Is anyone else attracted to older women?

[Juras5ic]

I'm 20 and attracted to women in the 24-45 age range. What are my options? Has anyone else been in the same situation?

 

[Glordag]

Depends entirely on the woman. Personality really draws me into women, so I find myself being attracted to older women fairly often. What do you mean when you ask what your options are? You can either pursue them or not. I've known a good many people that have had relationship age gaps of 10 years or more, and physical encounter age gaps of much more than that (even 20+), so I don't think you should hold yourself back just because it seems "wrong" or "different" if that's what you're concerned about.

Edit: Wow, that personality bit probably sounded very piggish of me. Unfortunately, I don't know how to rectify it, so I'll leave the statement as is. It doesn't matter anyways, I've sworn off relationships and physical encounters alike :P.

 

[snafupants]

Less than two years ago a neighbor attempted to seduce me; she is twenty years my senior and reasonably attractive. The kind of women you would think twice about kicking out of bed. Right before I moved out she stayed over for a weekend because she was embroiled in a divorce and nearly evicted from her own home. Oblivious, I walked by the top of the basement steps on the way to the kitchen when she wanted me to come down; she overtly said she was "wearing no pants" and tried to butter me up some. Overlaying the devil right shoulder/angel left shoulder decision were two influencing ideas - one, she is still married and, two, she is probably not going to keep this hush hush: aside from being a lush and gossiper, she is an intimate friend of my mothers. There was definitely a tension between us in the past, which is weird in itself, but the timing was too much for someone who just wanted a Saturday coke. No regrets.

 

[SkyWalker]

when you get older, you'll like the younger ones more

 

[Bird]

24 - 45 age = good baby making age (;

 

[DarkGreen]

24 - 45 age = good baby making age (;

Bird aren't you a girl? I mean if you are and that's your taste then more power to you and just ignore my comment.

 

[Juras5ic]

It's a combination for me. No nonsense, less drama, quasi/ full blown I know what I want mentality + killer looks= the perfect woman.

Talking to girls my age ends in an epic fail most of the time. They don't know what they want + mind games+ shy+ drama+ other stuff I can't explain in words= fail. Maybe I haven't given it a fair shot? Or maybe i'm the problem and not the girls? I'm so confused.

Side note: I know three people within a five year gap that have been arrested and convicted of having sex with multiple minors. I live in a small community so this hits home for me. Plus guys that I hung out with in high school with are now dating the juniors/seniors. WTF? I'm sorry but this makes me puke!

I don't even want to date someone that looks remotely close to jailbait. People here already view me as weird and I definitely don't need this too.

 

[DBB]

@ juras5ic
What you write reminds me lot how I felt when I was 20; the girls that age are intellectually and socially boring at best and irritating at worst.
No wonder that most of my chicks were 2 to 8 years older than me. They were much better: we had something to talk about, they knew what they wanted and the sex was better (qualitative and quantitative). I actually never spcifically looked for a women older than me, but it came naturally. As long as the age difference is not more than 10 years it is socially quite acceptable.

2 further comments:
- IMO women (and men) start to mature from age 23. Apparently that is the age that the brain matures. This would mean that in a few years it will be easier for you to find a mate of your own age.
- research shows that persons with a high IQ end up in socialising with other person who are older. You might want to check out you IQ.

 

[Jennywocky]

24 - 45 age = good baby making age (;

Actually, they start doing tests on pregnant women over 35 in many cases, and definitely over 40.

 

[sojourner]

Oh gawd, Snafupants, that is SO intp! Not to say this is exactly what you did or think, but I've missed out on so many opportunities with beautiful women of all types and ages because I analyzed the situation strictly from my own analytical, selfish perspective, deciding/judging in my own mind what her motivations are, what her interest level is, etc., instead of pursuing or checking in with her or accepting an open invitation as a gift, an opportunity to give of myself to someone else, to take that leap of faith in a moment that is ambiguous in order to make a very human and unselfish connection, then sort out the meanings later.

 

[gnome]

Usually older girls go for me. They usually have to do most of the work in the relationship and eventually give up because I am so detached. Something I definitely need to work on.

 

[kinetickyle]

when you get older, you'll like the younger ones more

I disagree. Well, at least so far, I disagree. I'm 37 and I still prefer attractive women in their mid-40s. I know it's not much of a stretch at this point, but most of the guys I know my age are looking for women 10-15 years younger. The problem I have with younger women is that they're either still into playing games or they're looking to build a family. Older women know what they want and usually have more interesting things to talk about. I'm sure when I'm in my 50s, I'll start to agree with SkyWalker.

 

[Solitaire U.]

My 'wife is six years my senior, but our age difference seems almost oddly transparent next to our cultural differences (She raised in Vietnam, myself in the US). That we met in our 30's might have something to do with it as well. Age discrepancies have pretty much blurred for me since age 30 or so.

 

[Bird]

Actually, they start doing tests on pregnant women over 35 in many cases, and definitely over 40.

Actually, they start doing tests on
pregnant women of any age.

 

[Agapooka]

What kinds of tests?

Mental Stability Test
1. Why are you here?
2. Why are you bringing another being into this world?
3. Will the answer to question 2 satisfy your child if it ever asks itself why it is here?
4. Do you know who got you pregnant?
5. Did you cry when you found out?
6. How would you react if it were stillborn?
7. What is your understanding of motherly behaviour?
8. What is your opinion on overpopulation?
9. Is your child more important than someone else's? Why or why not?
10. Did you cry at any point while answering any of these questions?

 

[Dimensional Transition]

Well...

I often find myself attracted to girls in the 16-19 range, while I'm 16 myself. Most other guys my age seem to go for the 14 year old girls but that creeps me out a bit. They have usually not that much of a mature body and mind yet... Needless to say I'm without a chance with all girls I like though. They all seem to be into dudes at least 2 years older than them. Most girls who are exactly my age are in love with some 19 year old pedo asshole. I've met awesome girls who dated 23 year old creeps.
Damn it. I definitely know I wouldn't go for a freaking 16 year old when I'm 20, I mean, come on. When I'm 20 girls will hopefully like guys the same age as them, and they will probably be way more mature. What the fuck is attractive about an overemotional annoying whiney 16 year old girl when you're 20+?

 

[Solitaire U.]

Well...

I often find myself attracted to girls in the 16-19 range, while I'm 16 myself. Most other guys my age seem to go for the 14 year old girls but that creeps me out a bit. They have usually not that much of a mature body and mind yet... Needless to say I'm without a chance with all girls I like though. They all seem to be into dudes at least 2 years older than them. Most girls who are exactly my age are in love with some 19 year old pedo asshole. I've met awesome girls who dated 23 year old creeps.
Damn it. I definitely know I wouldn't go for a freaking 16 year old when I'm 20, I mean, come on. When I'm 20 girls will hopefully like guys the same age as them, and they will probably be way more mature. What the fuck is attractive about an overemotional annoying whiney 16 year old girl when you're 20+?

Jealousy does so love to hide in wrath...

 

[Dimensional Transition]

Jealousy does so love to hide in wrath...

Oh yes it definitely does. I'm so annoyed. You got me.

 

[socialexpat]

I'm 20 and attracted to women in the 24-45 age range. What are my options? Has anyone else been in the same situation?

Hehe, you like Cougars.
Nothing wrong with that, i could fall for some of them to tell you the truth.. Let us be honest that some are simply hot and stunning even when being older.
Age isn't really an obstacle, if it's worth it .. Go for it .. if it's mutual.

 

[IzlaRoza]

Im 19, and a girl, and i feel similar.
I am attracted to older men. Usually, between ages 23-35.

I also attend a local community college, and i always end up befriending the older students, lol those who graduated high school 5+ yrs before coming back to college. Many of those that i associate with heavily are in their late 20's-40's.
More of my friends are older than those closer to my age.

I have been told that i act much more mature than the average 19 year old, which i also believe. I find that those around my age really havent a clue and are so childish, and they bore me, which is why i tend to find myself with a much older crowd.

Plus most of the real (good intellectual) conversations are usually not with those my age. (all they talk about is music, fashion, retarded adventures with friends, and clubbing. {which is only interesting for about 2 minutes})

 

[Jennywocky]

I disagree. Well, at least so far, I disagree. I'm 37 and I still prefer attractive women in their mid-40s. I know it's not much of a stretch at this point, but most of the guys I know my age are looking for women 10-15 years younger. The problem I have with younger women is that they're either still into playing games or they're looking to build a family. Older women know what they want and usually have more interesting things to talk about. I'm sure when I'm in my 50s, I'll start to agree with SkyWalker.

Female here, but I noticed the same thing. When younger, I was interested in older guys because they had more life experience and.

Now that I'm in my early 40's, I find most older men I run across stuck in the mud and guys in their 30's to be more interesting / temperamentally similar. Old enough to have some life experience and accrued wisdom, young enough to still have drive and goals and be tied into what's currently happening in the world, without having become rigid and set in one's ways.

(Younger than that, and there's just a life-experience gap, unfortunately, and usually they're focused on exterior pursuits and "proving themselves" or haven't yet gotten some structure to their lives and are wandering aimlessly. Not everyone, just as a broad demographic in comparison to other age ranges.)

 

[Dr. Freeman]

No, not in the least.

 

[Reluctantly]

As long as they aren't fat, yeah!

I joke, they can be a little fat, BUT NOT TOO MUCH!

Actually...I have no standards...I'm a sad man...