As I said before, my intelligence and INTP personality has been a curse. Anyways, I thought that people will like me more if I try to seal off some of my skills (I can't even draw great anymore
), do half-assed work and act stupid to appear more "normal". Obviously people didn't buy it. They still sent me to contests and the kids hate me anyways.
The reason they didn't believe you, is that your abilities are so exceptional, that you simply couldn't hide them, even when you tried.
There are plenty of slackers around. Honestly, who wants to employ a slacker? What woman actually wants to date someone who has no future?
Employers won't employ someone who is clearly way more capable than the job's requirements, because they fear that the employee will run off to the first job that does meet his skills, because they'll pay more. Most women who wouldn't date a super-intelligent or super-rich guy, admitted to me that it was because they feared that they were not enough to match what the guy could offer, and he'd run off with the first woman who could, because she'll offer more.
Of course they hated you. You behaved as if you were using them as a convenient stepping-stone, that weren't even worthy of the respect due to an inferior human being.
I've been carrying this half-assedry my whole life and I managed so far. But perhaps it's time to reclaim what I idiotically lost, to take myself up a notch.
My job gives more responsibilities (I now have underlings?!?), I need to lighten the load to help my aging parents, and I need to be able to court and lead a feisty INTJ girl (her sister is becoming way too nice to me though, even invited me for some snacks, quite weird).
It seems that people are putting too much trust in me, as if they're seeing something that I don't. Retreating back to the shadows isn't working anymore.
Know where you are coming from.
Ti has an extremely high standard. Ti solves problems, by factoring in all the details into one single equation that can be measured against every potential solution to return a result showing how highly the solution answers all the requirements of the problem. As such, even the most idealistic whims can be factored into the Ti-equation as yet another factor to be checked against. So by nature, Ti evaluates success as the very best that anyone would ever wish for.
ISTPs have Se to rely on to bring them back to Earth, so to speak, and to ground them in reality. INTPs have no such grounding. So our Ti can make us judge ourselves by ridiculously high standards. Moreover, we have Ne, which gives us the ability to think of options no sane person normally would, that can achieve things that most people would consider impossible.
As a result, INTPs usually see everything they achieve as 2nd best at the very most.
There is a saying: "Aim for the stars, and you'll reach the moon. Aim for the moon, and you'll reach the Earth."
The incredibly high level of expectation of Ti means that you naturally aim incredibly high, and put an incredible amount of effort and dedication into things automatically. Consequently, even the results that you half-ass still contain way more effort and dedication than what the rest of the planet considers their best.
So when you look at your efforts, you see failures and weaknesses. When others look at what you have done, and compare what you have done to what others in the same situation have achieved, your work is way, way better than theirs.
So more mature INTP's, how can an INTP try to become more mature and responsible?
As I have kept pointing out to an ENFJ friend, when things are already stacked in your favour, then to succeed, you only need to do nothing to rock the boat off its present course.
Others see that your current levels of effort and dedication are way ahead of the curve, without even trying, simply because what you consider the minimum, is what most people consider the optimal.
Factor that in to your calculations.
To take a level in badass?
Try to imagine what would happen if you took a carbon-based life-form, wiped its memory, and programmed it to run almost exclusively on pure logic, backed up by deduciing which paths of logic to follow, by a pattern-detecting algorithm that detects all possible patterns in the real world.
Now ask it to assassinate the head of the Taleban. It will compute every possible way to do it, that is each as absolutely certain as logic can possibly be. It will take 6 days, and respond "I have 15 ways to do so. How do you want it done?"
Can there be a greater badass?
PS:This is way easier in shonen manga/anime and RPG's
In manga, the protagonists tend to be action-heavy. In RPGs, the same is true.
If you want an example of INTP-ish badass, try to look at some of the more esoteric and unusual martial arts films, like "The Legend of Fong Sai Yuk". An INTP would not pull out a flaming sword and slice the protagonist in half.
An INTP would do as Sun-Tzu recommends in My job gives more responsibilities (I now have underlings?!?),[/quote]You obviously have shown your employers you have the skills. Now learn to delegate. Architect and others here have a lot of experience.
IIRC, one poster here said that he had over 70 employees under his wing. He simply would ask his employees for suggestions on how to proceed, let them brainstorm, and picked the best solutions. Then when he told his employees what to do, it was what they had already decided they would like. In effect, it was like getting them to manage themselves.
If you do choose to get your employees to manage themselves, remember that they don't have Ti & Ne. They won't have the same levels of expectations on themselves that you have on yourself. So their levels of results will probably be way below yours in quality, and probably way more in quantity. So you can let them have autonomy. But remember to give yourself the time to review their work before it is submitted, and to do so. Remember that you may have to assign some tasks to only certain members, because some people will only be competent on certain tasks.
If you do so, then if you use Fe and praise your employees for the things they did well, and for when they made an effort, and you are understanding on them when they tried and failed, they will see that they get decent appreciation and reward for their efforts.
If someone is taking the michael, and treating you like dirt, then remember that he doesn't understand why you got the job. Show him the brutal side of Ti. Don't destroy him. You only need Ti to crush him like a marshmallow under a sledgehammer for a few days, and he and the rest of the underlings will realise you are not to crossed. You only need 1% to 10% of what Ti would do to you. Start with 1%, and up if necessary. If too much, then reduce to 0.5%, or even 0.1% or even 0.01% accordingly.
I need to lighten the load to help my aging parents,
As far as your parents go, I sympathise. However, if your parents need a lot of help, and you are so in demand, then it may be more efficient to hire people on occasion to do the heavy lifting for the big jobs. If your parents need a lot of care, then it might be wise to hire a regular carer.
You can put out ads and ask recruitment companies for several candidates. You can do the interviews. You can ask friends who you think would make a good judgement on who would be a good carer for your parents, to be part of the interview panel. Once you've selected the right candidate, you can pop by your parents once a week to cover the slack that the carer cannot manage. While you are there and the carer is not, you can ask your parents how the carer is treating them. If it's not satisfactory, then treat her like any employee who is not pulling his weight. You let her know. Either she shapes up in a week, or you fire her and get another. As long as she's being paid good wages for what she's asked to do, you'll have plenty of people willing to do the job, and between them, you should find someone who does it competently and to yours and your parents' satisfaction.
I need to be able to court and lead a feisty INTJ girl
As far as the INTJ girl goes, I can't exactly tell you what works, as that's still an area that I'm not confident that I'm competent in. However, others here probably can.
I can tell you that giving everything a woman wants usually failed for me. When I ignored a woman, showed more interest in other women, or treated her as nothing but a friend, the woman was normally all over me.
Also, try to remember that nothing is certain in life. As long as you aren't dating, you're not dating yet. So just because you like her, doesn't mean that you will. However, it does mean that if she would like you, then others would. So spread your net a bit thin. Ask out a few other women as well, maybe even before you ask her out. Partially, it will give the INTJ gal some competition, as INTJs normally love a challenge. Partially, it will make you realise that you're in demand, and thus can afford to relax and just do what makes sense.
(her sister is becoming way too nice to me though, even invited me for some snacks, quite weird).
Actually, extremely common. Sisters grow up in the same home, and have most of the same genes. They have the same genetically-motivated and environmentally-motivated values, even if they have chosen to implement them in different ways. So it's likely that if your INTJ girl has feelings for you because of your positive qualities, then so would her sister. Besides, it could be an issue of sibling rivalry.
Beware. You don't want her sister to spill coffee on you, offer to wash your shirt for you, take off your shirt, and then find she's embracing you, just when the INTJ girl walks in. Sisters sometimes do that in cases of sibling rivalry, just to prove to the other that she can take you from her. So keep your distance.
Unless, of course, you want the sister. In which case, you may be quids in.
Well the curse of being Asian is that you can't make a full beard, stupid genes 
