I quit my job

[lightspeed]

I was so tired of pretending to be something I wasn't.

My disposition won't allow me to fake it.

I was an Account Support Representative.

I did this for 6 months.

My job consisted of filling in for people who managed accounts for X**ox.

I had to represent the company as a whole when I showed up to places. This required speaking to customers on a very regular basis.

I did excellent on the computer end of it, but that was just a small part of the job. My manager (very cool person) ENFJ probably was very upset about my quitting. I put in my notice about a week ago, but couldn't even bare to stay long after that.

I didn't like tucking in my shirt. I had absolutely nothing to talk about with customers. The drive every morning was ridiculous. My pay check was late very often. There were SOOO many ESFJs who gossiped about me and my supposed lifestyle. (which i kept 100% secret, so they didn't know shit, they only suspected, but couldn't prove)

Anyway, I really respected and liked my manager, and liked alot of the things about my job.
I didn't want to disappoint her, because she put her neck out to give me a chance. (I worked for her prior at another account before I left state) But, it all came down to either being something I wasn't and hating myself for it, or being me. I chose me.


Does anyone think I did the wrong thing?

Isn't this a job for an extravert?

 

[Jezebel]

Does anyone think I did the wrong thing?

Isn't this a job for an extravert?

You mean was it a bad choice? It depends. Will you have money to support yourself and those who depend on you, and/or another job lined up? If not, it might have been an irresponsible decision.

I don't think there is anything wrong with quitting jobs you're unhappy with, but make sure whatever you're going for next is actually going to be an improvement. I know when I had jobs that involved customer service, I was miserable. I felt stressed out and exhausted every day when I came home. I became much happier overall when I got a position that was more suitable for me.

 

[lightspeed]

You mean was it a bad choice? It depends. Will you have money to support yourself and those who depend on you, and/or another job lined up? If not, it might have been an irresponsible decision.

I don't think there is anything wrong with quitting jobs you're unhappy with, but make sure whatever you're going for next is actually going to be an improvement. I know when I had jobs that involved customer service, I was miserable. I felt stressed out and exhausted every day when I came home. I became much happier overall when I got a position that was more suitable for me.

Yeah, I will have money to live on. Especially, if this unemployment thing goes through. The lady on the phone said she was 99% sure I'd get it for quitting with good cause.

Hopefully, this will get me by until I can start making money some other way. I really don't think I want to work for a company, have years of resentment for making them money while I get the crumbs, when I could just make the money for myself. Getting that started will be the difficult part.

 

[Ragnar]

Good move.

Don't stop smoking though.

 

[loveofreason]

I know little of you, lightspeed, but I think a job that costs you more of your life than it returns in dollars is just plain crazy. Most of the world is crazy.

Anyone prepared to walk away from that daily dose of death as you have done, and pursue your own vision, deserves applause for their courage.

 

[tanqttnml]

I think you really did the good move to quit. If you're not happy with what you're doing, then it is definitely not the job for you. Though some people can cope with it, when you just can't endure it anymore, then better quit. As long as you don't lie to yourself, as long as you follow your ideals and make the best of everything you can and everything you are, it will always be the good choices, IMHO.

 

[Gaupa]

In a way I think you're lucky that you know WHY that job didn't fit you, knowing the MBTI types. I've quit jobs without have a "good reason" for it, other than the fact that the work choked me and made me feel worthless. Knowing what I know now I never would have stayed long enough to acquire a feeling like that - you have to work to get rid of it later...!

On the other hand I've seen people who use the MBTI type to "defend" the fact that they are unwilling to evolve or to adapt. Being an INTP and becoming a mother I was forced to develop a more extroverted AND emotional side towards my children (stating and sticking to routines and rules was ever so much trickier...!).

 

[Zeke Johnson]

I quit working at Rockstar Games recently...

Damn the money,

Zeke Johnson ( Ex-Captain )

 

[mindovermatter]

my sister's an ENFJ- a humanitarian and gives til she has nothing left, so if your boss was anything like her she had to be a good one- so i understand your desire to not disappoint her. i have worked in a factory (HATED it), coal mines (and i'm a girl- being a non-conformist i had to give it a try), real estate & car sales- sales was good money & OK but dealing with the public took more patience that i could muster on an everyday basis. so now i am in a sales venue that doesn't require direct contact with people- as in online auction resale. treasure hunting is fun, my biggest problem is turning loose of those treasures. i don't have to answer to anyone and could make a decent living at it as a sole income if i desired, but do also have a working husband. working for someone else was hard for me because i am extremely opinionated, i was fired once for thinking out loud. never like being forced to act or think a certain way, i felt like a puppet or a borg (as in "you will be assimilated"). also like you, i hated having to dress in business attire. after having been in jobs dealing directly with the public, i do believe those may be better suited for more extroverted types, if you can afford to try something else maybe it's a good thing you decided before you invested a lot more time there and became increasingly more unhappy. life is too short to live in misery

 

[Cabbo Pearimo]

Man, the only thing we have in this world is our mind. We are who we are, and no-one can deny that. it can change, but not through force, through convincing. Bye bye.

 

[Wisp]

I feel sorry for the mentally crippled, as they have lost the thing that I value most. It makes me feel ... fragile.

 

[EditorOne]

"In a way I think you're lucky that you know WHY that job didn't fit you"

I'll second that thought. Those of us born when dinosaurs roamed the earth were left with terms like "misfit" and "weirdo" because INTP had not yet been invented. Quitting a job and not being able to explain exactly why to the satisfaction of folks who had other values and personalities was like walking death. You end up doing a Boo Radley impersonation, misunderstood and maligned. Things are a lot better now that this stuff is out there where it can be picked up and used.

 

[Wisp]

Things are better now that we're out of the Dark Ages...

 

[Zero]

I have a friend, who goes to other countries and "bums" around them. He hitch-hikes and he and his friends will take up jobs for a little while to get by. But I think they totally love the experience. Damn the money, bumming sounds like crazy fun, but geez I don't think I would have the sheer will for it. He makes it sounds like it's not that big of a deal... He's going to New Zealand this summer I think and Australia. He likes to be doing something all the time. He works while he's also going to school.

I seem to know a lot of ENFP/INFP types, but I bet some of them are confused, because of the shitty test I linked them. Er anyway, you're doing more wrong if you're denying who you are and trying to be someone you're not.

Since I was little my parents have tried to get me to be...salesman material I guess. I always feel like they're trying to make me into some kind of social pop star. They get mad at me for "having an attitude" and I finally told them "THIS IS MY FACE. I don't have an Attitude, this is just what I look like when I'm not SMILING." I'm twenty and I'm telling them this. I don't know who the fuck I am. That is like the worst/frustrating feeling. I'm constantly living as a different person. I ask people what I'm like when I'm trying to figure out these types and, yeah, No One else really knows (it's not their job to know what I am). But for my parents apparently. I think with my mother we decided I was more like an INFJ? When I read their description and all I realize... maybe on the outside I come off that way. Maybe I am that way. Though I feel like I relate well with INTPs. But I don't know.... My point is it's better to know who you are and act upon that, than to pretend to be someone and eventually you not know know who you are.