, which I don't believe is possible to do by your own actions, but requires action from God on you.
 

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Well, I don't think God is relevant to what he's saying, but agree that without the imposition of external forces it doesn't make sense to say you're transcending a limitation unless you're somehow scoping those limitations.

I am assuming that he's talking about overcoming obstacles in a more natural sense, but if he's not, then I agree he's bullshitting.
 

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Well, I don't think God is relevant to what he's saying, but agree that without the imposition of external forces it doesn't make sense to say you're transcending a limitation unless you're somehow scoping those limitations.

I am assuming that he's talking about overcoming obstacles in a more natural sense, but if he's not, then I agree he's bullshitting.

It's probably not supernatural proper, but more or less acts like it is supernatural, meaning, there may be a naturalistic explanation for it, but it basically defies all our understanding of natural order. Sorry if that is confusing.

This idea of things not being supernatural but natural in a way that defies our knowledge is something I've thought about some. I think there are a great many things that religious people consider things to be supernatural that are actually natural and a good deal of naturalist people consider things to be natural that is actually supernatural.

For example, I think coincidences are in some sense supernatural. Now, one might say it is only that you noticed that it is a coincidence that it appears to be supernatural and these things happen all the time whether we know it or not. But then one must ask why we did notice it at all or why we only notice it sometimes and not other times. To me, this simply points to the brain being so sophisticated that it thinks for us in that it is processing information we are not conscious of. So if this is the natural explanation for coincidences, then it only means that our brain thinks this particular coincidence is noteworthy. So what is the reason it is noteworthy if it has no significance? And if it is significant then it is out of the norm. And if it is out of the norm, it may be supernatural.
 

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That's an entire other (interesting) discussion but it'd probably just turn into determinism again. A lot of attentional biases are demonstrably reducible IMO. "Supernatural" does a lot of work in how people think about this stuff - for me if it's real it's natural whether we know of it or not with the only possible exception being God or his equivalent acting as an ultimate definition of the boundary of the natural system (and even then it's debatable). If souls exist, they are just part of the natural system we haven't figured out etc.
 

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You're wrong that I'm not diplomatic. You're wrong that I never use gentle words.

I'm sorry but I can't take you seriously when you just make shit up like this. Just block me if my words are so offensive.
You set the rules here:
I'm sorry if what I said offended you, but dialogue between perspectives can't happen with this level of language policing.
I'm just following your example.
 

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Do you think that all those women who bought and read 50 Shades because Oprah recommended it in her book club, are women with mommy issues? I don't see a basis to even begin the suggestion.
This is the bones of a decent point. But defending this position doesn't interest me (so I won't). I pick and choose my battles
What's the point of anyone talking with you, if the only time you're willing to reach agreement with other people, is when you are confident you will get your way? It's not going to be good for other people long term, because you hold them irrational when they don't agree with you, but don't show them the same respect.

, and I don't think this is one that will result in changed minds. You are free to attack the position all you want, but anyone who believes that JP is a surrogate father figure won't be convinced. For a few years there the internet was submerged in JP content - beliefs that people hold have an enormous prior that won't be outweighed by a single conversation.
Since you've conceded that my point was a decent one, and it's only a simple point that almost anyone could understand, then you're contending that people no longer accept things like reason, evidence and logic, as a basis for changing their minds. It sounds like you've given up on humans following reason, logic, evidence, science, rationality, natural law, and left-wing ideology, and thus expect that left-wingers support left-wing views for invalid reasons.
 

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If someone is not making sense, they're not using the reason and logic tools in their language toolbox.
If someone is unnecessarily degrading language, they're not using the diplomacy, persuasion and rhetoric tools in their language toolbox.
If someone is not making sense when they are making claims, they're not using the decision-making tools in their language toolbox.

What is the point of a toolbox whose tools are never used?
When they write this (green emphasis mine), after taking issue with my use of harsh language, they are saying I am not using diplomacy, persuasion, or rhetoric.
If the shoe fits.

They then ask what the point of having a toolbox is if you never use the tools.
Then they're asking why you and others who express such sentiments, claim to value things like logic, reason, rationality, evidence and science, when you don't actually use those things when you can. It's like a preacher who preaches fidelity but cheats on his wife. Would you think anyone should agree with such a person?

To me, this reads as saying I am never diplomatic.
It's asking if you ever are diplomatic, and when, and thus if there's a pattern.

I don't see how you arrive at your interpretation there (I could be missing something), but I would be much more receptive to your interpretation as I think it holds a lot more water. I treat different people differently.
What would you think of someone who described you as agreeing with left-wingers because you seek a daddy figure to tell you what to think?
 

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Still, my whole point was that JP seems to think in a mystical world where advancement from your previous state has no limit if you work in time (including things of an almost supernatural fruition of improvement). He's gone on record saying he has no idea what the "upper limit" of self-improvement is.
It's what my last group therapist said.

Everyone in my group raved about how she had massively transformed their lives for the better, including violent men, depressed men, depressed women, and women who would get frustrated a lot by the men in their lives.

I've never seen or heard of such a level of improvement in therapy. If I had not seen & heard it with my own eyes and ears, I probably would have been sceptical. But I did hear it and see it from several different people, all of which were very sceptical when they joined the group, from their own admission.

I can't deny those kinds of results.
 

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Still, my whole point was that JP seems to think in a mystical world where advancement from your previous state has no limit if you work in time (including things of an almost supernatural fruition of improvement). He's gone on record saying he has no idea what the "upper limit" of self-improvement is.
It's what my last group therapist said.

Everyone in my group raved about how she had massively transformed their lives for the better, including violent men, depressed men, depressed women, and women who would get frustrated a lot by the men in their lives.

I've never seen or heard of such a level of improvement in therapy. If I had not seen & heard it with my own eyes and ears, I probably would have been sceptical. But I did hear it and see it from several different people, all of which were very sceptical when they joined the group, from their own admission.

I can't deny those kinds of results.

Just a couple things...

People have to want to change. Without that, no amount of "self-help" is going to help at all.

I've been in group therapy before and what I can say is that I've gotten more of a transformation in my life by a three-hour conversation with someone than going to group therapy for about 2 years 3 days a week.

The point is, people going from dysfunctional to relatively normal isn't that hard with the right tools (like CBT etc). But it's much harder to get relatively ordinary people to a super high place. I think one of the reasons for this is IQ. People actively want to get to their peak performance, and when they get there, the progress stops.
 

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When I say I don't see scope for minds to change, that's both mine and yours. I have limited time, and I get to choose how I spend it. I'm not going to voluntarily waste my time wrestling in the gutter over nothing. What's more, I don't care if you think JP isn't a conservative daddy figure. It really doesn't matter to me. I don't understand why you feel entitled to not only police my language, but to dictate to me what I argue over. I'm agreeing to disagree but you're what...? Disagreeing to disagree?

What I want is a fruitful discussion. You are hyper-focusing on something I don't care about. If someone puts down a strong argument that challenges my belief JP is a daddy figure, I'll respond. But I think that's not a reasonable expectation because it's not something I feel I could prove if I believed it. So my expectations for fruitful discussion within that domain are zero.

Re: Diplomatic
There are absolutely patterns. I tend to respond based on the stakes and on my relationship with that person. My relationship with you is one where lots of time is spent but little changing of minds occurs. I don't think either of us benefits and so I'm avoidant especially when there are no stakes.

Re: Leftist Daddy
I wouldn't care. Go ahead. Naom Chomsky and Bernie Sanders are leftist daddies. Do you think that progressives don't cop negative framing? Keep in mind, I didn't accuse any particular individual. My claim was that there exist people attracted to JP as a father figure. Keep in mind, my intention when I said that was to argue for JP, and potentially against Musk.
 

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People have to want to change. Without that, no amount of "self-help" is going to help at all.
I heard that many times in regards to therapy. It seemed to make sense at first glance, and many people said it. I just accepted it unquestioningly. Now, I know that "people" are often wrong. So I'm questioning it. Do you have a solid logical proof that it must be true? Do you have solid empirical evidence that it's consistently true in real life? If not, then how do we know that it's true? Maybe it might be false?

I've been in group therapy before and what I can say is that I've gotten more of a transformation in my life by a three-hour conversation with someone than going to group therapy for about 2 years 3 days a week.
I had that happen to me a couple of times. I wasn't going to go to uni until I had a 2-hour conversation. So I agree that can happen.

But I didn't get a 2-hour conversation about being confident and motivated at work. So I had a great degree, but not a strong work situation that would have made it beneficial to society and to other people that I got a degree.

So while I agree that therapy isn't necessary, it won't help either unless someone has a 2-3 hour conversation with us about the issues that hold us back.

The point is, people going from dysfunctional to relatively normal isn't that hard with the right tools (like CBT etc). But it's much harder to get relatively ordinary people to a super high place. I think one of the reasons for this is IQ. People actively want to get to their peak performance, and when they get there, the progress stops.
From what I understand, getting off drug addiction is very difficult, and many people don't do it for decades. However, as with the above statement about conversations vs therapy, most people who aren't showing socially-recognised severe dysfunction like drug addiction don't seem to get the amount of help that someone would be given in a 3-month rehab course.

So again, I'm not sure if your claim is true. Do you have proof?
 

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What I want is a fruitful discussion.
That's why I hyper-focussed on claiming that people like JP is a daddy figure. My INTP intuition drew me to this issue. When I get drawn to questions like this, that is normally when I get much greater understanding about how things really work that most people, and usually come to an understanding that only experts have. So for me, these sorts of questions are where I get the most fruitful stuff. If you engaged with these questions, you could have some REALLY fruitful discussions.

When I read your post saying that, I immediately accepted it at face value. But then my Fe said "That doesn't sound nice to JP fans. Are you sure you're being fair to them?" Then my Si popped in and said "Do you have any evidence of this? Have you seen fans of JP doing the things that people with daddy issues do?" Then my Ti and Ne popped in and started saying "Does it make sense to seek out an academic for daddy issues?" and other things. I thought about it some more. I realised that things weren't that straightforward.

Then my Ne asked "What would happen if it wasn't true, but people BELIEVED it was true?" Si answered "People who believe something like that about a group of people, tend to completely dismiss anything they say, and even get aggressive and threaten violence and oppression against the people they believe such things about."

My Ti pointed out that if JP said things that would make people question an evil strategy that had hoodwinked lots of people, then such a viewpoint would stop the people who had been hoodwinked from questioning, and would keep them controlled.

So there's a lot that might be learned from analysing the source of your reasoning that led to your conclusion, and why the world is the way it is right now.

Re: Diplomatic
There are absolutely patterns. I tend to respond based on the stakes and on my relationship with that person. My relationship with you is one where lots of time is spent but little changing of minds occurs. I don't think either of us benefits and so I'm avoidant especially when there are no stakes.
Yes, I agree. But WHY? I like it when people change my mind in conversation. See my post to @Old Things . I like it when other people learn from me. I get the impression that you feel similarly. So why then wouldn't there be a lot of changing of minds? Whatever it is, getting past that could lead to really fruitful conversations.

Re: Leftist Daddy
I wouldn't care. Go ahead. Naom Chomsky and Bernie Sanders are leftist daddies. Do you think that progressives don't cop negative framing? Keep in mind, I didn't accuse any particular individual. My claim was that there exist people attracted to JP as a father figure.
OK. But there probably exists people who were attracted to Charles Manson, and Lenin, as daddy figures. So I'm not sure of the relevance.

Keep in mind, my intention when I said that was to argue for JP, and potentially against Musk.
This one too makes me wonder. For several years, left-wing people were raving about how wonderful Musk was. They all seemed like Fanbois. Then Musk said that he was pro-Trump, and suddenly left-wingers were demonising Musk like he was worse than Stalin. Such a dramatic and permanent change over such a short space of time, has made me wonder if the things that left-wing people believe, are really true, or just that they've been cleverly manipulated.
 

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Self-improvement and therapy is about the long-term. Things don’t change over night they take time and it’s gradual. The quality of the therapist is important but also the willingness of the client to do the work, as they won’t change without a lot of work and effort.
 

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That's why I hyper-focussed on claiming that people like JP is a daddy figure. My INTP intuition drew me to this issue. When I get drawn to questions like this, that is normally when I get much greater understanding about how things really work that most people, and usually come to an understanding that only experts have. So for me, these sorts of questions are where I get the most fruitful stuff. If you engaged with these questions, you could have some REALLY fruitful discussions.

Why? Because we don't speak the same language. I have criteria I need to meet before changing beliefs and the way you approach conversation does not meet them. I either need to respect you as an authority on something I don't understand (to open up my worldview), or I need airtight arguments based on premises that I accept (to convince me of a position).

You know that toolbox I was talking about? Well, while I'm sure you have tools in yours, you don't have the right tools for this task. I also don't have the right tools for changing your mind either (nor do I really understand what they are). You say you're logical, and you say you regularly become an expert from casual online conversations, but the way you use these words is different to how I think of these words.

Re: Musk
I was curious about Musk for a while, I like futurism and he was the face of it. But I grew to dislike him well before he publically became conservative. I'm not interested in the tribal nonsense. I stan JP despite him being conservative because I think the world is better for his influence even if I personally dislike him and his politics. I like Musk's reusable rockets, but he deliberately over-promises far too much and has a long history of machiavellian behaviour.
 

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You know about Musk, his father has come up on the media telling people he isn't proud of his son. To me that's kind of telling. His mom seems to pamper in his fame though.

That family dynamic alone tells me there's something off in the background.

I think when the fame wears off and his relvance fades, he won't be able to satisfy his rasion d'etre. I'm not sure how much investment he's done as it pertains to people- like, family level stuff. I wonder if it'll turn out okay for him.
 

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People have to want to change. Without that, no amount of "self-help" is going to help at all.
I heard that many times in regards to therapy. It seemed to make sense at first glance, and many people said it. I just accepted it unquestioningly. Now, I know that "people" are often wrong. So I'm questioning it. Do you have a solid logical proof that it must be true? Do you have solid empirical evidence that it's consistently true in real life? If not, then how do we know that it's true? Maybe it might be false?

Well, I mean, we don't really have "proof" of a lot of things, but that doesn't mean they are not true. It seems the PoV that works against my own is that if we simply educate people then they will change. But that PoV also would require proof. So I could turn it on you and say, "Do you have proof that the opposite PoV is correct?" And I think even in this very post we have evidence that my PoV is at least valid.

I've been in group therapy before and what I can say is that I've gotten more of a transformation in my life by a three-hour conversation with someone than going to group therapy for about 2 years 3 days a week.
I had that happen to me a couple of times. I wasn't going to go to uni until I had a 2-hour conversation. So I agree that can happen.

But I didn't get a 2-hour conversation about being confident and motivated at work. So I had a great degree, but not a strong work situation that would have made it beneficial to society and to other people that I got a degree.

So while I agree that therapy isn't necessary, it won't help either unless someone has a 2-3 hour conversation with us about the issues that hold us back.

Right, but you were willing to have the conversation? That is what it sounds like to me. It was based on you wanting to better yourself to have the conversation. So while the conversation was not a complete answer for you, it did get you into uni (IIRC) because you were willing to have a conversation.

The point is, people going from dysfunctional to relatively normal isn't that hard with the right tools (like CBT etc). But it's much harder to get relatively ordinary people to a super high place. I think one of the reasons for this is IQ. People actively want to get to their peak performance, and when they get there, the progress stops.
From what I understand, getting off drug addiction is very difficult, and many people don't do it for decades. However, as with the above statement about conversations vs therapy, most people who aren't showing socially-recognised severe dysfunction like drug addiction don't seem to get the amount of help that someone would be given in a 3-month rehab course.

So again, I'm not sure if your claim is true. Do you have proof?

You could be right that people who are mostly ordinary don't have the tools to get to a high place. But I think in some sense society in the west is meant to get ordinary people to a high place. That's why we have universities and such.

About drug addiction: yes, many people go through treatment centers all the time and don't quit drugs. The question is why don't they quit? Because if it is simply a matter of education to get people to improve, then drug addicts wouldn't have to go through treatment so many times before they quit. The people who have success to quit drugs is because they want to get rid of drugs. Let me illustrate it this way: The difference is in a court order to go to treatment vs voluntarily going to treatment because the person wants to get off drugs. Now, these are not hard and fast lines, but I think it is evidence for my view (as opposed to proof) because often times people who are forced to do something, well, their heart isn't in it, so they don't take it seriously.
 

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OK. But there probably exists people who were attracted to Charles Manson, and Lenin, as daddy figures. So I'm not sure of the relevance.
You're correct. I downplayed the extent of the initial phrase. It wasn't just that "there exist people who use JP as a surrogate for their absent father", it was also that "there is a systematic bias in his audience towards people with this need". What I meant when I failed to adequately clarify was that I did not mean everyone who is a fan of JP is looking for a new dad.
 

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Well, I mean, we don't really have "proof" of a lot of things, but that doesn't mean they are not true.
If you don't have proof that something is true or false, then you don't know if it's true or false, and you need to treat it as though you don't know if it's true or false, or one day, you'll discover that it's true when you treated it as if it was false, or you'll discover that it's false when you treated it as if it was true, and you'll realise that you've been going against reality all that time.

It seems the PoV that works against my own is that if we simply educate people then they will change. But that PoV also would require proof. So I could turn it on you and say, "Do you have proof that the opposite PoV is correct?"
If you notice, I agree that that which is not conclusively proved true and not conclusively proved false is something where it could be true or could be false and we don't know if it's true or false.

Right, but you were willing to have the conversation?
Not particularly.

That is what it sounds like to me. It was based on you wanting to better yourself to have the conversation.
No. It was based on the fact that the person talking to me, talked to me in a way that I understood, not just theoretically, but in a practical way that I could actually implement for myself in my life.

So while the conversation was not a complete answer for you, it did get you into uni (IIRC) because you were willing to have a conversation.
No, because other people said that I should go to uni, and yet that had no effect for almost 5 years. It was the way he said it that made the difference.

You could be right that people who are mostly ordinary don't have the tools to get to a high place. But I think in some sense society in the west is meant to get ordinary people to a high place. That's why we have universities and such.
I would say that Western countries are liberal, and liberalism seems to include not oppressing people by keeping them down. But I keep hearing of lots of examples when that isn't the case, so much so, that many people, like African-Americans, are said to be kept down by "hidden racism" and "systemic racism".

About drug addiction: yes, many people go through treatment centers all the time and don't quit drugs. The question is why don't they quit? Because if it is simply a matter of education to get people to improve, then drug addicts wouldn't have to go through treatment so many times before they quit.
Depends on the teacher, and thus, on the way they've been taught. I've had students who were unable to grasp even basic arithmetic all the way through school into their 40s, who gained very good competency in arithmetic in only 8 lessons.

Also, 8 out of 10 gained remarkable success. I was unable to teach 2 of them. There seems to be no magic formula for education. Different people need different styles of teaching.

The people who have success to quit drugs is because they want to get rid of drugs. Let me illustrate it this way: The difference is in a court order to go to treatment vs voluntarily going to treatment because the person wants to get off drugs. Now, these are not hard and fast lines, but I think it is evidence for my view (as opposed to proof) because often times people who are forced to do something, well, their heart isn't in it, so they don't take it seriously.
If they volunteered, then they've decided that they'll do whatever it takes to get off drugs. So even if there are no treatments, they'll seek out their own means of getting off drugs. But that kind of willpower is very rare. If that's your ansewr, then 99% of humanity is doomed to never overcome any one of their problems, and that means the chance of any one person overcoming all of their problems is less likely than Hell freezing over.

Also, I met someone who was forced to get off drugs, and did get off drugs. So forcing people to do things can work, as long as they recognise afterwards that it's in their interest to not go back to doing drugs.
 

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OK. But there probably exists people who were attracted to Charles Manson, and Lenin, as daddy figures. So I'm not sure of the relevance.
You're correct. I downplayed the extent of the initial phrase. It wasn't just that "there exist people who use JP as a surrogate for their absent father", it was also that "there is a systematic bias in his audience towards people with this need". What I meant when I failed to adequately clarify was that I did not mean everyone who is a fan of JP is looking for a new dad.
Keeping it short: I already took that into account. But your claim doesn't make objective sense. It only makes subjective sense, if we assume that almost everyone in the world already does all the things that JP advises, and it would be considered abnormal and a sign of extreme mental illness not to do so, and that JP's book was refused by every publisher because it was so obvious that no-one would want to buy his book.

Longer version:
I could see that your claim might not have been true of everyone, and still could have been true as a general trend.

But even as a general trend, it doesn't make sense. The types of people who would be supposed to like JP because of daddy issues, are people who are supposed to embrace traditional views of masculinity. They would see Hulk Hogan or The Rock as a daddy figure they would want to listen to, who have the opposite traits of an academic like JP. They have a systemic bias in his audience to not listen to people like JP.

Further, people with a need for a daddy figure, tend to oppose people who say "clean your room". So there's a strong systemic bias against listening to people who say the sorts of things that JP says.

So objectively, fans of JP generally don't have daddy issues.

However, subjectively, if someone were to believe that everyone in the entire world always cleans their room every day, except for the rare minority who refuse to do what is reasonable unless they are explicitly told to do so by a man, then it would make sense to say that fans of JP must have daddy issues, on the basis that everyone without daddy issues would alread have been doing what JP was saying since before JP was born.

But if everyone was already cleaning their room, then we would expect that 99% of people would say that what JP was saying was "obvious" and unnecessary since everyone was already doing it. His publisher would have probably told him that his book would not sell enough copies to make it worth publishing. So if all of the publishers JP had contacted, had refused to publish his book, and so he had personally paid for his book to be published, and he made a massive loss on his book, then it would make sense that the only fans of JP would be people with daddy issues.

Is it the case that almost every person in the world automatically always cleans their room without having to be nagged and nagged by their parents and others?

Was JP's book rejected by all publishers because it was so obvious and unnecessary that almost no-one would buy it?

Is not cleaning your room and other things that JP has advised, so abnormal that it's considered a strong indicator of serious mental illness?
 

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Well, I mean, we don't really have "proof" of a lot of things, but that doesn't mean they are not true.
If you don't have proof that something is true or false, then you don't know if it's true or false, and you need to treat it as though you don't know if it's true or false, or one day, you'll discover that it's true when you treated it as if it was false, or you'll discover that it's false when you treated it as if it was true, and you'll realise that you've been going against reality all that time.

The question is whether we need 100% proof to hold a belief about something. What if the evidence for something being true was 95% proof, but was not 100% proof? Then you would be justified in believing that the evidence is true. Now, if the evidence for something is 45% proof and the evidence against it is 55% then you could very well be agnostic about that evidence. But if it was more extreme and the evidence against it was 80% then you would not be justified in believing it.

It seems the PoV that works against my own is that if we simply educate people then they will change. But that PoV also would require proof. So I could turn it on you and say, "Do you have proof that the opposite PoV is correct?"
If you notice, I agree that that which is not conclusively proved true and not conclusively proved false is something where it could be true or could be false and we don't know if it's true or false.

I'd refer you to this video in that case:


Right, but you were willing to have the conversation?
Not particularly.

Fair enough. Doesn't apply in your case then.

That is what it sounds like to me. It was based on you wanting to better yourself to have the conversation.
No. It was based on the fact that the person talking to me, talked to me in a way that I understood, not just theoretically, but in a practical way that I could actually implement for myself in my life.

But you were open to what they were saying in the conversation? Many people believe things in spite of the evidence and do so irrationally.

So while the conversation was not a complete answer for you, it did get you into uni (IIRC) because you were willing to have a conversation.
No, because other people said that I should go to uni, and yet that had no effect for almost 5 years. It was the way he said it that made the difference.

Alright, then you must think if you educate people (in the right way) then that's all you need?

You could be right that people who are mostly ordinary don't have the tools to get to a high place. But I think in some sense society in the west is meant to get ordinary people to a high place. That's why we have universities and such.
I would say that Western countries are liberal, and liberalism seems to include not oppressing people by keeping them down. But I keep hearing of lots of examples when that isn't the case, so much so, that many people, like African-Americans, are said to be kept down by "hidden racism" and "systemic racism".

Yeah, I have no strong opinion on systemic racism.

About drug addiction: yes, many people go through treatment centers all the time and don't quit drugs. The question is why don't they quit? Because if it is simply a matter of education to get people to improve, then drug addicts wouldn't have to go through treatment so many times before they quit.
Depends on the teacher, and thus, on the way they've been taught. I've had students who were unable to grasp even basic arithmetic all the way through school into their 40s, who gained very good competency in arithmetic in only 8 lessons.

Also, 8 out of 10 gained remarkable success. I was unable to teach 2 of them. There seems to be no magic formula for education. Different people need different styles of teaching.

Education is more like an art than a science. That seems to be what you are saying.

The people who have success to quit drugs is because they want to get rid of drugs. Let me illustrate it this way: The difference is in a court order to go to treatment vs voluntarily going to treatment because the person wants to get off drugs. Now, these are not hard and fast lines, but I think it is evidence for my view (as opposed to proof) because often times people who are forced to do something, well, their heart isn't in it, so they don't take it seriously.
If they volunteered, then they've decided that they'll do whatever it takes to get off drugs. So even if there are no treatments, they'll seek out their own means of getting off drugs. But that kind of willpower is very rare. If that's your ansewr, then 99% of humanity is doomed to never overcome any one of their problems, and that means the chance of any one person overcoming all of their problems is less likely than Hell freezing over.

Also, I met someone who was forced to get off drugs, and did get off drugs. So forcing people to do things can work, as long as they recognise afterwards that it's in their interest to not go back to doing drugs.

I don't think it is that black and white. All I'm trying to say is that if you want to improve yourself that can help you improve (see permissivism from the video).
 
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