Chewy
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[If I've posted this in the wrong place, accept my sincere apologies in advance!]
How goes it, everyone? I'm sort of an unknown member here as I don't go on this forum very often, but I hope that some of you can give me some thoughts or words of advice on what I'm going through. Of course, being an INTP myself, I'd love to get some opinions or ideas from fellow INTPs. However, advice from anyone is greatly appreciated.
I've lived in a city called Adelaide, here in Australia, for about 22 years. I've lived in Sydney and the Gold Coast here too, but as mentioned above, I've lived most of my life so far in Adelaide; I pretty much grew up here.
I've always considered this place to be incredibly dull, but I always used to say to myself, "You'll get used to it." I haven't gotten used to it, I never have, but the issue is much more than that now. I've realised that I hate it. There's this prejudiced, elitist, conformist and somewhat racist undertone in this city that I absolutely f****** hate, and I'm not the only person here with this belief. In a city of 1 million inhabitants that seems to still be stuck in the 90s and that is cold and deceitfully aggressive towards anything new, this abovementioned multi-dimensional undertone infects the overwhelming majority. You can 'refuse and resist', but I've become mentally drained from doing that for so long. There are too few here of what I consider to be my kind of people -- open-minded, unassuming, genuine and cultured people, whether introverted and down-to-earth or outgoing and exuberant. I have two friends here, but they don't see things as I do (they are more like old acquaintances). Most of the few friends that I have are from other parts of the globe.
I very, very rarely get depressed, but the last couple of weeks have been hell. The worst has come at night, when I realise that I can't sleep; it's hard to explain, but I feel like I'm short of breath and suffocating. My mum passed away in 2008, in her mid 50s, and I felt broken; this may sound bad, but as terrible as I felt then, I think that I may actually feel worse now. When I reflect on my time here, I can confidently say that this city has been one long nightmare for me. I want out.
I have been studying my options to get out of here (out of this city as well as the country), which is something that I'll continue to do for the remainder of the year. For a couple of months now, I've felt like I want and need a totally fresh start in what I guess is the next, emerging phase of my life. In some ways, I am fortunate that I hold two internationally recognised degrees from well respected Australian universities -- I have a BA in Social Work and an MA in Teaching (In addition, I've done courses in sociology and logic, and I've also worked as a tutor for 1 year). I have looked at moving to the US for work (in teaching) for 1-2 years, and then see how I go from there.
I'm realistic about this, and I know that I'd need to remain here for another 12-18 months to work and save in order to make the transition; the thought of leaving this hell hole, I am sure, would be the only thing keeping me motivated.
When I mentioned moving to the US, I meant somewhere in California. I spent time in LA and San Francisco a year ago, and I was surprised at the positive vibes that I got from both cities, even though the latter seemed to be more accessible and liveable, at least in my view. I loved the cultural diversity of both cities. I guess that my experiences were enjoyable because I kept an open mind about both places, especially LA. Of course, I'd be willing to move to other parts of California as well; no problems there.
As you can probably tell from what I've disclosed so far, at this stage, I only have preliminary and fairly open-ended ideas. I don't want to get too far ahead of myself; like I said, I've prepared to give myself 12-18 months (24 if necessary) to save up and plan sensibly before making any decisions.
I guess some questions that I'd have for you guys would be:
- Have you ever wanted so badly to get out of your city/town/state to work and live elsewhere? If so, did you ever make a planned transition and was it worth it?
- If so, how did you research and plan your move?
- Are there any recommendations that you think you could give me (e.g. about important things to look into in the next 12-18 months)?
How goes it, everyone? I'm sort of an unknown member here as I don't go on this forum very often, but I hope that some of you can give me some thoughts or words of advice on what I'm going through. Of course, being an INTP myself, I'd love to get some opinions or ideas from fellow INTPs. However, advice from anyone is greatly appreciated.
I've lived in a city called Adelaide, here in Australia, for about 22 years. I've lived in Sydney and the Gold Coast here too, but as mentioned above, I've lived most of my life so far in Adelaide; I pretty much grew up here.
I've always considered this place to be incredibly dull, but I always used to say to myself, "You'll get used to it." I haven't gotten used to it, I never have, but the issue is much more than that now. I've realised that I hate it. There's this prejudiced, elitist, conformist and somewhat racist undertone in this city that I absolutely f****** hate, and I'm not the only person here with this belief. In a city of 1 million inhabitants that seems to still be stuck in the 90s and that is cold and deceitfully aggressive towards anything new, this abovementioned multi-dimensional undertone infects the overwhelming majority. You can 'refuse and resist', but I've become mentally drained from doing that for so long. There are too few here of what I consider to be my kind of people -- open-minded, unassuming, genuine and cultured people, whether introverted and down-to-earth or outgoing and exuberant. I have two friends here, but they don't see things as I do (they are more like old acquaintances). Most of the few friends that I have are from other parts of the globe.
I very, very rarely get depressed, but the last couple of weeks have been hell. The worst has come at night, when I realise that I can't sleep; it's hard to explain, but I feel like I'm short of breath and suffocating. My mum passed away in 2008, in her mid 50s, and I felt broken; this may sound bad, but as terrible as I felt then, I think that I may actually feel worse now. When I reflect on my time here, I can confidently say that this city has been one long nightmare for me. I want out.
I have been studying my options to get out of here (out of this city as well as the country), which is something that I'll continue to do for the remainder of the year. For a couple of months now, I've felt like I want and need a totally fresh start in what I guess is the next, emerging phase of my life. In some ways, I am fortunate that I hold two internationally recognised degrees from well respected Australian universities -- I have a BA in Social Work and an MA in Teaching (In addition, I've done courses in sociology and logic, and I've also worked as a tutor for 1 year). I have looked at moving to the US for work (in teaching) for 1-2 years, and then see how I go from there.
I'm realistic about this, and I know that I'd need to remain here for another 12-18 months to work and save in order to make the transition; the thought of leaving this hell hole, I am sure, would be the only thing keeping me motivated.
When I mentioned moving to the US, I meant somewhere in California. I spent time in LA and San Francisco a year ago, and I was surprised at the positive vibes that I got from both cities, even though the latter seemed to be more accessible and liveable, at least in my view. I loved the cultural diversity of both cities. I guess that my experiences were enjoyable because I kept an open mind about both places, especially LA. Of course, I'd be willing to move to other parts of California as well; no problems there.
As you can probably tell from what I've disclosed so far, at this stage, I only have preliminary and fairly open-ended ideas. I don't want to get too far ahead of myself; like I said, I've prepared to give myself 12-18 months (24 if necessary) to save up and plan sensibly before making any decisions.
I guess some questions that I'd have for you guys would be:
- Have you ever wanted so badly to get out of your city/town/state to work and live elsewhere? If so, did you ever make a planned transition and was it worth it?
- If so, how did you research and plan your move?
- Are there any recommendations that you think you could give me (e.g. about important things to look into in the next 12-18 months)?
