Helping and hurting

[Renk Fasze]

Some INTP's, or all - most don't use it, have an incredible talent to read people on a very deep level. They are capable of insight into situations where no one else seems to be able to go. They can think, feel and understand through the eyes of most anyone.

I find this to be a very dangerous place to be. In this vulnerability there is a great opportunity to help or damage at a very deep level.

Human nature tends to lean towards the negative and more often than not i unintentionally hurt people i read deeply.

Gifts/talents misused are destructive. INTP's can be more constructive than any other yet with every gift/talent there is potential for great destruction and human nature is playing against this in the most negative way.

 

[SpaceYeti]

I can easily empathize with fellow thinkerers, but if someone's a feeler I'm downright lost. Anyone can help anyone else, in different ways. Some people may be better or worse at it, but their type, I would say, has little to do with quantity or quality, those having more to do with practice and sincerity.

 

[Iximi]

In the past, I have hurt people with this ability. Recently however, I have used it to prevent conflict between people and facilitate harmonious relationships. The result of what you read into about others is almost entirely dependent on your reaction. In my experience anyway.

 

[Jesse]

I have an ability to understand people but I don't think I ever emphasis with others. For instances I am usually never angry at people. I know that it circumstances that lead to the situation but if something bad happened to someone I hardly ever feel sad for them.

 

[Essence]

I do have this ability, and a lot of my friends come to me with advice on personal things. I do my best to help them. When people are depressed for no reason, and they come complaining to me, after hearing the same story over and over, i tell them something a bit more harsh and they have the "i can't believe you would say that to me" face for a second or two. But it seems to kind of shock them out of their depression a bit because what i said actually makes sense to them. They always go back to complaining though. I don't think I've ever used it to intentionally hurt someone though.

 

[SkyWalker]

Actually all T-doms (Te-doms ENTJ/ESTJ and Ti-doms INTP/ISTP) are quite neutral.

They can rationally explain things to people without any hurtful purpose. even if the logic would hurt, the intent is not to hurt, but to be logical.

For F-doms (ENFJ/ESFJ/INFP/ISFP) the world is only about hurting <vs> helping. T-doms are beyond that, they are neutral in that regard.

 

[ObliviousGenius]

I have the ability to look through a person's problems and very quickly find the answer. Depending how I feel if I want to answer (because some people won't take advice even if it helps and I won't give it in that case) I will explain a solution that may or may not include their feelings at all on the situation. I always offer no-nonsense logic if it's asked for. I also agree that while I can be extremely helpful, I can be super destructive as well. Each is the opposite extreme. I'm learning that my words cut deep and not to use them in a harmful way.

 

[Lot]

It can be quite easy to take another's motives and dreams and twist them to cause pain to another who has hurt your pride or what not. I know I've done it. I've even used it to manipulate others for my purposes. I'm not proud of that but when you can see right through someone then it's easy. On the other side it sure as heck helps to comfort or instruct others. I think it's funny when someone who isn't as good at this tries to do it while in an argument, and only serves to make them look even more weak minded/irrational to you. Either way, if you do it or they do it, you don't tend to get an argument solved. Unless that argument is only being caused by another not knowing their own motives and they are in the right mind to hear the truth, which is rare.

 

[Dapper Dan]

Eh, I guess I'm ok at reading people (assuming I'm paying attention), but my poorly developed Fe means I'm likely to miss certain emotional cues. Sometimes this results in me misreading situations entirely.

For instance, one day in high school I ran into a friend before class. Her eyes were slightly red, and she had a bit of a sniffle. So trying to be nice, I asked if she was sick. Turns out she just had a breakup and had been crying all morning.

Captain Awkward to the rescue.

 

[Bird]

Hurting people is natural and a part of life
you're going to have to adapt to. Most do
not like hurting others especially on an
emotional level however it is inevitable due
to a superior sense of I that animals, including
humans, have.


You also seem very confident of your abilities
to read people. To each their own.

 

[Puffy]

I find manipulating easy. I personally choose to let that all out in board/ card games though (;

 

[Dapper Dan]

I find manipulating easy. I personally choose to let that all out in board/ card games though (;

Hahaha, I think this applies to me, as well.