Drvladivostok
They call me Longlegs
So recently I've been developing my social skills and charisma, tunned how I dress, put the brake on the incessant logic check, and have put my attention on growing my cognitive and mental empathy.
I've generally suceed in gaining more traction in the friendship and networking department, I've mostly able to use my quirkyness and witt to my advantage, when inside the conversation, I'm carefull and male sure to not over-extend myself in my social fluency, but instead relly on a good timing to insert a good and valid logical point in the matters at hand with an added joke or two, I find people appreciate this as long as the feedback doesn't go against their believe. When the time doesn't arise for me to make a point in the conversation I'd just mitigate it with making a quip here and there, if period of time pass when I can't insert my logical point in which I find there is a possible hint of awkwardness, I try to ask questions to the group/individual on a mutual topic that I was curious in and have a credible knowledge to inject my point.
Smoking increase my social energy, when no ciggarette is available I make sure to find some.
This has worked well, however I can't bring myself to act strategically when my intent is to gain a possible romantic partner of the opposite sex. I just think that there are too many unpredictable factors when trying to court the emotional side of girls, I don't know what they're cautious against, I don't know what kind of value they hold, when making a blunder in this sphere I'm mot sure what foot got stuck in the trap, they communicate in secret coded messages that's beyond my normal frequency. I think I'm just too carefull around them.
So I ask my ESTP friend to help me in this departmen, being well known in my circle as The Prince Charming; consumer of Virgins, he told me to act confidently and immidiately put attention to her needs and feelings, even when meeting her for the first time, always validate her emotions no matter what, use lying by ommission if you want to maintain your narrative, make use of your witt to control her emotions, etc etc. I found this rituals to be alien, silly, and somewhat unethical. I seem to have some instinct fot social fluency, but courting is very strange, its like learning a new language from nil.
But I guess I don't make the rule, do you guys think this is a good idea?
I've generally suceed in gaining more traction in the friendship and networking department, I've mostly able to use my quirkyness and witt to my advantage, when inside the conversation, I'm carefull and male sure to not over-extend myself in my social fluency, but instead relly on a good timing to insert a good and valid logical point in the matters at hand with an added joke or two, I find people appreciate this as long as the feedback doesn't go against their believe. When the time doesn't arise for me to make a point in the conversation I'd just mitigate it with making a quip here and there, if period of time pass when I can't insert my logical point in which I find there is a possible hint of awkwardness, I try to ask questions to the group/individual on a mutual topic that I was curious in and have a credible knowledge to inject my point.
Smoking increase my social energy, when no ciggarette is available I make sure to find some.
This has worked well, however I can't bring myself to act strategically when my intent is to gain a possible romantic partner of the opposite sex. I just think that there are too many unpredictable factors when trying to court the emotional side of girls, I don't know what they're cautious against, I don't know what kind of value they hold, when making a blunder in this sphere I'm mot sure what foot got stuck in the trap, they communicate in secret coded messages that's beyond my normal frequency. I think I'm just too carefull around them.
So I ask my ESTP friend to help me in this departmen, being well known in my circle as The Prince Charming; consumer of Virgins, he told me to act confidently and immidiately put attention to her needs and feelings, even when meeting her for the first time, always validate her emotions no matter what, use lying by ommission if you want to maintain your narrative, make use of your witt to control her emotions, etc etc. I found this rituals to be alien, silly, and somewhat unethical. I seem to have some instinct fot social fluency, but courting is very strange, its like learning a new language from nil.
But I guess I don't make the rule, do you guys think this is a good idea?
