How INTPs socialize?

[ZenRaiden]

I mean I am pretty indifferent. I like the word so I use it. I describe my social life mostly by indifference.

I am really not in sync with other people. I really have to push my limits to get along with humans and respectively I really have to try hard to keep interactions normal.

So I am wondering if other INTPs feel the same way or if there are those that can interact in social situations.

The question is: What is your style of interactions in social situations?

 

[lightfire]

Not sure of being intp but i'm definitely introverted. But I'm not indifferent when it comes to it. I either like someone (rare) or dont like them (almost everyone).

I'm not sure about my style of interactions. I would say selectively social.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

To me, social interaction needs to revolve around some purpose, like if you have a common goal with someone. I don’t know how to just “hang out” with people. I don’t even see the point in chatting with randoms that have common interests with me. It just feels like fluff and a waste of time, and I usually get disgusted with the superficiality of it. But on the other hand, I highly value the few good friendships I have, and you need to go through a lot of garbage to find these rare friendships. So I dunno, it’s a very complicated thing

 

[Niclmaki]

Hey this is where I realized I kinda leaned more towards ENTP than INTP (Ne > Ti specifically).

Social interaction is mostly fluff, if I feel like causing chaos (which I usually do) I consciously give INCORRECT answers to things like, “how are you doing?” I’ll say, “I’m hungry” or “I’m not unwell”. Instead of the expected “good” or whatever.

Being around people is rather natural for me. I usually take on some of the qualities of whoever or whatever group I’m with. I can enjoy it, ya just gotta know how much of your individual self to let out. I’ve gotten quite good at it - I like to think anyways haha.

The ability to choose when I want to and not have social interactions is a huge factor. If I’m not in the mood it will make me quite miserable and irritable - I can “suffer” and “endure” it for a very long time before it gets too bad.

 

[rlnb]

I generally don't. My interactions with people are transactional and matter-of-fact.
But there is an exception. I don't mind taking to people who have some depth to them, a depth of intellect, knowledge, wisdom or compassion.
Most people unfortunately don't have this or at least don't want to operate at this level.

 

[machine1000]

have some drinks and u will weaponize yourself. a comedy assasin. otherwise you will be drained of your powers. sober i have to know the people. otherwise its a good chance peoples feelings could get hurt. they have to know all my statements have no malice whatsoever. not because im some moral being. but because i just dont care enough about u. if people i dont know begin responding from ego im done. if ur gonna depart from rational analysis to prove the worth of ur imagined self were done talking

 

[ZenRaiden]

To me, social interaction needs to revolve around some purpose, like if you have a common goal with someone. I don’t know how to just “hang out” with people. I don’t even see the point in chatting with randoms that have common interests with me. It just feels like fluff and a waste of time, and I usually get disgusted with the superficiality of it. But on the other hand, I highly value the few good friendships I have, and you need to go through a lot of garbage to find these rare friendships. So I dunno, it’s a very complicated thing

Agree

The ability to choose when I want to and not have social interactions is a huge factor. If I’m not in the mood it will make me quite miserable and irritable - I can “suffer” and “endure” it for a very long time before it gets too bad.

When I go to work and I deal with people it usually takes me 30 minutes to gear my brain up for this social chaos. If I aint in the mood people can very bad impression of me.

I generally don't. My interactions with people are transactional and matter-of-fact.
But there is an exception. I don't mind taking to people who have some depth to them, a depth of intellect, knowledge, wisdom or compassion.
Most people unfortunately don't have this or at least don't want to operate at this level.

Yeah how the fuck do you carry on a interaction on impuls talk to someone for any lenght of time and not get anything out of it valuable. Its crazy that people do this to themselves.

have some drinks and u will weaponize yourself. a comedy assasin. otherwise you will be drained of your powers. sober i have to know the people. otherwise its a good chance peoples feelings could get hurt. they have to know all my statements have no malice whatsoever. not because im some moral being. but because i just dont care enough about u. if people i dont know begin responding from ego im done. if ur gonna depart from rational analysis to prove the worth of ur imagined self were done talking

Agree.

 

[Montalbanov]

I mean I am pretty indifferent. I like the word so I use it. I describe my social life mostly by indifference.

I am really not in sync with other people. I really have to push my limits to get along with humans and respectively I really have to try hard to keep interactions normal.

So I am wondering if other INTPs feel the same way or if there are those that can interact in social situations.

The question is: What is your style of interactions in social situations?

Honestly I feel the same. However, due to society pressure (grow up in a society where extrovert is ok and introvert is a fool) I learn the basics for survive out there. 90% of conversations are and will be boring af. I used to say this in face and I have learned that is not working so I have found some tricks. For example, during a conversation, now I stay in silence and I say the word "interesting" or "sure" and nobody will ever complain despite hear from me "Im sorry but I dont care" which is my natural instinct.

Debate and arguing with people that I think are ok or intelligent are my source of start a friendship or a social interaction, if possible.

Perfect environments for me are very small venues and cinemas. In those places I feel less awkward. I recently attend some concert with the music I like and I felt ok with this. Real friends? I don t think so. I have large and platonic sense of friendship. To me a friend is someone that really take care of you and us as human beings so Im very skeptical about.

Unfortunately, at work and in life, I have to deal with thousands of Hey how are you? so trust me, social skills are not my (our?) skills and this is bad sometimes.

 

[Montalbanov]

To me, social interaction needs to revolve around some purpose, like if you have a common goal with someone. I don’t know how to just “hang out” with people. I don’t even see the point in chatting with randoms that have common interests with me. It just feels like fluff and a waste of time, and I usually get disgusted with the superficiality of it. But on the other hand, I highly value the few good friendships I have, and you need to go through a lot of garbage to find these rare friendships. So I dunno, it’s a very complicated thing

Agree

The ability to choose when I want to and not have social interactions is a huge factor. If I’m not in the mood it will make me quite miserable and irritable - I can “suffer” and “endure” it for a very long time before it gets too bad.

When I go to work and I deal with people it usually takes me 30 minutes to gear my brain up for this social chaos. If I aint in the mood people can very bad impression of me.

I generally don't. My interactions with people are transactional and matter-of-fact.
But there is an exception. I don't mind taking to people who have some depth to them, a depth of intellect, knowledge, wisdom or compassion.
Most people unfortunately don't have this or at least don't want to operate at this level.

Yeah how the fuck do you carry on a interaction on impuls talk to someone for any lenght of time and not get anything out of it valuable. Its crazy that people do this to themselves.

have some drinks and u will weaponize yourself. a comedy assasin. otherwise you will be drained of your powers. sober i have to know the people. otherwise its a good chance peoples feelings could get hurt. they have to know all my statements have no malice whatsoever. not because im some moral being. but because i just dont care enough about u. if people i dont know begin responding from ego im done. if ur gonna depart from rational analysis to prove the worth of ur imagined self were done talking

Agree.

I always need 3-4 hours before start basic and necessary chit chat with colleagues. In the beginning they were upset. They thought i was rude. I exaplain to them that I need to active my social skills after a while as:
1)not morning person
2)I dont like small talks
3)Moody