Finally a forum where my intro is more than Hey!

[straff]

Well it's the first forum I've found where actually I can be my normal self and everyone else gets me (well I hope so..)!

So I'm a 35 year old male from Auckland NZ, by way of the UK.

I've always not quite fitted in, I have few close friends, I don't initiate contact with them though. I think I scare people, I have to try to not zone out when talking to people and just can't abide small talk!

I've been married and can see how it failed. My relationships tend to fail and I get called cold and emotionally absent.. Kinda makes sense now

How did I discover I was an INTP? Well I didn't deal well with being single and decided to discover what it is about me that's so wrong.

Apparently I'm a good looking guy, I have no problem getting women but I can't be bothered a lot of the time, just too much grief and apparently I'm aloof and self absorbed (nodding yet?).

Reddit has been my friend, it led me to here yesterday. I have never done a MB test but after reading r/introvert, it led me to an online test and consequently here.

Lurked yesterday and today at work through the forum and yes I'm one

I've been a cop, now I'm a Business Analyst, roles where I can see how my personality has been useful. I'm looking to progress and my dream job would be strategic management (well world domination otherwise - insert Pinky & the Brain picture here ).

The reason I'm hanging round is this is a place where I'll be understood and enjoy the same things without false interactions (i.e. the crap) that we normally go through to interact IRL.

So hey, I'm Straff and I'm glad I found you all

 

[Tony3d]

Being around other people that don't fit in doesn't mean you will fit in any better... We are all just here not fitting in with each other. That is just how we roll.

 

[straff]

I agree, but it makes me feel better and if I learn something from it, then it's been a worthwhile experience.

 

[Hadoblado]

Welcome to the forum!

There is some fitting in with each other, but it's far from mandatory

Enjoy your stay!

 

[koan]

It's really not you that's the problem, it's the other 96%
Scaring people isn't all that bad as long as you get your basic needs met. Just try not to look too long term until you find someone who is willing to accept you 'as is' for longer than a year. And learn to hug for at least 2 minutes in duration.

 

[snafupants]

Being around other people that don't fit in doesn't mean you will fit in any better.

For the most part I disagree because folks here have similar and relatable oddities. I'd liken it to goth kids who happen to enjoy the same stygian music - there's some solidarity in their collective counterculturist tendencies.

 

[catatonic]

Hello there, welcome.

So, you want to be Pinky or Brain?

 

[Tony3d]

For the most part I disagree because folks here have similar and relatable oddities. I'd liken it to goth kids who happen to enjoy the same stygian music - there's some solidarity in their collective counterculturist tendencies.

I sat with the other anit-social losers at lunch, and still didn't fit in...

But maybe that is just me.




There is no place I can call home.

 

[snafupants]

I sat with the other anit-social losers at lunch, and still didn't fit in...

But maybe that is just me.




There is no place I can call home.

All right, but I said folks here not folks there.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

There is no place I can call home.

"Home is not a place, it's a state of mind"

 

[Tony3d]

"Home is not a place, it's a state of mind"

Exactly what I meant. I have a physical place that I can call home, but there is not place where I have a mindset of being home.

 

[straff]

Hello there, welcome.

So, you want to be Pinky or Brain?

Normally Brain, I have my Pinky moments tho

I feel like I'm going to fit right in haha