Flirting

[joal0503]

You know, I understand the passivity. I used to have a female friend who would literally dance naked on me in attempt to seduce me... the entire time I thought we were just playing sexy games, I was oblivious to the fact she wanted more than just sexy-friend. I'm now older, more experienced, and far less naive, and I look back on that wishing I could take advantage of the situation with my now-brain. She was wrapped around my finger and I never even realized it until she had given up.

The young will make their mistakes. How better to learn?

i fell in love with a stripper too man.

for me its the opposite. ill realize something (such as a naked dancing chick wanting my nuts), and then become immobilized by the terror induced by thinking about the inevitable fallout, drama that is associated with human relationships. sometimes i feel like its indoctrination keeping me back, other times it feels like a genuine survival trait or something. all the time, im confused.

 

[ObliviousGenius]

Never used to understand flirting until I was constantly put in awkward situations where I failed and learned that way. Like most of my other extroverted traits, it's mostly just learned behavior. Now it's just natural to me and I've turned into a huge flirt. I've accumulated a big knowledge base about women and extroverted social scenarios such as flirting. Now I'm just applying that knowledge, and I feel much more confident beforehand when I can analyze the situation based on my experience. Practice makes perfect. Except that the practice is the most painstaking and energy draining experience you'll ever have. It's worth it now though because I enjoy more extroverted situations more often than not now.
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[7even]

Yep. I used to be shy as hell, but through analysis one would come to realize that females are rather simple organisms within the kingdom of Animalia - and sexual attraction can be provoked by a multitude of factors e.g. scent, anatomy, intelligence etc. Feedback is relatively simple, and the system is quite predictable.

Anywho. When I flirt I go through the following:
First the non-verbal - Eye contact, a slight grin, perfume (optional), and a mysterious/borderline evil/sexual/alpha male gaze.

Personally, feedback from the female is usually suffice, unless I'm particularly interested or bored, I would never bother with the more complicated verbal communication. I find non-verbal 'flirting' to be quite fun and simple.

Now when communication comes in, I tend to be intentionally eccentric and playful in my approach, I also keep my words to a minimum and try to incorporate wit. Sometimes this can lead to communication being awkward depending on the female, but with the right body language and demeanor, the awkwardness is easily transferred into being comical.