Hate losing

[HDINTP]

I would like to know your opinions on this if you think it is INTP thing or not. I really hate losing but not all the time nevertheless i won´t let it emanate out of me but if you will watch me for a while you will probably figure it out. One thing i can say about that isn´t so bad is that when i get to this area i usually won´t lose. But it is not like i am nervous or something like that and like challanges. For example i play table tenis and when i am in this state then almost every time i am in a figurative sense humiliated in the rally comes something from me in the next one which is usually considered by the others as special sometimes unreal if i can use this word. It works for me. Do you have thing like that?

 

[HDINTP]

maybe i can even say i love challenges.

 

[speiss]

Well to be honest, yes, I actually dislike losing very much. I can accept the loss usually, but with arguments and thinks I tend to always think I'm in the right right, although I have learned to concede! Which, I think, is an accomplishment on pretty equal ground with winning itself.

Though I think competitiveness and hating to lose are two separate things. I don't know if it's an INTP thing either, but I'm certainly a very competitive person..

 

[Pride]

I don't think it's so much losing as it is about being wrong.

 

[Beholder]

I'm not very competitive, but I hate losing. I guess I see it as being proven wrong in a way. I'll never enter into a competition if I'm not absolutely sure I'll win, or I make it clear beforehand that I don't expect to win and don't care.
When it comes to arguments though I have no problem backing down if I see I'm wrong. A lot of times people are surprised when I concede in an argument by finding the flaws in my own arguments. I don't see arguments as a competition, I see them as a mutual effort to come to a better understanding of something. Unfortunately most other people don't see it like that, which can be *very* frustrating for me, which is why I generally try to avoid all emotionally loaded discussions.

 

[Dapper Dan]

I do have a sore loser streak in me. I automatically try to figure out why I lost, which can result in me giving excuses and not just accepting it. The excuses usually have some truth to them, but that's no reason for poor sportsmanship.

 

[scrahn]

I do have a sore loser streak in me. I automatically try to figure out why I lost, which can result in me giving excuses and not just accepting it. The excuses usually have some truth to them, but that's no reason for poor sportsmanship.

I can definitely relate to this. At least in terms of games (currently Starcraft 2).

Sometimes my emotional reaction is so strong I forget to analyze why I lost. The stress can be so intense that I just leave the field/controller/room. But when I am able to calmly analyze why I lost, I find the resulting clarity to be very stimulating.

Of course I've been known to pull the wrong conclusions out of my arse and heap some emotional baggage on it to make it stick... But I rarely blame my opponent for my loss. Feeling that the reason for losing lies with yourself is beneficial on almost all levels (unless the guy was cheating!!1).

 

[GYX_Kid]

Used to, maybe ...6 years old

Then it was more about hating people who hated losing and loved to beat people (losing is fine, just not against them- or as long as i could beat them in the end)

I've started getting over that and to just be optimistic about myself and my own goals, let individuals get what's coming to them, etc.


Unless it's not necessarily "competitive" and more just missing out on an opportunity- then I'll beat myself up and dwell in regret. But I'm also learning to get past that.

 

[P.H.]

I don't think it's so much losing as it is about being wrong.

This. I don't mind losing actually, but I am a perfectionist in the things I value; being right.

 

[Pyropyro]

Losing sucks, but its a great way to know what to improve to prep yourself for the next round.

 

[Otherside]

I find that it bothers me less with age. No matter how good you may be at something, odds are high that someone else is better.

 

[Pyropyro]

I find that it bothers me less with age. No matter how good you may be at something, odds are high that someone else is better.

I think I'm more interested to being good enough to carry my own weight rather than being the best. The last thing that I want to be is to be a load to anyone.

 

[EditorOne]

It's not so much losing, as others have said, as it is being wrong. And even then, if I'm wrong and I figure it out it's not so bad: It is when someone else points out my error. Then I'm unhappy.

I don't mind losing at sports. It's a competitive arena with little real value to me. But I do enjoy winning at sports when no one expects me to. Go figure.

 

[ObliviousGenius]

I'm not very competitive, but I hate losing. I guess I see it as being proven wrong in a way. I'll never enter into a competition if I'm not absolutely sure I'll win, or I make it clear beforehand that I don't expect to win and don't care.
When it comes to arguments though I have no problem backing down if I see I'm wrong. A lot of times people are surprised when I concede in an argument by finding the flaws in my own arguments. I don't see arguments as a competition, I see them as a mutual effort to come to a better understanding of something. Unfortunately most other people don't see it like that, which can be *very* frustrating for me, which is why I generally try to avoid all emotionally loaded discussions.

I don't want to play unless I know I'll win either. I feel like "if it's not my thing, who cares if I lose". I can't stand arguing with people who like to argue because they're upset. I'm still gonna win though! lol. I'll always find an excuse for losing because I can't come to terms with the fact that I lost. No conceding here. Did they win it or did I lose it? I lost it.

 

[Taniwha]

I don't mind losing or being wrong per say, I just hate it when the other guy who is in the win takes advantage by rubbing it in my face.

 

[GYX_Kid]

It pains me when I can blame myself for making a simple and very costly error, when Fe made itself an achilles' heel.

 

[Mello]

I love losing.

 

[speiss]

I detest it.
DETEST IT.

 

[Sanctum]

I play soccer and i dont really care for loosing or winning they are both here nor there to me. but i hate being wrong if I'm arguing a point to someone or they think im wrong and dont believe me