Is this an INTP thing??

[adastrac]

I'm unsure of whether or not this is an INTP trait but I get annoyed when people aren't clear with what they're asking. I mean, I'm sure that they are crystal clear but.... for example: I hate it when people ask me where I'm from. I think, what do you mean where I'm from? Do you mean, where do I live? Where I was born? My nationality? My heritage? And when people ask me who my boyfriend is. I think, who is my boyfriend? Uhmm.. someone you don't know? Oh, do you mean his name? Where he's from? Who am I?? Uhh, a girl? A thinker? An INTP? Can't you be more specific??

I had to attend a physical therapy appointment the other day. When I laid down on the massage table thing (on my tummy), the message therapist asked me to raise my legs up. But for some reason, I was stuck in a conundrum. I couldn't raise my legs up and thought, "what does she mean raise my legs up??" Finally she said, "bend your knees". I mean, geez, she could've said that before you know!! Why the unnecessary confusion??

Is this the case for some of you at all? Or am I just really really really strange?

 

[Jules]

I simply try to translate the questions/remarks/whatever to what is commonly accepted/used/perceived. Works for most of the time.
I could answer their questions precisely but I found that this brings irritation to people

 

[FusionKnight]

I'm unsure of whether or not this is an INTP trait but I get annoyed when people aren't clear with what they're asking.

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[Dissident]

when they are vague I go through all the possible interpretations before the one they meant, just to annoy them and teach them a lesson

A: Can you get me an XXX?
Me: An XXXYYY you mean?
A: No, an XXX
Me: An XXXZZZ?
A: NO! An... eh... XXXBBB
Me: Oh! an XXXBBB!! Sure, no problem!

 

[Waterstiller]

I simply try to translate the questions/remarks/whatever to what is commonly accepted/used/perceived. Works for most of the time.
I could answer their questions precisely but I found that this brings irritation to people

Haha, yes! Answering questions precisely is why I can be so awkward in social situations. The INTJ's in my life actually act on a specific interpretation of the question (often unaware of the other party's loss of interest) whereas I attempt to say nothing at all and perhaps blurt out a vague and personally unfulfilling answer.

I think this is the main reason why I hate small talk; it's almost entirely filled with ambiguous communication such as what was stated in the OP. The need to translate is probably the source of what saps my energy. Not just verbal communication but all the nonverbal and other environmental translation as well.

The more specific the question or request, the more I can say and do. Part of me thinks I'd make a great therapist because I can just sit there questioning what the client means with their statements to greater and greater specificity until we both come to an accurate conclusion and a more exact source of their feelings is deduced. (Or perhaps that's just my romantic idea of what therapy is all about.)

 

[FusionKnight]

The more specific the question or request, the more I can say and do. Part of me thinks I'd make a great therapist because I can just sit there questioning what the client means with their statements to greater and greater specificity until we both come to an accurate conclusion and a more exact source of their feelings is deduced. (Or perhaps that's just my romantic idea of what therapy is all about.)

Makes sense to me!

 

[flow]

That's what I do as well. I figure out what people really are trying to say, and I help them say it as best I can.

 

[FusionKnight]

That's what I do as well. I figure out what people really are trying to say, and I help them say it as best I can.

Yeah, but this annoys the heck out of non-INTPs...

 

[EloquentBohemian]

I mean, I'm sure that they are crystal clear but.... for example: I hate it when people ask me where I'm from. I think, what do you mean where I'm from?

My usual answer to this is: My mother's womb.
Others usually clarify what they mean immediately.

 

[Raku]

I've learned not to over-analyze the questions since most people think I'm a nittpicker or something. Some people find it terribly annoying. Now I just take whatever comes into my head first and go with that, which can lead to weird situations.

 

[soloratii]

I've learned not to over-analyze the questions since most people think I'm a nittpicker or something. Some people find it terribly annoying. Now I just take whatever comes into my head first and go with that, which can lead to weird situations.

I relate to that. Sometimes, I even sidestep what would normally be an awkward/difficult/personal question by playing with the possibilities... which is super-annoying to some people

 

[Jesin]

Part of me thinks I'd make a great therapist because I can just sit there questioning what the client means with their statements to greater and greater specificity until we both come to an accurate conclusion and a more exact source of their feelings is deduced. (Or perhaps that's just my romantic idea of what therapy is all about.)

Hey, it works for me when I do that to myself. Especially when I'm trying to explain myself to someone else (because then I have a motivation to continue).

My usual answer to this is: My mother's womb.
Others usually clarify what they mean immediately.

I relate to that. Sometimes, I even sidestep what would normally be an awkward/difficult/personal question by playing with the possibilities... which is super-annoying to some people

Fun!

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Also, the thread title is a little vague. Could you clarify it?

On second thought, maybe we should keep it the way it is. Yay irony!

 

[grey matters]

If you over analyze things with people who are not very analytical it can make your head explode, I would advise against it. Save your analyzing for more useful pursuits like contemplating the meaning of life, forum discussions, and work related things that you can get paid for.

 

[Duty]

If you over analyze things with people who are not very analytical it can make your head explode, I would advise against it. Save your analyzing for more useful pursuits like contemplating the meaning of life, forum discussions, and work related things that you can get paid for.

Doesn't seem fair that we're expected to stop being analytical to people that can't understand it, but they're not expected to stop being shallow and uninteresting because we can't understand such things.

 

[Dissident]

Climbing to heights is harder than walking on plains
(and some people are cripples )

 

[Perseus]

Precision answer please?

http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=1471

I can annoy the verbal diarrhoea out of an Engineer with my answer!

 

[Ermine]

Those kinds of questions are really annoying. There are way too many answers for the "simple" question of "Where are you from?" Hmm, let me see...

milky way
solar system
earth
north america
US
Kansas
Wichita
626 Beachy St.
mother's womb
practically grew up in Virginia...
I live in that house over there...
that high school
that church
that club

MUST I LIST ALL MY AFFILIATIONS FOR YOU?!?!?!

 

[crtosi]

i can relate. I guess it's because we expect them to be more specific once you're aware of the so many possibilities..I am guessing...but been there yes..
sometimes dont you even feel stupid?

 

[Fordy]

I usually just go with what I think they want to hear, but if I'm in a devious mood, I'll deliberately misinterpret the question just to annoy them a bit.

Climbing to heights is harder than walking on plains
(and some people are cripples )

Haha
Very true

 

[Artifice Orisit]

The Literal Filter

There's the problem, don't worry it's a typical INTP thing
It's also the reason why we are terrible at on-the-spot flirting

 

[Waterstiller]

Really? I feel I've got a pretty good handle on flirting as long as it's mutual. And I can shut people down pretty quickly who are hitting on me by analyzing their flirtation.

 

[Fordy]

I wouldn't really know, I rarely flirt and am rarely flirted at.

... Wait, that kinda proves that I'm bad at flirting, I guess.

 

[Anling]

It is annoying that people seem to expect me to read their minds to figure out what they're really asking about. On the other hand, sometimes I wonder if they think I'm being too specific when asking them questions and then followup questions.

 

[Fedayeen]

Doesn't seem fair that we're expected to stop being analytical to people that can't understand it, but they're not expected to stop being shallow and uninteresting because we can't understand such things.

Shallow people keep to the shallow waters, and can't go deeper without drowning, while those out in the depths can come to shore just fine.

So if you expect shallow minded people to go a little deeper expect them to drown. While those of us that are a bit deeper are expected to come back in sooner or later.

Hope that makes sense.

 

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The Literal Filter

There's the problem, don't worry it's a typical INTP thing
It's also the reason why we are terrible at on-the-spot flirting

Well, maybe it makes us bad at flirting with Ss. But I think it just impresses Ns. You don't want to be with a Sensor anyway.

 

[Tiger]

i usally go for the most technically correct response for kicks.
simple example;
person: say hi tiger
tigher: hi tiger

they're usually much more cleverer than this. and very to funny to other intuitives.

my intj dad is like this too but as the philosphical dilemnas that arise in ym mind adn prevent me from answering a question are silent and he doesnt mention any himself, i dont know how alike we are.
i too suffer with those questions.
i still dont have an answer for how are you. ...well when a man loves a woman .... and as to the first people, my greastest anscestors, i dont know, neither do i know how thigns came into existence... so i cant really answer your question

id say its an intp thing, other intuitives (especilaly the thinkers) may have varient versions of it.

 

[adastrac]

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*whew*

Oh, my.

Welcome home adastrac, I think you'll like it here.

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lol thank you all so much for sharing!! it makes me feel A LOT better to know that we're all in this together!

i hardly ever flirt.. but when i do, it's to test that person and then add it to my growing mental database of "how to recognize a jerk".

 

[Ermine]

The Literal Filter

There's the problem, don't worry it's a typical INTP thing
It's also the reason why we are terrible at on-the-spot flirting

Well, would I be right in saying NTs would be impressed/turned on by spontaneous wit and humor? If it were me, I'd find that very attractive, much more than your conventional flirting.

 

[Spaekle]

I think I hate non-specific directions more than non-specific questions. I hate being asked to do things like "put that over there"; I usually end up getting it wrong three or four times before the other person just does it themselves. :[ With both questions and directions, I usually need to ask quite a few questions myself before I can really answer.

Questions like "where are you from?" don't really bother me, though; I can usually assume what they mean and answer accordingly.

Flirting? Eh... that doesn't happen in my life.

 

[sagewolf]

I think I hate non-specific directions more than non-specific questions. I hate being asked to do things like "put that over there"; I usually end up getting it wrong three or four times before the other person just does it themselves. :[

"Put it in the dresser drawer." But mom, there are twelve of those in this room alone.

"Put it in the one it goes in." Well, that clarified EVERYTHING. Thank you so much.

People assume I can't hear them or understand them a lot when, in reality, what they said has too many interpretations for me to answer them. I usually pick whatever seems likely to please them and avoid a long and drawn-out conversation.

 

[Minuend]

People assume I can't hear them or understand them a lot when, in reality, what they said has too many interpretations for me to answer them. I usually pick whatever seems likely to please them and avoid a long and drawn-out conversation.

Yes, that's how it works for me too. What people say have so many interpretations, and I usually interpret it the wrong way. Often I find myself talking about something entirely different than what I was asked, because I thought that was what they were asking me about.