INTP friends with INTJ?

[patchtrix]

So I am recently discovering that many of my good friends are possibly INTJs, my wife as one of them. Supposedly these relationships are, rare...? I feel like I am drawn to them because I relate to them a lot, and appreciate their higher decisiveness and confidence. I work with an INTJ who is quite charismatic. I dont know what other coworkers think of him, i know for a fact some have issues with him because he tends to hurt their feelings, haha but I get along with him extremely well because we can have really good conversations and I appreciate his criticism Anyone else with similar experiences/relationships?

 

[Obsidian]

My best friend growing up was an INTJ. He seems to have gotten fairly anti-social lately, though, so I never am able to hang out with him anymore.

 

[Washington]

My best friend is an INTJ, grew up with him and we get along fantastically. Played with legos by ourselves a lot as kids, probably had something to do with it.

 

[Montresor]

I know an INTP/INTJ pair of friends. The INTJ occasionally verbally abuses the INTP. He's the only one who gets away with it, and similarly, he's the only one whom he gets away with it with.

I get credited with bridging the gap.

 

[Void]

One of my 2 friends is an INTJ. It's fun.
The other is an ESFP. Yea, I know....

 

[Taspia]

My closest friends are INTPs and INTJs.
I admit while I do adore the INTJs they are very very judgemental and it irks me a little.

 

[Pyropyro]

I like my INTJ friends. They're the best sounding boards for ideas. INTJ's are also not intimidated by intellectual discourse which makes its easier to be myself with them.

 

[Jason43]

My GF is an INTJ and my best friend in high school was a female one too. I get along with them both fantastically. My GF can be a bit impatient, but aside from that, I feel like she is one of the only people that has ever understood me completely. We are totally comfortable with each other and actually very emotional which is odd for us both. People have always told her she is cold, but she is really warm and loving with me. I've gotten the same thing, "you dont really love me" from just about everyone I've ever dated. "You dont like people/women" is another one I get a lot. Maybe its just because I dont care for people who are emotional trainwrecks... She is very evenly tempered and we just fit together. I like her strengths and she says she likes how calm, rational and easy going I am. I find this to be a great match. She is very much my 'mind mate'... Shes also interested in MBTI and we talk a lot about the differences in cognitive functions. Neat how we are so alike but also completely different. My best friend in HS and I grew apart, but our friendship was amazing. We were like peas in a pod. I never even had a disagreement with her in several years of daily talking and hanging out.

 

[Schrödingers-Cat]

Most of my male friends are INTJs (even though the test i made them take may not have always been 100% accurate, but they do tend to act like INTJs). What I find is that they're easier to talk (though small-talking is still a struggle) than many other people I know. They're interesting and have quite... different ideas. But sometimes, their narcissistic side does... well... "annoy" me a bit (and their close-minded ness on several occasions).

 

[SpaceYeti]

My best friend is an INTJ.

 

[JennaSayQuoi]

My husband is an INTJ. I loved when I found out they called us "mind-mates", because it's too perfect.

We actually new each other for several years before we realized how perfect we were. :P We both knew we were different and were kind of interested to know more, but we were, of course, both so guarded and waiting to learn about the other person first before we gave away more... lol

Even though we knew each other in person, we were both raised JWs (We aren't any more, but that's a topic for another thread. :P), I just kind of randomly chatted with him online one time, because I was trying to be more forthright with people, instead of hiding myself so much. And then things just kind of took off! He told me he had always thought, before, that people were making up stuff about romance and love, basically. (and he had been married)

Sometimes, we do fight over Te/Ti or Te/Fe or other function differences and miscommunications. That's what it usually ends up being tho.

I always, even before I knew the type name, had a special dislike of J types- esp. STJs and their know-it-all attitudes, and with nothing to back them up. Before I met my hub, I kind of thought all Js were like that... but the difference is, I think, when you are actually brilliant and deep (and as INTJs would say, RIGHT. lol). Another thing about INTJs is how they come off rigid, but they are actually a lot more flexible internally. I love Personality Junkie's descriptions of that, it is so helpful and right on. INTPs are inner Js, but INTJs are inner Ps. It really made a difference for me when I realized that, because, for me, if I come off rigid on the outside, I'm probably WAY more inside. But it's not like that for INTJs. They get really definitive on the outside for the first time with their Te. They will fight for it, but in reality what they really care about is truth and will change their opinion in an instant if they think something new is true.

Also, my husband is super sweet and sensitive with me and he always takes it really hard if anything hurts me or is difficult for me. He tries to take it on somehow and figure out how he can be responsible or stop it, even when it has absolutely nothing to do with him, which is most of the time, as most of my problems are about Fe struggles.

I like to call him Superman or Moriarty. ^_^

 

[The Void]

I dont have friends. I am too anti social.
That makes me think what I am doing in a forum ?
I am leaving. For now.

 

[Goku]

INTJs are just extremely serious INTPs.

If an INTJ smoked some weed, he would then become an INTP.

 

[Cyon]

My brother's an INTJ. We get along quite well with mock endearment every now and then. Anyhow, my brother's pretty much the only person who I could have a long conversation with where I don't have to pretend being interested.

If an INTJ smoked some weed, he would then become an INTP.

I neither agree nor disagree, but I'd live to see that happen to the INTJs I know

 

[tvrgvryen]

I don't get along with INTJs so I avoid interaction with them. I can't get away from my brother though, whom I loathe.

 

[Pikachu]

INTJs are just extremely serious INTPs.

If an INTJ smoked some weed, he would then become an INTP.

Give me some and we can test your hypothesis.

 

[Ludvig & Sverker]

One of my best friends is an INTJ, and he is pretty stubborn for the most part. We get into so many little arguments over theoreticals everyday its nuts.

We both can't socialize, but for different reason. Not sure if its an INTJ thing, but he lacks empathy and understanding of others. He can execute his thoughts in conversation amazingly though, which is the issue I have when talking to others.

 

[BigApplePi]

I should think INTPs and INTJs could be good friends. They would have to have something to keep each other at a distance though. The INTJ would have to be satisfied with the INTP not actually going all the way with hir's thing and enjoy the INTP's interest in hir's ways. The INTP would have to be tolerant of the INTJ's choices and enjoy their challenge to reasonable alternatives.

 

[Pikachu]

One of my best friends is an INTJ, and he is pretty stubborn for the most part. We get into so many little arguments over theoreticals everyday its nuts.

We both can't socialize, but for different reason. Not sure if its an INTJ thing, but he lacks empathy and understanding of others. He can execute his thoughts in conversation amazingly though, which is the issue I have when talking to others.

Meh, not lack empathy and understanding.
INTJs do aware about it all, it's just there's no benefit to do so.