How do you guys express your emotions?

[Nofriends]

How would you express sadness, discontentment, hate (during the period in which it is unknown), crippling sadness, etc.

Generally, if it is something serious I will not be talkative and seem fairly detached, pessimistic, quietly resentful/irritated, but I will try to ignore it and pretend everything is fine, even though it is not.

Other times I will seal off all emotions and just wait until I am alone.

Also, do your hands ever start shaking when you debate about something you are passionate/serious about, and you feel as though the other person's opinion is stupid/invalid because it cannot be properly supported?

Is this normal INTP behaviour?
Thanks in advance.

 

[Grayman]

I have a tendency to let people I don't like get away with more than I would those closest to me because my own morals dictate that I can never take action based on the fact that I dislike a person and all action or decisions I make in regards to that person are biased and will fail to be objective.
I don't know how you couldn't recognize that you hate a person. The feeling 'hate' is a fairly strong feeling.

I forget that I should be sad sometimes and when something bad happens I fail to take time to mourn. I automatically move on mentally but then my subconscious eventually pulls me into a dark place.

I have had the hands shaking thing but I don't anymore. A lot of people don't feel they need to substantiate their beliefs relying fully on feeling and intuition or just hearsay. It is reasonable to accept it and find a way to use it or move around it. It can be difficult when they are your boss and make seemingly arbitrary decisions that affect you never having really considered all the evidence that makes the fault in their decisions obvious. Sometimes they have data you don't and just don't feel your position entitles you to an explanation to why a thing is being done.

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Recently i have been suffering much frustration at work. I am constantly being expected to do things without knowing why I am doing it and how it fits into the bigger picture. Not knowing these things makes me constantly feel like I am doing purposeless things that could lead to a bad result. I am simply supposed to have faith in the 'experts' and 'intellectual authority' and be a good soldier who never thinks for himself. Sometimes I know something is really 'stupid' and enough is enough, I put together several references of laws, regulations, technical documentations with specific references and then provide several options on how to handle it so that they don't feel like I am telling them what to do. I rarely get what I want but at least something gets done and they actually have a reason for what they decide even if their opinion differs from my own.

I guess I mostly seek out actively changing my circumstances and rarely get caught up in expression until I find myself completely boxed in and I end up in the hospital with a panic attack that I thought was a allergic reaction because I who is so strong, sturdy, grounded, calm and determined would never be susceptible to such a thing as a panic attack. Would I?

 

[changestuff]

I've been emotionally detached for the past few years. I may feel some emotions for sure, but i keep discarding them as illogical. Being emotionally detached is great because you won't have much of the negative feelings, but still I feel joy and fun. On the other hand, it's difficult for me to detect others' feelings and emotions, so I'm working on that.
I've learned that emotional and programmed people are not interested in hearing the truth as much as I do. They prefer hearing lies which make them 'feel good'. As long as you lie to people and make them feel good, you can deal with them easily.
As for expressing my emotions, I think I express them when I talk about something interested since I get so enthusiastic. Furthermore, I express them when someone is annoying me frequently by either avoiding him/her or hurting him/her emotionally.

 

[Jennywocky]

I normally sound flat and detached; sometimes I consciously try to let more emotion show in my voice, but it's not my normal mode.

In those few instances where I've been really upset/angry or really really passionate about it (and yeah, during actual arguments over what reality seems to be or with an opinion I think is outrageously stupid and I've become frustrated), my voice will shake a bit -- my friends pointed that out to me years back, it was how they recognized I was upset or "intense" about something. My hands might shake a bit too, I feel kind of trembly all over -- frustrating but it's the way it is.

When I'm sad, I get detached. Everything gets internalized. I have an inner world and an outer world; I don't like to dump my shit on the outer world, even if at the same time sometimes I would like to share it with someone. I just am careful who I let in + I don't like emoting all over people, it's like intruding into their lives with my shit. So I usually appear pretty unflappable regardless of how I feel inside. I usually don't cry around others, but I'm comfortable with myself now that I'll let myself cry when alone; I usually feel better afterwards, if something was upsetting me.

 

[Nofriends]

I normally sound flat and detached; sometimes I consciously try to let more emotion show in my voice, but it's not my normal mode.

In those few instances where I've been really upset/angry or really really passionate about it (and yeah, during actual arguments over what reality seems to be or with an opinion I think is outrageously stupid and I've become frustrated), my voice will shake a bit -- my friends pointed that out to me years back, it was how they recognized I was upset or "intense" about something. My hands might shake a bit too, I feel kind of trembly all over -- frustrating but it's the way it is.

When I'm sad, I get detached. Everything gets internalized. I have an inner world and an outer world; I don't like to dump my shit on the outer world, even if at the same time sometimes I would like to share it with someone. I just am careful who I let in + I don't like emoting all over people, it's like intruding into their lives with my shit. So I usually appear pretty unflappable regardless of how I feel inside. I usually don't cry around others, but I'm comfortable with myself now that I'll let myself cry when alone; I usually feel better afterwards, if something was upsetting me.

You can always tilt your head on my shoulder and cry there, baby.

 

[Jennywocky]

You can always tilt your head on my shoulder and cry there, baby.

I cry acid for tears.

 

[QuickTwist]

IDK, I am pretty fucking dry.

 

[QuickTwist]

I normally sound flat and detached; sometimes I consciously try to let more emotion show in my voice, but it's not my normal mode.

In those few instances where I've been really upset/angry or really really passionate about it (and yeah, during actual arguments over what reality seems to be or with an opinion I think is outrageously stupid and I've become frustrated), my voice will shake a bit -- my friends pointed that out to me years back, it was how they recognized I was upset or "intense" about something. My hands might shake a bit too, I feel kind of trembly all over -- frustrating but it's the way it is.

When I'm sad, I get detached. Everything gets internalized. I have an inner world and an outer world; I don't like to dump my shit on the outer world, even if at the same time sometimes I would like to share it with someone. I just am careful who I let in + I don't like emoting all over people, it's like intruding into their lives with my shit. So I usually appear pretty unflappable regardless of how I feel inside. I usually don't cry around others, but I'm comfortable with myself now that I'll let myself cry when alone; I usually feel better afterwards, if something was upsetting me.

I feel much the same way. My voice is usually shaky though. Well, my voice isn't steady, lets just say that. I didn't properly develop my vocal cords because when I was going through puberty I didn't talk too much.

 

[RaBind]

I express positive feeling quite openly with friends. I actively look to avoid negative emotions nowadays, I've leant quite well by now that it's so much more trouble to let such negative emotions go haywire and then try to pick yourself back up than to keep said emotions in check from the beginning. It can be tricky sometimes, it's not just that my emotions can be sensitive to the general atmosphere around me but that I can be blissfully unaware of this sensitivity until the cat is already out of the bag.

It's a weakness that is difficult to be aware of, which is the bigger problem, because of how alien it can be.

 

[Nebulous]

I express positive feeling quite openly with friends. I actively look to avoid negative emotions nowadays, I've leant quite well by now that it's so much more trouble to let such negative emotions go haywire and then try to pick yourself back up than to keep said emotions in check from the beginning. It can be tricky sometimes, it's not just that my emotions can be sensitive to the general atmosphere around me but that I can be blissfully unaware of this sensitivity until the cat is already out of the bag.

It's a weakness that is difficult to be aware of, which is the bigger problem, because of how alien it can be.

"It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together than it does to fall apart." -Finnick Odair
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If I'm seriously upset about something, I seem tired/ grumpy. I catch people off guard by how snappy I can be. If anyone gets on my nerves while I'm already upset, I'll freaking rip their head off.

Other times when I'm stressed I'll get anxious and then start dissociating (getting all drifty, zombie-like, feeling as if I don't exist). Sometimes I'm comfortable with that. But other times it makes me feel really uneasy.
When I started recovering from depression, I thought I had died. (Illogical, but it made sense to me.) As in I thought that my 'soul' (I didn't believe that in a spiritual way, just an adjective) had died, and "I" was just my body and the natural consciousness that goes with it.

This is getting a bit off topic whoops. Going off in a tangent about dissociation

 

[JimJambones]

I can actually be pretty sensitive to emotion around me, but I don't really show it. I tend to avoid situations where there are a lot of negative emotions and tend to gravitate to environments where the atmosphere is slightly positive. I can enjoy boisterous environments for only a short duration.

I don't express negative emotions very easily and don't really like to talk about them, unless they have been going on for quite some time and they need to be addressed. I find them embarrassing, like I'm being pushed to discuss them. I definitely get really nervous when I do this and it probably shows.

I find it easiest to express laughter and like to keep things rather light and pleasant, unless the topic itself is serious and then I make the serious face.

 

[Terran]

I am very liable to experience 'deep' emotions, but most of the time I have good control over things such as hate, anger, et cetera. If I feel my emotions are 'penting' up despite all my attempts at logical thinking, I usually vent them through drawing, writing, and/or exercise. I think I have quite a good understanding of what I am feeling and why, and specifically how to properly express or articulate it, which (for me) is a lot healthier than trying to ignore them.

 

[redbaron]

Interpretive dance.

 

[peoplesuck]

[BIMG]http://www.latesthandmade.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Handmade-Socks-Puppet.jpg[/BIMG] jokes aside, I usually dont show anything. however for the first time since I was a little kid I cried recently. you should have seen the reactions

 

[Polaris]

I am highly emotional, but terrible at expressing emotion. I usually have this blank look for everything, and I cannot express emotion openly, except sometimes anger or frustration, which comes out as long rants. I tend to talk myself through emotions rather than showing physical signs because I am trying to understand them as I talk. I have become somewhat better at expressing, but I am still cringeing just thinking about it. I find emotional expression a humiliating act, so very few people see that side of me.

When I was much younger I wanted to try stage acting because the idea of free expression as a public expectation for entertainment appealed to me. I think it may have been a sub-conscious wish to be released from the prison of my rational mind.

 

[emmabobary]

many people have told me that i drift away into a kind of trance when I´m angry. My face and my voice low, cursing everything, they say, make believe I could kill them any minute.

 

[Cipher]

My teachers used to tell me it's impossible to determine whether I'm deeply happy or really sad at the moment.
I recall just one instance of me really being emotional in the presence of others in the last eight years.

My guess would be that I learned to not show any "incorrect" emotions to avoid negative reactions of people in my childhood environment (mother, school).

Funnily enough I'm able to openly talk about my feelings like they are some mundane weather phenomenon. Especially in textual conversations.
Detachment is my favourite feature of myself.

 

[Intolerable]

As I'm generally detached from the reciprocity of human contact I don't often respond emotionally when the event comes around. This appears to be very awkward for those around me.

It takes time I suppose for it to come back. I like to think of it like a language. If you don't do it often you will most certainly lose it. If only for a brief period of time.

This I think explains the blank slate phenomenon among people who are outsiders.

 

[Grayman]

People say that I have a lot of expression on my face and in my movement eveb though i personally don't feel like I am expressive.

 

[shcj]

I don't bother expressing it but apparently it's obvious with my facial expressions.

 

[Sinny91]

How would you express sadness, discontentment, hate (during the period in which it is unknown), crippling sadness, etc.

Blow out, go into denial, blame everybody else, forget it ever happened... Not always in that order.

 

[IndigoViolet11]

I am emo lol, as an intp. I know. Feelings strike a lot and when they do they are deep. I am mainly thinking type but, I feel a lot too. But in front of others if they don't understand the underlying, I just couldn't even bother with expressing them, passing the day without saying them nor mentioning it. So as in, I had a terrible day alike, and expressing it doesn't always mean that it will be better, depending on the feedback I would get out of it that is. I would sometimes try to write it down but still. Maybe god understands? Blah aint he a human lol.

Supernatural things aside. I usually leave it until I am in the venge of exploding them...what it happened to be that is. I do not, honestly, get better expressing it all the time especially to the others, and when they ask sometimes, I feel even more confused on what to do with them.

 

[deathvirtuoso]

I tend to really not feel anything at all. But it'll be weird if I start speaking like a robot which is how I speak when I get lazy (of pretending). So I usually fake some emotions and highs and lows in my voice when I speak. I don't really express my emotions TBH... I don't quite remember the last time I did.

As for the debating part, my hands do not shake, but I have the tendency to constantly roll my eyes and mutter curse words under my breath even when I debated with the school's principal LOL. Guess who's dropped out of school now? I suck.