Facebook

[NoID10ts]

Do any of you use Facebook?

I was trying to locate an old friend who went awol on the whole Jesus thing, just like me, and I found this entry on facebook that I thought might be him. In order to look at the profile I had to sign up for my own account.

Well it wasn't him, and now I am getting a shitload of people from my past contacting me through this damn thing. I want my past to stay there. I've whacked the queen mother of all bees nests here. These people are crawling out of the woodwork. I can't believe this many people actually gave a damn about me enough to want to talk after all these years!

I don't even know who the hell they all are! One guy says he was in marine biology with me in high school, and that I introduced him to the group "The Cure". Is that a reason to make contact? Its not like I saved you from a burning building!

The one really good contact I made was a very close friend from college who I haven't spoken to in probably 13 years. But he gives me the news that two of his six kids were killed in a house fire a few months back. What do I say to that? This is devastating.

I wasn't prepared for this kind of social onslaught.

Any one else experience this monstrosity?

I don't want to be a dick to these people but with the exception of a few, I mainly just want to be left alone.

I'm freakin out man!!!!!

 

[Agent Intellect]

i've never had any desire to make a facebook or myspace. i think i stayed under the radar enough during school that i wouldn't get too many people contacting me, anyway. i'm not really sure how it works, but couldn't you just contact the people on it that you want to and ignore the rest?

 

[NoID10ts]

Yeah. I just wasn't prepared for this. Will it seem cold of me to just suddenly deactivate the thing? I just can't keep up with it all. Hell, intpforum is the only internet contact I have. I don't even actively use any other forums but this one. It would just be too much.

 

[Agent Intellect]

maybe it would be cold, but think about it this way: would you rather some people you haven't talked to in a while think you're cold, or would you rather have to uphold social contact with all of them (possibly resulting in you withdrawing or apathetic and being "cold" anyway)?

 

[NoID10ts]

That's true. What the hell was I thinking when I signed up for that?

 

[flow]

Woah don't delete the account, just respond to things at your own pace. If you don't know what to say, don't reply!

 

[fullerene]

ooh yah, I hate that thing. I got one of those cause people in my high school started organizing stuff using it, and I either wouldn't get the invitation or else they would have had to go through extra effort to let me know... so to make it easier I just made one.

I deactivated it probly about a month or so ago, though (I'm not sure if you even can delete it, just deactivate it... but I'm not sure if anyone else gets notice of its deactivation). Facebook is... basically the epitome of half-acquaintences. Actually now that I think about it, I'm wondering whether or not I get a little sketched out about striking up friendships on forums just because of facebook. It just sort of holds people together in contact when they're not actually good enough friends to keep in real touch. I've also heard it can get really, really addicting... but I didn't care much what was going on in everyone else's lives to check more than every week or two to make sure I wasn't just ignoring people who were actually trying to get in touch.

...overall I don't like it really at all. You may still get some encouragement out of it, though, if people from your past (like the marine bio guy) are trying to get in touch, and it could boost your spirits a little to hear from the people you'd touched throughout your life. I think it could go one way or the other... but for me it was more just unnecessary than anything else.

 

[Ogion]

I don't have an account, though i did have an account at a similar thing in Germany (StudiVZ "directory of students", mine, bad translation) which serves studfents at universities to be in contact. I deleted my account a while ago as they started to insert ads and had some problems with privacy security (well, they pretty much were an open book at one point). I never really used that, cause the persons i wanted to have contact with i just mailed or instantmessaged.
So you could let your account open, with pretty much no information in it. Just as a means for someone to contact you, with whom you had no contact before. And then you can decide wether or not to return the contact. Else you just leave the contact-attempt lying around unanswered (and them, seeing your accoutn being pretty underused and empty will think after a while, that you just don't use it, don't know oof their contact attempt).
How does that sound?

Ogion

 

[eudemonia]

J'accuse, NoI

You can't possibly be an INTP whilst being sooooo popular. I've always thought you a bit peculiar. Now I know why - you're an ESFP in disguise, leading us astray with your wit and badinage, wrecking our deep discussions with play and derailing our threads when they get too near the Truth.

I've got a Facebook account with a handful of people most of whom are my kids' friends. No-one loves me and that's exactly how it should be if you are a bona fide INTP. Being liked, being popular is highly suspicious and don't pretend you don't love all these people flocking to be your friend - you are revelling in it

So come on, fess up, you can 'come out', we won't get mad. You can be our pet ESFP - you can entertain us and we can teach you a few things about Beauty and Truth (it won't hurt). The quicker you own up, the less painful it will be.....

 

[loveofreason]

If we all adopted him would we take turns grooming him and clipping his nails, cleaning up the poo and all that stuff?

What kind of bedding does he like? Will he eat lettuce leaves? Will he walk on a leash? Does he need worming and a flea collar?

What if he sheds on the furniture and scratches up the carpet? What if he bites some visiting child?

What about rabies!?


Really, can you fake your death on facebook? Just put up a message signed from the family "Sorry but NoI has died, please respect our privacy during this time of sadness"

 

[Agent Intellect]

Really, can you fake your death on facebook? Just put up a message signed from the family "Sorry but NoI has died, please respect our privacy during this time of sadness"

i've seriously considered doing that to get out of things before... oh shit, now i don't have my safety net if i want to fake my own death here and escape the madness!

 

[NoID10ts]

Well, Nia has an ass kicking coming for these insults! And you can keep me as a pet, but be warned. I bite the hand that feeds me. You extend a piece of lettuce, but draw back a bloody stump.

<------ This guy knows what I'm talking about. I bit off everything from the neck down when he tried to give me a bag of chips and a soda.




By normal peoples standards it's probably not that many people, but for me, its a lot. I'm not even sure I know them all. I went to a huge high school, about 3,500 at that time, so if they see I graduated at the same time they might just add me for the hell of it. I don't know. Many of them were people I knew in college, but I was never close friends with them. I guess they just want to reach out to familiar names. I went to a very tiny college, (curiously, also about 3,500 students).

cryptonia, are you saying that even if I deactivate it, the info will still be there? That sucks. I think I've joined a cult here. These fuckers are going to pull a Jonestown and poison my ass, I just know it.

 

[NoID10ts]

Dear Sirs and Madams of INTP forum,

We regret to inform you that your beloved NoID10ts has died. His middle aged life was snuffed from him while he tried to rescue a young child from the grips of a lion at the city zoo. The child is ok. NoID10ts, however, was consumed, in his entirety, by the lion.

There will be no memorial service, because, frankly, as members of his family, we are glad he is dead. He was a real bastard, and his last heroic deed was almost certainly self serving in some way because selflessness would have been out of character for him.

Needless, to say, any posts made by him from here on out are fraudulent, but should be much more pleasant to read.

Good day,
The slightly relieved family of NoID10ts, may he rot in hell.

 

[eudemonia]

I've just had a phone call from NoID10ts family. They wish to say that any posts allegedly coming from them are fraudulent. They wish to announce the following:

We are totally distraught at his death. We always loved him. We didn't understand what was happening to him at the end and we were confused, scared and angry. We didn't treat him well, we ignored his pain. We should have listened to him but we couldn't - we don't know why but we just couldn't. We hope he forgives us. Wherever he may be.



(sorry NoI - I couldn't resist - I know its none of my business but....... )

 

[Ogion]

No, damnit, you didn't wait till you had 1000 posts

I don't think i want to know what you will do () with the poor demons in hell...



Ogion

 

[fullerene]

cryptonia, are you saying that even if I deactivate it, the info will still be there? That sucks. I think I've joined a cult here. These fuckers are going to pull a Jonestown and poison my ass, I just know it.

um... I suspect it is, because shortly after I deactivated it I needed to go back and to get a copy of a picture that's nowhere else anymore. It let me back in, after sending an email confirming that I wanted to reactivate it, and everything was still there. Of course I can't tell whether or not my profile still exists while deactivated, or if it gets removed, because I can't get on it and have no way of checking.

 

[Jennywocky]

Woah don't delete the account, just respond to things at your own pace. If you don't know what to say, don't reply!

Yeah, just blow them off.

I figure I owe no response to any yokel in the world just because they found my e-mail/online address and sent me junk.

Boundaries, baby! Make some!

I've just had a phone call from NoID10ts family.

We are totally distraught at his death. We always loved him. We didn't understand what was happening to him at the end and we were confused, scared and angry. We didn't treat him well, we ignored his pain. We should have listened to him but we couldn't - we don't know why but we just couldn't. We hope he forgives us. Wherever he may be.

OMG, he's DEAD????????

Wait. *grump*

Don't DO that -- you KNOW most people read these threads backwards!!!!!

 

[EloquentBohemian]

Really, can you fake your death on facebook? Just put up a message signed from the family "Sorry but NoI has died, please respect our privacy during this time of sadness"

I, personally, would never consider this as fact. If you, NoID10ts, sir, ever departed this plane of existence, you would transmigrate to another plane where you could assume the form of a great Cosmic Monkey mooning and flinging poo at this world below.

 

[fullerene]

dammnit NoID10ts, I knew you were somehow to blame from that poo flinging earlier!

*shakes fist towards the sky*

 

[NoID10ts]

So this is how you view dead NoID10ts? A shit throwing monkey in the sky? You never know what people really think about you until your dead. And then there isn't much point in knowing, now is there?

But really.

A shit throwing monkey in the sky?


I would urinate too.

 

[Jesin]

you KNOW most people read these threads backwards!!!!!

How do you know? Did you do a survey?

I usually read threads forwards.

 

[NoID10ts]

OMG, he's DEAD????????

Is this happy shock or sad shock?

It could be like "OMG, he's Dead??????? What are we waiting for, where's the party?"

-Or-

It could be "OMG, he's DEAD??????? But I never got to tell him how much he meant to me........." *runs away crying*


Just remember, I was always nice to you, Jennywocky (I think). And this is my 999th post so that must mean something.

 

[EloquentBohemian]

So this is how you view dead NoID10ts? A shit throwing monkey in the sky? You never know what people really think about you until your dead. And then there isn't much point in knowing, now is there?

But really.

A shit throwing monkey in the sky?


I would urinate too.

Okay, possibly more like this, then?

 

[Jesin]

this is my 999th post

Saving your 1000th post for something special?

(Of course, 1024 is more important than 1000.)

 

[Ermine]

I've got a facebook, just for keeping in touch with old friends, and I often have the problem of too many friend requests too. For whatever reason, people think they need to add everyone that they know exists. I just add those who are actually my friends, so everyone keeps bugging me with friend suggestions as if I'm friend deprived.

 

[NoID10ts]

Okay, possibly more like this, then?

Precisely, only blue.

 

[Ogion]

I think such social networks, especially the "Friends list"-feature, bring about a different perspective of the term "friend". In real life you'd call a person friend, if you are somewhat close and know each other. But "friend" in a social network website means really just aquaintance, someone you know, someone you have some sort of reason to say "I know that person, look."

I have some persons from my old university, which are not really my friends in my 'buddy list' or whatever in an instant messenger. And everytime i see them online i think: I really do not need them in my list, but how will it look if i delete them from there? It is stupid, i mean, i have nothing to do with them anymore, and i didn't chat with them in months, so it should be no difference, if they are on the list or not. But still i think it to be impolite to just delete them from my list...I figure that is something similar. If you get a "friend request" (actually i find that phrasing quite strange, not to say disgusting) at such a social website from someone you met once, like in a course in university, when you accept, it does not mean much. It probably will just be a passive/nominal connection. But if you refuse, what will that imply, or seem to imply? That seems to be very rude. So you don't.

Ogion

 

[NoID10ts]

^ exactly ^

 

[bdubs]

I made a facebook last summer because I wanted to have some way to keep in touch with my highschool class since we all graduated the year before. I agree that the word friend is used a little loosely on that website. However, I have found that I only really check for the updates in my closest friends profiles anyway, and the only people who use the chat feature to talk to me were people who would have talked to me anyway.

I have seen my roommates get quite addicted to the site. They tend to use it as a way of meeting new people. I feel odd talking to someone I do not personaly know over the phone let alone over the net, so I have never tried this. It seems to me that Facebook is what you make of it. It can be a valuable tool to keep up with your friends or it could be something more sinister.

A few months ago a teacher from my highschool that everyone respected a great deal died very suddenly. In response a facebook group was formed where we wrote down some of his most memorable quotes. I found it fitting because he seemed to condense many of lifes morals into clever one-liners, and has been known for this trait for many years.

 

[nooli4]

Thank God! This thread has reassured me that I'm not the only one I know who doesn't use facebook and also does not like the concept. I'll certainly keep this in mind the next time someone asks me "Why don't you just get facebook?" However the problem with not having facebook is that other people can upload photos of you and you won't even know... Well, at least that's happened to me.

 

[Jennywocky]

How do you know? Did you do a survey?
I usually read threads forwards.

So much for my appeal to "authority".
I can't argue with an admin. *weak smile*

Is this happy shock or sad shock?
It could be like "OMG, he's Dead??????? What are we waiting for, where's the party?"

-Or-

It could be "OMG, he's DEAD??????? But I never got to tell him how much he meant to me........." *runs away crying*

AS long as neither response involves money (of which I seem to be out at the moment), I suppose it is up for grabs.

Which would you want it to be?

Just remember, I was always nice to you, Jennywocky (I think).

Should I answer, "I'll never let go, NoID10ts. I'll never let go"?

-or-

"BWA HA HA, and that shall be your undoing, highlander!"

Sigh. Too many options.

And this is my 999th post so that must mean something.

I am SO sure it does.
I just have no idea what.


... WAIT. NoID10ts!!!

You're ALIVE!!!

Now you still have time to repent, like me.

****

I used to try to reserve my MySpace "friends" group for actual friends.

Now I just use it to build up numbers so I can do better at the games.

It's a light social network.
I try to not read much into it at all anymore.

 

[Decaf]

<shrug> I find it useful, if sometimes annoying. Its nice to hear from folk that I would otherwise not be friends with (more because neither of us is inclined to spark up a conversation for no reason than lack of interest). I agree that its annoying having at least half my friend's list full of people I have no interest in talking to, but I still go through and remove people once I feel like there's no reason for them to realize I'm no on their list anymore.

That being said, for those of you brave enough to engage in these superficial games, here's me.

 

[loveofreason]

You're quite the social butterfly, but it shall not work! You shall lure none of us from our anonymity!

So has NoID10ts asked to be your friend yet?

 

[Gorgrim]

tempting! --- Decaf your profile picture reminds me of a physics teacher at my school who's a really intriuing guy, think he's intp.... hmm. not many intp's around in high school it seems.

i have a facebook. It's a great tool in theory. I don't use it much though, it's good for checking on people you actually care about, downside is the wrong people adding you, and things beeing too public, imo. Such as information ( as mentioned before ) beeing put out there from your profiles...


it takes abit of mystique out of people if you reveal everything on a F-book too. And i despise the hype of people judging people's coolness and looks by their facebook, like social status, which ofcourse, is quite useless to me.

Again, i have a couple friends that i check on, which makes it interesting. I tend to like messenger as means of chatting online =)

@ Ogion, i have people on messenger I talk to once a year. Funny how neither cares about removing eachother.

 

[Chronomar]

Ha. Facebook. I have/had one of those, until people from my school who I either didn't know, didn't want to know, or knew and disliked tried to be my friend. I panicked, ran away, and never came back.

I did have quite a facebook collection of virtural buttons going there until I disactivated it. They had lots of doctor who ones.