Joking in expense of other

[ItsRelative]

What's with the lame jokes when with group of friends? My mind is always working to understand things and when i hear jokes like "he drank all the booze" when in all actuality i didn't even took a taste. All i could say is "right", cant seem to find anything funny in that when my mind concludes that he came up with the "joke" because i wasn't drinking. It's like saying "you didn't drink at all" with a twist.
This is just one example. How would i train my self to enjoy more of these kind of jokes? It kinda annoys and sets me off.
I once mentioned about it and all i got back is quick counter, "joke" again claiming me as paranoid.

Lots of sarcasm in they'r jokes sometimes.

 

[Hadoblado]

How old are you? If drinking is a new thing, I'd bet you are being used to bring attention to the fact that they *are* drinking. At that age it seemed important to make sure everyone knew you drank.

 

[ItsRelative]

It's more like old thing, for me anyways, and that wasn't the point. I admit it was poor example, also topic should have been more like:
What do you think about sarcastic jokes, especially towards you? and how much could you take it?

 

[Minuend]

I LOVE

There is no greater pleasure in life than to grind your closest friend down in the dirt and bury them with a suspiciously bent spade.

Preferably, my victims retaliate once in a while, I don't want to break them right away.

The way I see it, the ruder you can be towards your friends, the honester and that makes communication and relationships way betterer.

 

[warryer]

This is my main method of telling whose a real friend and who isn't. I am constantly pushing to see just how far I can go with a person. It's like a check to see how much they trust me. As in does this person trust me enough to believe that I am not saying these things with mean intentions (which I never do.)

Jokes at my expense though? It gets difficult at times but, its a good reminder to not take myself so seriously. I do my best to go along with the joke but, sometimes its an uncomfortable grin and nod.

I once mentioned about it and all i got back is quick counter, "joke" again claiming me as paranoid.

I've gotten that paranoid line too before and trust me, you aren't. Clearly you are seeing that these jokes are intending someting different than what was being said. As in, "why didn't you drink like the rest of us."

When I went through that phase I learned how to speak with double meanings. Keep fighting your way through it and you will see what I'm talking about. It was a life changing experience.

 

[GYX_Kid]

It's one of those social games. Tests reactions, potential quality of friend, etc. I personally see no inherent value or fun in it, but I'll learn to use it for what it is

 

[EditorOne]

If both parties don't see the humor, sarcastic humor is often an exclusionary device meant to push someone out of a group, not perhaps literally, or to establish their role in the group as that of dartboard.
The drinking thing, though, may be another category. A lot of humor is based on incongruity. Saying a sipper like you drank up all the booze might strike a lot of people as incongruous and therefore funny, since everyone in the group knows this aspect of you and can share the incongruity. You, though, with your personality, of course have to stop and overanalyze it. Just stop doing that. If someone says something actually sarcastic about you, you can tell without analyzing it: Some of the people who hear it will think it somewhat funny, while others will look uncomfortable. That's a pointer.
There's other categories of banter. Without knowing more about the group you're in, it's hard to say anything else. (EG: Two men from Brooklyn can stand on a street corner and exchange remarks about each other's mothers and then go bowling together. If that happened on the streets of a small town in South Carolina, fists would be thrown instead. Sometimes there are cultural boundaries on such things, and sometimes they exist without explicit elaboration on them, so it's tough for outsiders to know what the norm is for insulting humor.)

 

[EditorOne]

And there's another possibility, if you walk around with your INTP mask on because you aren't sure what the appropriate emotional response to anything is: They may just be trying to get any kind of reaction at all from you.

 

[digital angel]

EditorOne brings up good points. Also, ask yourself why do you care? People will do all sorts of things and it's difficult to always know the reasons why. People will do and say self serving things.

Enjoy your life. I'm sure you have goals that you're looking forward to achieving.