How does this work?

[Black Rose]

I am INFJ and my roommate is ESFP

I let them do what they want when they want to.

but the emotions are super high in them

they play videogame fast and can make electronic things

I do not much talk to them about science because they believe things I do not

but it has been two and a half years

they are gay and trans

ad(h)d and have dyslexia

I try to keep things clean in my room and organized

when I have a problem I try to fix it with plans

they rush in and it seems not to work

like how I need to fix the air conditioner

I had to make sure everything was ready

or then the workers would not feel safe

they do not understand this

not sure when they will fix their car and leave

if I had a car I needed to fix I'd save money to fix it

I do not know how they take care of themselves, they have no job

 

[birdsnestfern]

Probably need to give them a specific date like, by the end of August or something like that. Could say you are taking in a room mate that is paying rent for their room so they understand you need someone that will help with half the bills.

If they simply won't move out and you are desparate to have them out, you can tell them you need them out by the end of the month and if they aren't, you will put their things on the street and change the locks. Or call police and find out how to evict them or kick them out legally if needed. But, if this person helps you somehow, you might want them there?

 

[Black Rose]

But, if this person helps you somehow, you might want them there?

Really it was about helping people because at age 26 I had no maturity to help myself. All I could do was house people I knew because I did not have time to think about what I wanted in life.

Now at 36, I have time to think about what I really want, which is something to do with education because I now have the social intelligence I did not before.

Only it is taking a really long time to get this last person out. I do not want to just make them homeless after 2 years. The problem is they do not know how to fix cars. I am not sure they will listen to me to save money to fix their car.

I remember from 2020 to 2022 I had my mom and aunt with me but I felt like a potato doing nothing but watching television at night with them. That was the time I had bad anxiety and had no self-awareness. This was fixed by the medication Strattera.

Today I am just trying to clean things. After they are gone I will have money to fix everything but as I said they can't organize. As we started needing things they have slowly become more organized. they are 34 years old.

 

[birdsnestfern]

Summer is a good time to try, or call social services to find out how to help them. Not sure you can do it without a program unless it’s to have them sell their car and buy a tent and live in a warm place. They will have to get a job or go home to parents.

 

[SteppeWanderer]

Mtf or ftm?

 

[ZenRaiden]

Man your life has so many bad angles, I feel for you, pragmatically not sure what you can do to change things.

 

[Yamogono]

Sounds like a challenging situation. Living with someone so different can be tough, especially when your approaches to problems and daily life don't align. Maybe having a heart-to-heart talk about boundaries and responsibilities could help smooth things over. Have you tried discussing your concerns with them directly?

 

[Black Rose]

Things are getting better, the car can now move back and forth from the driveway.

All the parts will be fixed soon but the motor was falling out before.

It was my emotional state that was the problem.

I only had to be patient.