Hello everyone!

[shoelace223]

I have never participated in a forum before. I've lurked on many, but never officially joined and participated until now. I'm a 25 year old male. I found out that I was an INTP a little more than a year ago. My wife (an ESFJ who's now my ex wife) wanted me to take the test so that she could try and understand me better. Obviously that didn't work out too well.

The main reason that I have decided to come out of the shadows and join in is because probably like most INTP's, people just don't understand why I am the way I am. I've grown very frustrated with this, and I'm interested in hearing about other INTP's experiences with life and people, etc...

 

[Tannhauser]

An ESFJ making an INTP take the MBTI test? It usually goes the other way around

Anyways: Welcome.

 

[QuickTwist]

What I have come to understand about people not understanding me is that it is in my best interest to not even try to be understood by people and just do my own thing. There is a difference between not wanting to be understood and not caring if you are misunderstood. Sometimes you have to just stop arguing with people about who you are because for me, people get it wrong a lot more often then they get it right.

Be free, let go of wanting to be perceived a certain way, be who you are going to be who you are going to be with little fucks given for how people view you because it can soon become an all consuming, never ending endeavor that will leave you with much angsts and will lower your sense of self.

I'll go even further and say fuck being accepted, fuck normalcy, fuck even giving a shit about your status because if you do, you will never be happy.

When it comes to thinking about being understood the best approach is que sera sera, because people will never understand you as much as you understand yourself.

 

[Alias]

Welcome to the forum! I hope you enjoy your stay.

An ESFJ making an INTP take the MBTI test? It usually goes the other way around

Unless the ESFJ is a mother who wants to know why her son is so different.

 

[Neko-sama]

What I have come to understand about people not understanding me is that it is in my best interest to not even try to be understood by people and just do my own thing. There is a difference between not wanting to be understood and not caring if you are misunderstood. Sometimes you have to just stop arguing with people about who you are because for me, people get it wrong a lot more often then they get it right.

Be free, let go of wanting to be perceived a certain way, be who you are going to be who you are going to be with little fucks given for how people view you because it can soon become an all consuming, never ending endeavor that will leave you with much angsts and will lower your sense of self.

I'll go even further and say fuck being accepted, fuck normalcy, fuck even giving a shit about your status because if you do, you will never be happy.

When it comes to thinking about being understood the best approach is que sera sera, because people will never understand you as much as you understand yourself.

I agree with this fully. I fucked being accepted and all long ago. I have to remind myself sometimes that I don't care, though.

 

[mrrhq]

The main reason that I have decided to come out of the shadows and join in is because probably like most INTP's, people just don't understand why I am the way I am. I've grown very frustrated with this, and I'm interested in hearing about other INTP's experiences with life and people, etc...

Why are you frustrated with that?

Honestly, It takes a while, a good long while of maturing Fe (inferior function) to put up with peoples asshattery and bullshit in the world...

And lots of us don't give up Ti. I was once stuck in a Ti-Si loop, and my head was hurting all the time to try and make sense of the world. It wasn't until I tried maturing Ne and Fe, that I just finally got it one day. The world is simply just. The world works the way it is because nobody has ever changed the way it works. Nobody really can yet. The world's always worked the same way. People still have basic needs, people still live and die, nature never seems to change enough... People are people. That's how it's always been.

So living with this reality can help, although... Not many people want to give up potentiality and possibilities in their mind. I mean, being hopeful is one thing, and giving up on solving things is another. I haven't lost hope yet for the world (I think) Well, to be precise, I've lost all hope for planet earth after I die, because, well... I'll lose everything about me when I die... It doesn't matter what happens when I'm dead, but I'd like to think that I could be "reborn" in the Taoist or Buddhist sense. My spirit is free, and I can hopefully cope with not only what I have to put up with, but millions of others. We are even lucky not to be living in turd-world countries right now, but people living in those places can still be happy and live a reasonably fulfilling life.

In terms of solving problems, hell yeah, I love to do that. I have at least some enthusiasm to make "my world" the way I want it to, and other people can, too. I use an operating system that I like, I buy organic, gluten-free food only, I live healthy in my solitude. If I ever feel as if something is missing, maybe I'll feel bad again, but... I don't wanna lose this part of me. Anyway, keep going strong my friend.