bvanevery
Redshirt who doesn't die
It may sound like a typical arrogant wannabe-intellectual thing, but I truly cannot stand when people persistently interview me about banalities and various everyday details. I dont really know why, but It corrodes me psycholgically and depletes my emotional energy extremely fast.
I don't believe in "interviewing" people. I know that people do it because it's a social script, they are nervous, and they lack other material to offer another person as an ice breaker. I would hazard a guess that the invocation of these social scripts stress you out, because frankly, the scripts exist to stress people out. "What is your occupation?" often equates to "Are you participating in society in the productive manner that people are expected to participate in? Are you adequate in this regard?" People who utter the scripts may or may not intend it that way, but the social control of the "common" positioning of people within the scripts, is pervasive.
I am not very good at coming up with questions worth asking another person I've just met, but if people are going in the scripting direction, I will ask instead "What is your rhyme or reason?" If that confuses them, I explain that I like to make such questions as open ended as possible. Whatever that person feels like relating, as opposed to categories that box us and define us.