I get the definitions by googling "define _____" and posting the first thing that fits the structure of my post. I'm not using it as a definitive authority, just as a loose point of reference. So long as we're using terms to mean the same thing then I'm happy.
Oh ok. Just try to be careful working with definitions that are dependent on the definition of gender since we're using our own and the lay definition doesn't (can't) match the claims made about it.
Spectrum is variance in balance between the two. The point being that we are all capable of both sides.
Hmmm I might not have been specific enough about this. When I said "binary, gradient, or spectrum" I meant:
Binary: Gender includes males and females and that is it
Gradient: Gender includes males and females and everything in between
Spectrum: Gender includes males and females and varying aspects of everything in between and all sorts of open-ended potentials [insert stock image of helicopter here].
I am talking about gender as if it's the full spectrum of colour. I think you're talking about it like a colour gradient:
Ah, ok. In that case yes I mean gradient. (I had been thinking of gradient as a finite series of graduated points between masculinity and femininity)
The reason I'm not going for spectrum is because people can't cognitively emulate attack helicopters (I know, counter-intuitive, but hear me out). Because helicopters have no cognition (that we know of). And when it comes to emulating other human things, say, being a programmer, or introverted, etc., what we're talking about clearly isn't gender anymore, but personality and aspirations. Gender is not fixed to sex, but it is certainly a related thing. The masculine and feminine ideals arise from biological needs for someone to play those roles in the game of survival. Thus the archetypes exist within ourselves and are the products of biology, whereas other ideals are either constructed externally or not related to biological roles. So gender is defined not as any ideal you aspire to, but your aspirations in relation to the sex-originating and sex-typical, but not sex-fixed roles of humans.
When you talk about self-conflicting definitions of gender, I'm a little bit confused. Can you explain it to me like I'm five? I think I'm missing something. I'm also confused about your take on the 'alignment' part of that definition.
Ok, here goes:
*ahem*
"Wow, that's a big question! Basically, — wait, hold on, are your parents here? Kid, are you lost? What's your name? Do you know where your mom and dad are?"
Sorry, I couldn't resist.
Anyway, I think the clearest way to explain this is in relation to the idea you mention below of "gender affirmation" surgery. The implications are clear just by the name: Gender is supposedly not fixed to sex, and should not be considered so, yet here we see the claimed need to "affirm" gender by (trying/pretending to) make sex "match".
This is called "alignment" between sex and gender. But if the two are not tied and thus should not be thought of as so, there is no "alignment", no "matching", no "affirmation", because your gender cannot be "out of line" with your sex if gender can go either way without making you more or less of a man or woman (sex wise).
If there is no "correct" gender identity to have based on your sex, there is no "misalignment". Misalignment is not possible, since the two factors aren't required to match in any specific way.
And again, the idea that one's sex and gender should "match" is precisely the prejudice we're trying to do away with. The argument about gender identity has essentially devolved to one side refusing to acknowledge the change in the definition of gender and disagreeing based on issues that come up when the old definition of gender is applied to arguments made using the new definition, and the other side, rather than recognizing this mistake, defend themselves by trying to escape from what they think is a logical prison (but isn't bc its a logical fallacy of equivocation on the part of the other side) by denying logic itself.
In short, logic left the scene early on, and has yet to return to clean up this dumpster fire of a societal debate. I guess that's what we're trying to do here.
Well, there's no way I'd have explained things that way to a 5 year-old, but hopefully that's clear nonetheless
Are you saying that gender affirmation surgery implictly assumes that sex organs are definitive of gender by trying to align sex organs with gender?
By the fact that it's called "gender affirmation" surgery while its purpose is to create the illusion of a change of sex, it necessarily implies the belief that gender is tied to sex by claiming the need to "affirm" atypical gender identification by pretending to change sex to "match".
Again, this is the attitude that is supposedly being fought against, and thus part of the contradiction in the definition of gender.
If this is the case, how do you explain people that are born with and retain their male sex organs all throughout life, but identify and present as a woman?
If we're still talking about identifying gender female and not sex-female, what's there to explain? They don't have a prejudice against themselves. Great.
If they claim biological identification with the opposite sex, thats another issue. You don't get to choose or change your sex, and
se la vie — that's life.
I agree reducing prejudice will reduce gender dysphoria. People want to feel supported and like they are treated fairly.
Right, of course.
My specific point though is that gender dysphoria is based in prejudice against atypical gender identity, and should thus be treated as such, the main solutions for dealing with prejudice being to try and remove the prejudice, not indulge it with illusion.