How to kill extreme level of self-consciousness and analysing everything

[robott]

How to kill that extreme level of self-consciousness and analysing everything?
It's ruinning my life. I remember when had first kiss with girl, instead of taking pleasure I was just analyzing that moment ("So this is how kissing feel" etc.), even that I was under some influence of alcohol.

Also I'm talking life too seriously, up to the point I can't take pleasure. I can't have fun from "normal" things like other people are doing. I can only do "serious" things, whatever that means. I can't just go for a walk because I think it's "stupid", "useless" and "worthless". Can't have pleasure from talking about nothing, can only talk about some "serious" stuff.

Also, How to stop THINKING? I sleep 7 hours and think 17 hours a day.

Edit: newline fix

 

[Brontosaurie]

i love you

i don't know any solution for this problem which i also suffer from myself, but i enjoy your style of writing a lot... if that means anything lol

 

[Ribald]

The solution is to find your passion. Forget trying to take a direct approach to solving this problem. It won't work. Every move you make will also reinforce the presence of a problem that needs solving.

 

[Jennywocky]

Whatever happened to me in my life, happened to me as a writer of plays. I'd fall in love, or fall in lust. And at the height of my passion, I would think, "So this is how it feels," and I would tie it up in pretty words. I watched my life as if it were happening to someone else. My son died. And I was hurt, but I watched my hurt, and even relished it, a little, for now I could write a real death, a true loss. My heart was broken by my dark lady, and I wept, in my room, alone; but while I wept, somewhere inside I smiled. For I knew I could take my broken heart and place it on the stage of The Globe, and make the pit cry tears of their own.

~ William Shakespeare, portrayed as looking back over his career as he finishes writing The Tempest as one of two plays commissioned by Morpheus (aka Dream, aka The Sandman). "The Tempest," issue #75 of The Sandman (1996), collected in The Wake.

　

"You know the trouble with you, Will? You live in words, not in the real world. You think too much. You dream too much." ~ Mrs. Shakespeare (Neil Gaiman's "The Sandman: The Wake")

You think because it helps you understand. It is your focus. Life is information, and all that information can be pursued, pondered, synthesized, studied, and it makes you feel alive and tied into things to be examining and thinking and observing.

The thing to remember, though, is that you can either live within the moment or you can stand outside it as an outsider. Are you going to be an observer of your life or a participant within it? Your natural mode is observation, but it leaves something to be desired at times (where you just feel like a hitchhiker in your own life) and especially when you relate to those who do not detach as easily.

True, it's impossible to stop thinking about elephants by telling yourself, "Don't think about elephants," but you can choose (when you realize you are doing the "observation" thing all over again) to let go and immerse yourself and focus on the sensations and emotions running through you and just be "within yourself." You will keep bouncing back out and starting thinking again, but the more you practice it, the easier it becames.

Your "bystander" mode is not something to abandon completely, because it does have its uses (including keeping you from mistakes and large biases), but in situations that seem appropriate (like with this girl you were kissing), you can just let yourself sink into the moment and feel the sensations and lose yourself momentarily in them. Hopefully at some point you will be able to "live in the moment" for a bit and then after you've enjoyed it, step outside and evaluate the experience.

 

[Ex-User (8886)]

i love you

i don't know any solution for this problem which i also suffer from myself, but i enjoy your style of writing a lot... if that means anything lol

xD

 

[manishboy]

Two things will help your symptoms (I also suffer with it):

1. Do something physical and intense. Exercise or physical work is great way to get me out of my head.

2. Practice isolating the process of internal commentary. Through meditation or something similar you can gain psychological distance from the process of judging and self-talk. When that happens, you are then able to judge the deep causes for the need to always be judging and commenting on situations. In this way, we can use our gift of analysis to quell the involuntary stream of judgment. Make the poison into the medicine!

I admit that 2 is harder than 1, but with practice it's doable.

 

[Milo]

True, it's impossible to stop thinking about elephants by telling yourself, "Don't think about elephants," but you can choose (when you realize you are doing the "observation" thing all over again) to let go and immerse yourself and focus on the sensations and emotions running through you and just be "within yourself." You will keep bouncing back out and starting thinking again, but the more you practice it, the easier it becames.

I can not think about elephants when someone says not to think about elephants.



It's your insecurities that cause your fear drive to manifest itself into a long series of thoughts. Once you've thought through all of your insecurities, you will have all of your uncontrollable thoughts slow down to a crawl until you can actually manage them properly and efficiently.

When the thoughts stop, you'll find yourself in a bout of meaninglessness, it is then that you will have to perpetuate your own thoughts again--but this time the thoughts won't be manifested by insecurities/fear, but by your ability to be creative and obsessive of the things you choose to love in life.