Highschool

[tashi]

Intp's seem to respond to school differently then other types, and the advice that I've gotten from the adults around me is redundant and not at all helpful.
It apears that there are plenty of people of a similar age group who post on the forum. So from the older members who have already walked in our shoes, I was wondering if you could perhaps provide some advice, insight, tips, stories, ect....
Anything useful to those of us who are currently suffering through the hell society feels obligated to call "highschool".

 

[Da Blob]

DO NOT TRUST THE SYSTEM TO PROVIDE AN ADEQUATE EDUCATION FOR YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL.

GET INVOLVED WITH AS MANY EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES AS POSSIBLE

PREP FOR ALL STANDARDIZED TESTS, ACQUIRE THE SKILLS NECESSARY TO EXCEL AT TEST TAKING

DO NOT MAKE ADOLESCENT MISTAKES THAT CAN AFFECT THE QUALITY OF THE REST OF YOUE LIFE, DO NOT TAKE UNNECESSARY RISKS WITHOUT A LONG TERM COST/BENEFIT ANALYSIS

HAVE FUN BEING YOUNG!!!


(It was not until my Graduation Day, that I realized all the opportunities I had missed in high school, were 'once in a lifetime' opportunities. It was a miserable day for me instead of a celebration. I would never see most of my classmates again for the rest of my life - including the demi-goddess Debbie Thompson, who I had a terrible crush on for four long years without initiating a single conversation. The saddest part of that was she was most likely an 'Airhead" and not a goddess at all, but I will never know that for sure...LOL)

 

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(It was not until my Graduation Day, that I realized all the opportunities I had missed in high school, were 'once in a lifetime' opportunities. It was a miserable day for me instead of a celebration. I would never see most of my classmates again for the rest of my life - including the demi-goddess Debbie Thompson, who I had a terrible crush on for four long years without initiating a single conversation. The saddest part of that was she was most likely an 'Airhead" and not a goddess at all, but I will never know that for sure...LOL)

This.

 

[Trebuchet]

DO NOT TRUST THE SYSTEM TO PROVIDE AN ADEQUATE EDUCATION FOR YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL.

GET INVOLVED WITH AS MANY EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES AS POSSIBLE

PREP FOR ALL STANDARDIZED TESTS, ACQUIRE THE SKILLS NECESSARY TO EXCEL AT TEST TAKING

DO NOT MAKE ADOLESCENT MISTAKES THAT CAN AFFECT THE QUALITY OF THE REST OF YOUE LIFE, DO NOT TAKE UNNECESSARY RISKS WITHOUT A LONG TERM COST/BENEFIT ANALYSIS

HAVE FUN BEING YOUNG!!!

Brilliant. This is exactly right.

 

[Sparrow]

DO NOT TRUST THE SYSTEM TO PROVIDE AN ADEQUATE EDUCATION FOR YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL.

GET INVOLVED WITH AS MANY EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES AS POSSIBLE

PREP FOR ALL STANDARDIZED TESTS, ACQUIRE THE SKILLS NECESSARY TO EXCEL AT TEST TAKING

DO NOT MAKE ADOLESCENT MISTAKES THAT CAN AFFECT THE QUALITY OF THE REST OF YOUE LIFE, DO NOT TAKE UNNECESSARY RISKS WITHOUT A LONG TERM COST/BENEFIT ANALYSIS

HAVE FUN BEING YOUNG!!!


(It was not until my Graduation Day, that I realized all the opportunities I had missed in high school, were 'once in a lifetime' opportunities. It was a miserable day for me instead of a celebration. I would never see most of my classmates again for the rest of my life - including the demi-goddess Debbie Thompson, who I had a terrible crush on for four long years without initiating a single conversation. The saddest part of that was she was most likely an 'Airhead" and not a goddess at all, but I will never know that for sure...LOL)

The "I realized all the opportunities I had missed in high school"

I'm still banging my head against the wall cause of that.

 

[Beat Mango]

Tough it out, it gets better when you leave. Get up to mischief to pass the time - I recommend imitating teachers, throwing paper aeroplanes and writing fake names on your exams. Also, skipping school and getting away with it - is there anything better?

 

[tashi]

Tough it out, it gets better when you leave. Get up to mischief to pass the time - I recommend imitating teachers, throwing paper aeroplanes and writing fake names on your exams. Also, skipping school and getting away with it - is there anything better?

Haha, at that I excel. The best part is that no one ever suspects me...
True story:
Teacher:"Who threw that plane!??!? Which one of you boys was it??!?!"
All fingers collectively point at me.
Teacher: "You're telling me that TASHI threw that? Tashi??! Pick it up right now, and that's a detention for lying!"
Me: hehehe.....

 

[y4r5xeym5]

Wow. Completely opposite advise as to what I would have expected.

Honestly, I went through my high-school years not giving a damn about it. Sure, I kept my GPA up and challenge myself with tougher courses, but as to expanding my social circle and getting 'involved' in various organizations? I was the kid that went to a LAN party instead of prom, and I'm still glad I made that decision. I also chose academic UIL over football, even though I am 6'4 and built like an ox. Call me arrogant or narcissistic if you wish, but I was convinced pretty quick that my high school was full of bigots and the most fake people I ever ever met (of course understand I graduated from a small town).

The best way to survive, I have found, is to live the smaller aspects of life by the minute. As hard as it is not to freak out and play scenarios in your head, things are so much easier if you let the trivial things slide. Sure, plans for the future or a basic skeleton of the days events are fine, but when it gets to the point of wanting to structure social interactions I have found it better to say "Meh, can't be assed to bother with this."

Just my two cents anyway.

 

[Enne]

High school was less than four years ago for me, and I can barely remember it. I found it to be a boring experience, a necessary, regulatory stepping stone on my way to university. I knew from around junior high that I wanted to be in COLLEGE and not doing this fool's rote crap. The institution that I was in enforced aspects of society that I couldn't stand, and I watched teachers and eventually students play the roles they'd been assigned. By my freshman year in high school I already had little to no respect for adults and authority in general, so I can't say it was really an eye opener or anything. It was fun for me, but a limiting sort of fleeting fun - nothing that really stood out. I learnt the power of humor and the social pass that it provided and became exceptional at whizzing things off at the last minute - a tendency that would not be nearly as successful in college. Looking back, I can't say I have any regrets; the town I came from and the HS I went to were so LAME that I can't see how they would have fulfilled me either way. Now on the cusp of collegiate graduation I can't wait to forge my own path and see what the rest if this life thing has in store.

 

[Deleted member 1424]

This is counter-intuitive, but if your school has a decent program I'd recommend getting into a drama class or after school program. Sure the first few weeks are hell, but I kept coming back every year. I consider it the only worthwhile thing I got from going to high school. Before that I was serious to a fault, I had absolutely no sense of humor and I had a lot of social fears; those experiences were monumental in helping me get over them.

You will be exposed to a lot of bizarre extroverts; but they're entertaining and fun to interact with if you can loosen up. It will also push your social limits, but limits are made to be pushed no?

Plus there's nothing like watching Rocky Horror during class with everyone singing along. I can't count how many times things devolved into an impromptu time warp.

 

[LAM]

The people bore me. They are so godamn..Simple. Boring. Normal. Predictable.

Its like looking at ants. everyone has their role and everything has its place. There is absolutely nothing special or innovative about them. Each one is just a different variation on the same formula. Each thing they do has been done millions of times over. humans are just so godamn predictable. And none more so than in HS.
Only two groups of people are of remote interest to me because there is at least some semblence of individualism in the people making the groups up (like 12 out of 160.) They also actually have problems if they do. Their problems aren't superficial things that are made to be of value by idle minds.

They are better than me at living their lives in the way everyone else does. There are only a couple of differences in their valuing of things. The rare gems who can be different are afraid to show it. After all they might suffer the prospect of excommunication...

I don't think all people are like this. But most of the boys and girls definitely are. Getting people to show they aren't just a copy of the social status and group they belong in expects them to be. They behave in similar manners and are easy to understand. Ah, understand, the key word here for me. People I understand are rarely interesting. I know what they are and who they are. I also know the most probable possibilities of what they are going to be.

I long for a day I could know people who are interesting, smart (well someone I could hold a conversation about philosophy, psychology and sciences,) and not complete assholes. (well I know a couple with all these traits, but sadly none go to my current school. which is part of the reason I am changing.)

 

[birdsnestfern]

Spend your time writing word for word verbatim in speed writing so you have a lot of notes to look at, and you look like you are paying attention and being quiet. Put the date at the top of every page and a page number. Then type your notes when you get home. Rearrange them in your binder and then at the end of the week, reread everything again. Doodle if its stuff you already know. Take classes like woodshop, art or photography so you have something fun to do on campus, like carry a camera and photograph people and places and then submit them in your yearbook. It gives you something to do, and stay active. I used to take some of my woodshop projects out on the lawn, and people watch while I was sanding and carving inlay and abalone into walnut. Then people would come up and start talking or ask for a cigarette, and keep company. In other words, appear busy and absorbed and time passes faster.

Now though, looking back, old friends remember how easy and great life was back then, when there WERE no responsabilities like marriage, jobs, kids, worries, and other life trappings. So enjoy it and make the best of it.